zanesfan Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I literally just got back from a first date. This guy is educated, nice career, no kids, never been married, respectful, handsome, etc. However, Im probably never going to see him again. I found things to turn me off (as usual). For one, he is 5'7", his skin looks funny, and his hands didnt look manly... (I know...wth?) And to top it all off... he wants EXACTLY what I want and wants to give it to me. Anyway, Im sitting here wishing I could be with the guy that always flakes on me, play mind games, only really wants sex, and is probably dating numerous other girls. This guy is very attentive, very handsome, and is a very good cook. But its apparent we speak diffferent love languages. Whats wrong with me? My picker is soooo off. Help!!! I ALWAYS do this..
Hetzer Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I hope the guy isn't white. Beastiality is illegal in the United States.
xxoo Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I found things to turn me off (as usual). For one, he is 5'7", his skin looks funny, and his hands didnt look manly... (I know...wth?) And to top it all off... he wants EXACTLY what I want and wants to give it to me. Why not give it two more dates? You might not care so much about his skin, hands, and height if you get to know him and really connect with him. Give him a chance! If you don't feel any sparks after 2 more dates, move on. 1
Jeremy87 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I literally just got back from a first date. This guy is educated, nice career, no kids, never been married, respectful, handsome, etc. However, Im probably never going to see him again. I found things to turn me off (as usual). For one, he is 5'7", his skin looks funny, and his hands didnt look manly... (I know...wth?) And to top it all off... he wants EXACTLY what I want and wants to give it to me. Anyway, Im sitting here wishing I could be with the guy that always flakes on me, play mind games, only really wants sex, and is probably dating numerous other girls. This guy is very attentive, very handsome, and is a very good cook. But its apparent we speak diffferent love languages. Whats wrong with me? My picker is soooo off. Help!!! I ALWAYS do this.. you're a perfectly normal female. devoid of any logic. i know women are this way. i have the best sex skills and i can juggle hot girls.
Jeremy87 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Why not give it two more dates? You might not care so much about his skin, hands, and height if you get to know him and really connect with him. Give him a chance! If you don't feel any sparks after 2 more dates, move on. she shouldnt becuase i'm better at sex than him
somedude81 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I literally just got back from a first date. This guy is educated, nice career, no kids, never been married, respectful, handsome, etc. However, Im probably never going to see him again. I found things to turn me off (as usual). For one, he is 5'7", his skin looks funny, and his hands didnt look manly... (I know...wth?) And to top it all off... he wants EXACTLY what I want and wants to give it to me. This guy is very attentive, very handsome, and is a very good cook. But its apparent we speak diffferent love languages. Whats wrong with me? My picker is soooo off. Help!!! I ALWAYS do this.. So a guy being 5'7 turns you off? Anyway, Im sitting here wishing I could be with the guy that always flakes on me, play mind games, only really wants sex, and is probably dating numerous other girls.There you go. He's exactly what you deserve. Go get him flower.
FitChick Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 The OP sounds like "she" was created by the troll(s) on here to PROVE they were right about women, i.e. "See, I told you women are like this!" 2
Jeremy87 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 The OP sounds like "she" was created by the troll(s) on here to PROVE they were right about women, i.e. "See, I told you women are like this!" the OP is a normal woman. Why can't you women admit to this?
Author zanesfan Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Being 5'7" doesnt necessarily turn me off. I would wish he was a little taller but I was willing to give it a try. As for the other guy, of course I didnt get these vibes from him until after the fact. Its not like I fell for him knowing these things. Over a period of time things started to unravel. But I will turn a blind eye and see if I can look with my heart.
TaraMaiden Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 have you considered individual therapy as to why your 'people picker' is so out of whack....? there must be a reason why you perpetually self-sabotage.....
Author zanesfan Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 No, I have not considered therapy. I have allowed good men to come in my life. Its really an ego thing I think. I want him to change and I want to be the one that he wants to change for. I know I shouldnt be with him and I dont want to unless he gets his act together.
Jeremy87 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 have you considered individual therapy as to why your 'people picker' is so out of whack....? there must be a reason why you perpetually self-sabotage..... shes a normal woman. Why does that warant therapy?
Jeremy87 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 No, I have not considered therapy. I have allowed good men to come in my life. Its really an ego thing I think. I want him to change and I want to be the one that he wants to change for. I know I shouldnt be with him and I dont want to unless he gets his act together. The educated guy sucks at sex and sucks at having fun. Go for the one who knows how to do it in bed.
make me believe Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 And to top it all off... he wants EXACTLY what I want and wants to give it to me. How can you POSSIBLY know this after ONE date?? You are putting wayy too much stock into the first date. If it seems like you guys click and are on the same page generally, then get to know him more. It doesn't mean you have to spend your whole life with him. Chill out and get to know him SLOWLY. I agree with xxoo, give him another couple of dates, and if you still find the things you mentioned to be turnoffs, then move on.
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