thatguy6 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Hi everyone, I just want to introduce myself to the forum! I need some advice on my current dating situation; So i'm 23, recent college grad and working a full time (crap pay) but carer minded job. About a year ago I met the most beautiful women of my life (she is mid/late 30's). She is unlike any women I've ever met in my life. (She is a lawyer does extremely well for herself). She also has no kids and hasn't been married, focused on her career. My friends and family have accepted the fact that she is older than me (tough at first but they all love her) I have a few questions; I love her, she is my best friend we spend a lot of time together. We've discussed marriage (down the line) but we've been talking about me moving in with her, am I moving too fast? As well as moving in she has expressed she wants a family. (Financially we could raise a family). She said she would love kids within the next few years. I would love to have kids, and I think I would make a great father. Will I regret having kids at 24 25 years old? As well (if anyone has been in my same situation) Does a big age difference affect kids later in life? If anyone could chime in with some advice or if anyone is in a similar situation to me please chime in, Thanks!
FitChick Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Are you planning to be a stay at home dad/house husband? She sounds like the main breadwinner.
rocketman122 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Will I regret having kids at 24 25 years old? only you can answer that. its how you feel. if youre ready then go for it. Ive been on dates with ladies that make a whole lot more than I do and the first time I met someone like that I was very much intimidated. I know a lot of men say:" I dont care if she brings home the bacon" but when it comes down to it, most are not comfortable with that. its somewhat emasculating. although I dont think she should stay at home because of that. if she wants to work then great, we get a nanny.
ashleydavis Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 AGE IS A NUMBER AND DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. she is high position and less common than regular regular. if you can't control her or deprive other of anything, you are at disadvantage and she can easily find someone else. YOU WILL NOT GIVE YOU MUCH HEART and you will compete top keep her attention. she has too muich
Dust Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Well she'll owe you child suport if it doesn't work out and you do have kids lol. I mean that is if she really does make a lot of money. 1
KathyM Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I think if there's too much of an age gap, it creates a power imbalance in the relationship. Older women marrying much younger men may tend to dominate them and boss them around, and not give them the status as an intellectual or relationship equal. Same thing with younger women marrying much older men. The men tend to dominate and treat the women like a child or someone who should acquiesce to the man's higher level of life experience and knowledge. It creates a power imbalance in the relationship, and you will see that play out eventually if you go that route.
Author thatguy6 Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Thanks everyone i appreciate the input. i used to party all the time and hang out etc... Not we spend a lot of time together, after work and weekends. But she never has a problem with me hanging out with my friends and she even comes out with me and my friends. I feel as though I have grown up a lot in the last year. She corrects me sometimes, and gives me insight (a more mature perspective). She doesn't do it in a power or condescending way, but more a don't think like that kind of way. It's a scary decision talking about kids (one I have never had with another girlfriend for obvious reasons). The hardest part of the relationship is the income differences. I'm just starting a career to where she is planted in hers. It was extremely difficult to my pride and ego to have her pay for things (she offered and never minded ever).
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