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caseinpoint Established Member

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Some people in my office are starting to suspect that this guy and I have something going on. Even though we don't.

 

We get along like a ball of fire because we have the same working styles and the same wavelength.

 

I'm starting to wonder if I'm beginning to like him after knowing what people are saying. But I doubt he feels anything like that about me.

 

My question is really whether it's possible for outsiders to "see" things that the actual people in the situation don't? That there's really something between us that we're oblivious towards because it's so natural for us since we get along so well?

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No. You'd definitely feel it first.

They'd just be confirming what you already know.

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No. You'd definitely feel it first.

They'd just be confirming what you already know.

 

But I don't feel anything going on between us.

 

So what is it that they're suspecting or confirming? Sorry I don't quite get you.

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IF you felt anything at all for this guy, you would definitely feel it first, no?

So they would just be confirming your feelings....

As you don't feel anything for the guy, no amount of suspicion is going to confirm anything.

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I noticed some chemistry between two friends of mine. When I brought it up to the female she denied having any feelings or thinking like that, but they did end up getting together a couple months later. I have no idea whether she was just being dishonest for some reason or genuinely didn't notice it.

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I noticed some chemistry between two friends of mine. When I brought it up to the female she denied having any feelings or thinking like that, but they did end up getting together a couple months later. I have no idea whether she was just being dishonest for some reason or genuinely didn't notice it.

 

I only started trying to notice if there was really anything between us after what I heard about colleagues talking.

 

Anyone else has been in similar experience to share?

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I'm sure if you had feelings for this person you wouldn't need confirmation from co-workers.. I haven't been in the same situation but I did have a cool female co-worker I'd take lunch with and I'm sure there were people in the office who probably thought we were Fking and we used to joke around saying we should walk into the office holding hands to make the douche bags gossip more :laugh:

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I made a new group of friends my freshman year of college and a few of the guys commented on my dynamic with one of the other guys. I dismissed them like "Oh no, I don't like him. There's nothing going on." Mere weeks later this guy and I were a full-blown couple and we dated for a few months. :laugh:

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I'm sure if you had feelings for this person you wouldn't need confirmation from co-workers.. I haven't been in the same situation but I did have a cool female co-worker I'd take lunch with and I'm sure there were people in the office who probably thought we were Fking and we used to joke around saying we should walk into the office holding hands to make the douche bags gossip more :laugh:

 

It's their talking that makes me start thinking about the coworker in a different way. Not that I'm suddenly liking him but it did make me more conscious of what he says or does and whether there's something I'm missing. And I'm beginning to be a little conscious of my behavior so I don't attract more unnecessary talk.

 

So you and the female coworker has no romantic feelings for each other? Just platonic?

 

I made a new group of friends my freshman year of college and a few of the guys commented on my dynamic with one of the other guys. I dismissed them like "Oh no, I don't like him. There's nothing going on." Mere weeks later this guy and I were a full-blown couple and we dated for a few months. :laugh:

 

When you dismissed them, you really didn't like the guy that way? What brought you together months later?

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One of my ex's was someone I worked with, her manager knew something was going on between her and me. It was like I saw her and thought she was hot and after a few weeks of talking asked her out and she said yes VERY quickly.

 

Her manager knew something about her and kept sending her to ask me questions.

kaylan Established Member

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Ever see "Office Space"?

 

Burn down your place of employment.

 

Problem solved.

 

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maybealone Established Member

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I once had a coworker ask me out, and I told him that I really thought he was already seeing another coworker of ours because they acted like a couple. They claimed they'd never thought about each other like that before, but then started dating. They've been married something like 15 years now.

 

I don't know how common it is, but there is a song about it.

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Perhaps the coworkers see some kind of chemistry between you.

When I was a teen, I had some neighbors that had a son. I thought he was a nerd, but for some reason, I was teased constantly about liking him. It was so bad that I started avoiding all of them.

 

By the time he did ask me out, I was so turned off by the teasing, I screeched NO!!!! and ran home. I still cringe when I think about him.

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Some people in my office are starting to suspect that this guy and I have something going on. Even though we don't.

 

We get along like a ball of fire because we have the same working styles and the same wavelength.

 

I'm starting to wonder if I'm beginning to like him after knowing what people are saying. But I doubt he feels anything like that about me.

 

My question is really whether it's possible for outsiders to "see" things that the actual people in the situation don't? That there's really something between us that we're oblivious towards because it's so natural for us since we get along so well?

Outsiders have no clue what you are feeling emotionally. My coworkers think that my closest co-worker and I are having an affair because we've been on the same side of town for 5 years and work closely together. We do a lot together on the job and off the job and recently she split with her husband due to issues they've been having. But she and I have never thought of one another as anything more than brother and sister. The fact that a male and female can get along and have fun together always leaves the gossips believing there has to be something more to the relationship. :mad:

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Perhaps the coworkers see some kind of chemistry between you.

When I was a teen, I had some neighbors that had a son. I thought he was a nerd, but for some reason, I was teased constantly about liking him. It was so bad that I started avoiding all of them.

 

By the time he did ask me out, I was so turned off by the teasing, I screeched NO!!!! and ran home. I still cringe when I think about him.

 

Geez, the guy never had a chance because of what the neighbors did to you. He's probably still suffering the repercussions of you yelling NOOOOOOO at him. :(

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People in the office like gossip, that's not something new...

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I guess I should just ignore all those people. Maybe the chemistry they see in us is only work chemistry.

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