OrangeSnack Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 My story is a bit long and complicated. Lets just say that I screwed up and totally gave the wrong impression to the girl I liked and what I did completely freaked her out. I didn't do anything sexual but it was definitely border line creepy. In a nut shell, she is best friends with my best friend and we were introduced by my best friend. We had done a lot of things in a group settings and I had gone out with her to lunch once. I do have her number and I've taken her home before and have picked her up but I never really knew which apartment# she lived in. So after a month of getting to know her, I wanted to see whether or not we can go on an actual "date." It just so happened that she was sick during that week so I decided to send her edibles and a customized hallmark card. But how in the world can I send her the edibles if I had no idea the apartment# she lived in? So I decided to go on a drive by and perhaps ask the neighbors (terrible idea lol), but luckily I saw this random person and it happened to be her roommate. (At that moment I instantly knew it was CREEPY, but it was hard for me to back down since I already introduced myself. And guys, for the future, please don't ever do this, this is seriously creepy and you'll regret it like I am right now but some of you are probably LOLing). After getting her address and promises from her roommate that she won't tell her about this, I sent her the gift and her roommate told her what happened that night. A day later, I get a response basically implying thank you for the gift but im going to ignore you from now on. A few days later, my best friend takes me out to dinner and breaks the bad news to me. So basically I don't blame the roommate for doing that, heck, I would have done the same thing. I don't blame the girl that I like who I've only known for a month. It just sucks that my best friend who tried to set me up had to tell me the bad news and I basically moved TOO FAST. Though my best friend has said that she is not creeped out but just a little shocked, I feel terrible. I mean, honestly I am not that kind of person. I should have asked her directly for her address, which could have saved myself the embarrassment and the "creeper" title. She probably deleted my number from her phone and will probably never speak to me ever again. But one thing we do learn in life is the mistakes we make are the opportunities we create. So in the future this will NEVER ever happen again. My question is what do I do? I will definitely see her again because we go to the same church and I hang out with my best friend a lot. Do I write an apology letter in a few months (probably not the brightest idea)? Or do I apologize to her in person in a few months? Or should I just drop it and just pretend this never happened? Regardless, I think she will need time to cope with this situation. And I hate to sound negative but her roommate will always see me as a creeper. I really want to rekindle this friendship and I know I have to basically start from square 1, but I know for a fact that this friendship will most likely never turn into a romantic relationship. Additionally, she will see me differently, regardless of how much my best friend knows me. What are some of your experiences and suggestions? I’m totally confused and I hate to just give up… Is it even worth apologizing?
CC12 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I think when she said, "I'm going to ignore you from now on," it was a nicer way of saying, "Do not contact me again." So I think you should respect that and leave her alone. If you're ever in a situation where you two are on good terms and friendly with each other, then maybe you can apologize and explain that you now realize how monumentally foolish and inappropriate that was. Just do it in a casual manner, like "By the way, sorry for..." I mean, at its core, it was a nice sentiment, so maybe she won't hold it against you too much.
Author OrangeSnack Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 well she did not say that word for word. I am implying that she did. Regardless I think an apology is vital in the future.
Author OrangeSnack Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 "Sorry Ive been working on submissions this morning but i got my edible flowers you sent me yesterday. Thank you! Still trying to figure out my schedule but i dont think friday is going to work, i might actually have an audition that evening. And still training at my new job that day." next day my best friend invited me to dinner and basically said "its not going to work"
CC12 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Oh, ha. Well, she didn't really say anything close to "I'm going to ignore you now." It was just a simple brush off, and a pretty kind one, considering. Yeah, I'd still say apologize only if you're ever on friendly, speaking terms again.
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