SoMuchLove Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 So I did the most manipulative, deceitful thing I have ever done. I saw that my ex was on the same dating website as me only a month after we broke up. So what did I do. . .? I created a fake profile. . .one that I knew would attract him and sure enough--he messaged me!!!! We have had a handful of conversations and I can tell I have him hook, line and sinker. What the hell was I thinking?!?!? I don't even know what I was trying to accomplish from this! One good thing, though is that I can now catch him in a lie and call him out on it. But I don't want to reveal who I am. What should I do now?!?!? I think I am officially nuts! Oh jeez. Never thought I would be this obsessed. This guy isn't even worth it. But it still hurts and so it's hard for me to let it all go. What would you do????
69ways Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 So I did the most manipulative, deceitful thing I have ever done. I saw that my ex was on the same dating website as me only a month after we broke up. So what did I do. . .? I created a fake profile. . .one that I knew would attract him and sure enough--he messaged me!!!! We have had a handful of conversations and I can tell I have him hook, line and sinker. What the hell was I thinking?!?!? I don't even know what I was trying to accomplish from this! One good thing, though is that I can now catch him in a lie and call him out on it. But I don't want to reveal who I am. What should I do now?!?!? I think I am officially nuts! Oh jeez. Never thought I would be this obsessed. This guy isn't even worth it. But it still hurts and so it's hard for me to let it all go. What would you do???? Block him , u see he plays around, never say what u did to him...go NC and stay NC.....clear enough he is not ready for stability
jennisfora Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 that's kinda messed up...that's really all i can say.
Author SoMuchLove Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 that's ALL you can say? come on. . help me out! he was a huge jerk to me in the end and all i wanted was some closure. i know it's messed up. . but besides my curiosity and ego, i dont want to see him hurt some other girl. i've already caught him in a lie or two. . since he doesnt know its me.
mike588 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Yeah that was kinda strange and shows how this is affecting you....well atleast you know now. Move on...ignore him. Is this the kind of person you really want???
CaliBabe Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Just delete the fake profile and let him guess what the heck happened. From there, try to move on and start your healing process. Sorry, but this is the best advice I can offer given the circumstances. 2
jennisfora Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 i didn't mean to judge you, when relationships end it makes us all go a little nutty...just that you have to not let it take over your life. You can't protect the next girl, or the one after that. you have to heal yourself and not waste energy on this guy. Online dating is perilous enough without people cyberstalking their ex's. I think it shows that you need to prioritize yourself. what he does with the next person, is what he does with the next person. he is probably on more than one dating site, and probably trying to meet women in bars and the like, you can't be the relationship police. it is too much effort. it isn't your cause anymore. you know he is a jerk, you can advise any friend or acquaintence to not date him. But he will eventually find someone, and he will probably lie to her. and that sucks to be her, just be glad you aren't her. *hugs* 2
Million.to.1 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) it's good that you realise that this is messed up. Don't feel bad.. it's easy to go a little crazy after a break-up. the high road would be to send him a quick message from the fake profile saying you have started dating someone you really like and are taking your acccount down for now. Wish him the of best luck with his search and then delete the profile, and move on with your life. The mid road would be just to delete the account and say nothing and leave him wondering... and move on with your life. The low road would be to message him from the fake profile saying something like you found out that that you know one of his ex-girlfriends and that it's probably best not to continue contact. Don't give a reason, and then relish in his need to know which ex gfrind and what she said etc... and just not reply. Keep the profile up for a while so he knows you are ignoring him, and move on with your life. The super low road would be to continue stringing him along in whatever way you want.. and not move on with your life. I know which one I would choose. Edited March 24, 2012 by Million.to.1 2
WildHorses Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Have you tried stalking him yet? Going to his house late at night? Peeking in the windows? Facebook stalking? Text message terrorism? The possibilities are endless!!! Or, you could just stop the crazy behavior and start living your own life! 1
Author SoMuchLove Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 ooooh! "million.to.1" i like the way you think! hahaha after all, i should at least use it to my advantage and help myself feel like i got a little of my own pride back. i am not usually the "revenge" type person, so i am not used to these feelings. but i do want him to feel at least 10% of the hurt he caused me.
Million.to.1 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 ooooh! "million.to.1" i like the way you think! hahaha after all, i should at least use it to my advantage and help myself feel like i got a little of my own pride back. i am not usually the "revenge" type person, so i am not used to these feelings. but i do want him to feel at least 10% of the hurt he caused me. I think maybe you missed my point. None of those games will make you feel any better. Take the high road.
Author SoMuchLove Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 oh. well, i thought it might make me feel a little better. :/
Author SoMuchLove Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 the truth is. . .i just want him to realize his mistakes, cause i guess i still want him back. i was hoping that communicating with this "girl" would help him see how great i was and how badly he treated me. i was hoping it would get him to think about me again and maybe he would call just so we can have closure. he hasnt talked to me at all since the break up and we have lots of unfinished business.
jennisfora Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 he won't be calling you cause he is talking to this cool new girl he met on this dating website...lol sorry, i know it isn't funny, and you are hurting right now, and you want him to feel what you are feeling. that's really what this is about. it doesn't seem fair that he can move on while you suffer. life isn't fair though, in fact, it can really suck sometimes. 1
sweetheart5381 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 the truth is. . .i just want him to realize his mistakes, cause i guess i still want him back. i was hoping that communicating with this "girl" would help him see how great i was and how badly he treated me. i was hoping it would get him to think about me again and maybe he would call just so we can have closure. he hasnt talked to me at all since the break up and we have lots of unfinished business. Honey please listen, I did what you did cuz a man fed me lies for months and I wanted to know the truth about the b/u. The b/u came out of nowhere at the time, he supposedly "loved me" but really just wanted serious sex without feelings (yrs ago now, though the sex was ok, so I still remember) He even faked tears when we broke up (quite a spectacle, btw). I had a fake dating profile and asked him to meet me and we did. He lied once again. When we broke up he said that he still loved his wife, etc. Truth is he was still looking for anyone else that would pay him attention. Dudes like this are pathetic and not worth your time! Forget "unfinished business". "Business" never really started for him. He is a fool that used you. Forget him... they will lie, cheat and steal for themselves... not worth your time.
Tiera D Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 actually u can pretend to be that person and slowly manipulate his thoughts to want you back hahax >.< TD
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