rocketman122 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) Hello everyone Ive been on dating sites for about 5 months now. I was dating this girl and we broke up and I went back to the site and one specifically sent me a message. this was a few months ago. she's 51, im 40. I dont want to sound like a jerk but looks do matter to me. I dont look for the prettiest girls btw(too snobby and high maintenance sometimes) . Ive been doing bodybuilding seriously for 2 years straight and I dress very well and I look after myself. a bit of a metro sexual. Im the complete package (its always good to be modest HAHA). im impressive. Im tall (6'2" 210lbs), muscular, handsome, dress well, and have a great personality. I recently broke up with my other GF...again. been a month now. and this older woman is persistent and yesterday we went out as friends. yes, she was very much attracted to me. Im trying to be modest but I never went on a date when a woman didnt want to pursue the relationship. I went on too many dates already, but I decide and its almost always no. I have zero tolerance for games, they dont look like their photos, are either looking for a boy toy , dont know what they want, or are looking for something convenient. as well many of them seem disillusioned and think carrying out a relationship is done behind a screen, or are in love with the idea of dating but dont really want one (although they write something else). I want something 100% committed and fully on. with this one I feel im compromising. she's chubby and short. short is fine, but her weight makes her look bigger. not the body type I like-stocky. huge breasts and big arms and I like smaller ones(even flat chested girls mmm) and love girls with toothpick arms, although I have gone out with girls with some weight. she has a pretty face but her teeth has some black around the edges of some of her teeth and sorry to say it but also bad breath. for me hygiene is important (as I take care of myself) and its a turn off. another issue is thats she's dominant and seems a smidgen psycho HAHA. we went out as friends and we hit it off. we're both looking for the same things, but my intuition says no. Im not so attracted to her. I know it wont get better over time, I know myself. it has to be wow from the beginning. physical attraction has to be there right away. I think she's testing me because I came back to the dating site today and got someone with out a picture wanting to chat. I blocked the person but Im almost certain it was her because the "about me" was all the things im looking for. How can tell her no thank you. she has a great personality, except her overly dominant trait. she's a salesperson and those people have slick tongues. I want my lady to be more submissive/reserved, although im not so dominant myself like a dictator. Still im always the alpha otherwise I have to say no thank you. Edited March 24, 2012 by rocketman122
dasein Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Simply don't ask her out again. If she contacts you, don't ignore her contacts, but respond with something very brief, honest and polite that leaves no doubt that you aren't interested. "I enjoyed meeting you, but don't see continuing." If she persists, tell her you have to go now. The reservations you express aren't going to turn around IMO, so best not to waste any of your or her time.
Author rocketman122 Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Simply don't ask her out again. If she contacts you, don't ignore her contacts, but respond with something very brief, honest and polite that leaves no doubt that you aren't interested. "I enjoyed meeting you, but don't see continuing." If she persists, tell her you have to go now. The reservations you express aren't going to turn around IMO, so best not to waste any of your or her time. Bravo Dasein. thats what i'll do. Thank you. @QJ -yes, a bit. nothing wrong with that. I dont know if you do, but maybe you should also consider going to the gym. more men should do it. woman demand men start taking care of themselves and its what sets me apart from the average joe. woman love a man that is well groomed and is fit. it rings something inside them that you would be a good mating partner. Im certain there are woman who are turned off by that but I get my fair share of hits. much more than before I went to the gym. dont be jealous though, thats something people hate even more. 1
Nextlane Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 You are 51 for godsake, how hard is it to tell her no and ignore (unless you really haven't dated many women at all)? Your attitude sickens me, a 50 year old thinking he is in his mid-20s working the biceps and thinking he has a pool of women jumping all over him. 1
make me believe Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Wow so apparently when you hit 40 you are now ancient and have to settle for the first person who looks your way. Um, no. Rocketman, there is no reason for you to settle for somebody you aren't attracted to. I agree with dasein, just don't ask her out again and if she contacts you tell her you don't see a relationship progressing with her. Simple. The test you described probably was her, and it makes her sound SUPER psycho!! That alone is enough of a red flag. And combined with the fact that you have zero attraction for her.... this one is a no brainer. I didnt see anything in your OP about expecting women to be falling all over you, so I think quickjoe and nextlane are taking things a bit too far... sounds like you hit a sensitive spot with them...! But there's no reason a fit, well-dressed, well-groomed guy OR girl should have to settle for an overweight, unhygenic, potentially crazy person. 2
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Jealous? Of you? Surely you jest. Your ridiculous ideas on what you think women want are a glimpse into why you are single and relying on dating websites. Come back in a few years time and let me know how flexing your biceps is working for you in terms of finding your soul mate and the person you will want to spend the rest of your life with. Very ignorant. Women aren't into manboobs. Total agreement with Rocketman.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 Hello everyone Ive been on dating sites for about 5 months now. I was dating this girl and we broke up and I went back to the site and one specifically sent me a message. this was a few months ago. she's 51, im 40. I dont want to sound like a jerk but looks do matter to me. I dont look for the prettiest girls btw(too snobby and high maintenance sometimes) . Ive been doing bodybuilding seriously for 2 years straight and I dress very well and I look after myself. a bit of a metro sexual. Im the complete package (its always good to be modest HAHA). im impressive. Im tall (6'2" 210lbs), muscular, handsome, dress well, and have a great personality. I recently broke up with my other GF...again. been a month now. and this older woman is persistent and yesterday we went out as friends. yes, she was very much attracted to me. Im trying to be modest but I never went on a date when a woman didnt want to pursue the relationship. I went on too many dates already, but I decide and its almost always no. I have zero tolerance for games, they dont look like their photos, are either looking for a boy toy , dont know what they want, or are looking for something convenient. as well many of them seem disillusioned and think carrying out a relationship is done behind a screen, or are in love with the idea of dating but dont really want one (although they write something else). I want something 100% committed and fully on. with this one I feel im compromising. she's chubby and short. short is fine, but her weight makes her look bigger. not the body type I like-stocky. huge breasts and big arms and I like smaller ones(even flat chested girls mmm) and love girls with toothpick arms, although I have gone out with girls with some weight. she has a pretty face but her teeth has some black around the edges of some of her teeth and sorry to say it but also bad breath. for me hygiene is important (as I take care of myself) and its a turn off. another issue is thats she's dominant and seems a smidgen psycho HAHA. we went out as friends and we hit it off. we're both looking for the same things, but my intuition says no. Im not so attracted to her. I know it wont get better over time, I know myself. it has to be wow from the beginning. physical attraction has to be there right away. I think she's testing me because I came back to the dating site today and got someone with out a picture wanting to chat. I blocked the person but Im almost certain it was her because the "about me" was all the things im looking for. How can tell her no thank you. she has a great personality, except her overly dominant trait. she's a salesperson and those people have slick tongues. I want my lady to be more submissive/reserved, although im not so dominant myself like a dictator. Still im always the alpha otherwise I have to say no thank you.Hey, you like what you like. I prefer a hygienic, fit male myself. Just tell her the chemistry just isn't there. You need not settle.
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