daniellasugar Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Here's the deal: We've been together for more than four months. We started noticing each other and talking at work four months before we started (Around end of June last year). He confessed to me a month after we met, but I rejected him because I didn't really know him that well yet. After a few months he asked me to be his gf again, this time I agreed because he turned out to be quite sweet and caring. I knew about his ex through mutual friends before I accepted him. I didn't think much because I was quite sure they'd broken up since he never mentioned her. Our relationship is a good one, I didn't really suspect anything. As far as I know he doesn't contact her much, but then I realized that I didn't know. I heard how when they were together he would give her all his email, social sites and even phone passwords. But he never told me any password. So I have no idea. I tried asking him, but he closed up whenever I asked and just told me they already broke up. I heard from his best friends that she was at the same workplace before, but left on assignment for two years (she's coming back this year end). They were in a LDR at first last year but the daily night calls wore him out because he started having insomnia, his work performance dropped, his parents started arguing and he's tired all the time. According to them, he loved her so much that he didn't tell her about this. And he got really "confused in his head". And then he fell for me because we spent a lot of time working together, etc. His best friend told me he didn't break up with her the whole time he was chasing me, until I accepted him. Then she found out, got hurt and broke up with him, even though she still loves him. I got tired of his constant avoidance about the topic so I asked the best friend to ask him discreetly, and he admitted that they still keep contact (texting every few days), probably still flirting, and he's not really over her, but he loves me for myself too and he didn't give me up even when she threatened to break up with him when she found out about us. Yesterday she came to our workplace after work all of a sudden. He wasn't surprised, I guess she had told him. He was talking with me and some friends when she came, then she stood in a corner waiting. After a while she walked past me and talked to him, I couldn't hear anything but after that he told me he has something to do and asked me not to wait, then sort of followed her out. When I asked him he said nothing happened but I had a feeling that he's avoiding. I also found out in a way that he's still physically attracted to her. Please help give me opinions. He's not really a jerk, he feels things deeply. He does care about me, he even gets jealous about my guy friends. I know he loves me, but does he still love her? Will he get back with her when she comes back? In this situation, which of us stands a better chance of having a long-term relationship with him? I want truths and unbiased opinions, even if it may hurt. Thanks.
Author daniellasugar Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Sorry, should be suspect him of still in love with ex, need some fresh opinions.
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