goohoo Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I'm concerned about my ex. All it seems she's been doing lately is drinking and partying with her friends. Here's a little backstory to get you all up to par as to what's going on. My ex of almost one year and I split in November, was not a messy breakup at all, we're still good friends. She is 22, I am 27. She moved in with a guy friend of hers who basically played hero the whole time throughout our breakup and now she has fallen for him. In my opinion, it seems he's a simple rebound but I could be wrong. Anyway, they "officially" started dating I'm assuming a week or two ago, and I know that basically the entire time since she's lived with him, they've been doing things together and basically playing house together. I'd say within the past few weeks though, it seems like all she's doing anymore is drinking and partying with her friends.. A Facebook status of hers even mentioned about her becoming an alcoholic :-/ Now, I know for the most part she's happy with this new guy. But I also know that his work schedule is the night shift, which leaves her alone at her apartment all by herself, which I know she's not too fond of. So, either she goes with her friends and drinks and parties, or she stays at her place and presumably gets drunk there. I'm worried about her. I've expressed my concern to her and she basically told me I shouldn't e so worried. She's essentially unemployed, she has been saying she's broke all the time, and I'm not positive about it, but I'm sure this new guy is footing the bill for almost everything in the apartment (I could be wrong, but if she doesn't have the money, how can she contribute?) Likewise, I don't know where she's getting the money to booze. I know her friends buy her drinks and stuff, but in sure thats only to a point.* Basically, I'm worried because when her and I were together, she held a full time job and worked 2 others part time. And now, I know the crowd of people she hangs around with and they all essentially have no goals or aspirations in life.. And I'm worried she may be straying down the same path. :-( I know this girl has much more potential than this and I know many people are probably going to tell me not to worry about it considering she's my ex, but I still love this girl and although I may not be her boyfriend anymore, I'm still her friend and I still care. More so it seems than anyone else because they're all basically indifferent about the situation. I don't know how her boyfriend feels about it, but I think it's safe to assume he's not a big fan of her behavior either. Anything I could possibly do or say to her? Or should I just let her choose her own path in life? It sucks to see someone so beautiful fall into such a rut. :-(
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