Numb79 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I have been broken up for about 2 months of a 5 yr LDR. No contact since then except for two txt msgs within the first month. One from her and one from myself. I don't know what I am currently feeling at the moment. Its like a numb/disappointment feeling if I had to describe it. When I do feel something it is usually fear. The fear of being alone..... I am 32 yrs old and always thought I would have a family by now or at least on my wayt to starting one. I don't know if I am actually healing. Sometimes, I feel as if I am going stir crazy!! Can anyone offer some insight on my situation? Key note - I have a fractured heel and can't do anything! Been stuck in my apt by myself. Don't know many people because I am new to the area!
jennisfora Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 i'm 33 and i felt like i wouldve been happily married by now too. i also dont seem to be healing properly. so, not sure i can help much except to say, you arent alone. im looking into counselling, because i want to heal and move on. i want to be happy. i dont want to suddenly burst into tears because of an association or a memory. finding counseling that i can afford is the trick. *hugs*
robkris8079 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 31 here. My ex after 5 years and basically with no notice took herself out of the relationship. Just became distant, told me she was on and off with her feelings. She had seemed pretty on until she flipped a switch. I thought this was the year for the proposal that's how convincing she was. Basically with the way she had been the last two weeks we were together made me very unhappy. When she told me she was unhappy too I ended it. She was done with me. I'm hurt as our plans for the future are no more but don't beat yourself up. Plenty of time and fish in the sea. Just heal, learn, be happy with you and things will fall into place. I'm actually having a rough day myself with it but life goes on. We need stop worrying so much about other people and the future and start living for ourselves right now. I'm 3 weeks broken up and NC. With a person I shared everything with and seen and talked for the past 5 years.
Author Numb79 Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 I just don't even know if I am even heading in the right direction. Am I healing or is this just a brief moment where everything seems ok?
69ways Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 31 broke up after years due to get married. Yep , I feel you, I dont see bright light for family in my life either
CaliBabe Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Although I am a bit younger, mid twenties, I do want chime in here. I just got out of a 7 year relationship with my ex whom I thought I was going to marry. I am 9 months out of the breakup and I have to say. THINGS WILL GET BETTER. It is totally normal to have ups and downs. Your emotions will be a roller coaster for quite some time. You'll have your good days and your bad days. Hell, I still have my good days and bad days and it's been 9 months! One thing I learned along this journey is you make up your own rules. You deligate how YOUR life will be. Who says by a certain age you should be married? Society? Other people? You make your own rules. God has a plan for us, he just hasn't brought you the right person is all, there is still a lesson for you to learn before that happens. 2
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