AmericanHoney Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I have had some ups and downs the past couple of months and recently I met a guy on Match. He is super sweet but the only problem is he lives with his parents. I live with my ultra religious sister so nothing ever happens at my house. So what should I do? I really like him but when a guy lives with his parents there isn't much time for love and since I live with my ultra religious sister there isn't much I can do either. I know there is more than sex of course but can it work out? Should I throw in the towel now and not even bother? I can use some advice please.....
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Does he have any plans to move out anytime soon? Like is he in college and waiting to graduate? Is he trying to save money? Or is he just dependent on his parents? It might not be all that different from you living with your sister really.
Author AmericanHoney Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 He is 22 I am 23. He just graduated school last year so it is quite possible he could be looking for his own place eventually. I guess you are right there is always hotel rooms:P Or in the backseat of a car LOL
phineas Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Are you living under your sister's roof or are you roomies paying equal shares of rent?
Author AmericanHoney Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 I live under my sister's roof. I had to move in with her after some minor setbacks due to work and she laid down a bunch of ground rules when I moved in like no boys staying over and no parties. My sister and I are total opposites she's more conserative and I'm more laid back. We get along great except for the boys staying over. I have no idea about this guys parents but majority of parents but don't majority of parents dislike girls sleeping over? One other problem is this guy is shy! We talk all the time flirt up a storm but he still hasn't asked me out! Now do I ask him out or do I wait? Normally guys just ask me out but this guy is so shy!
Author AmericanHoney Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 I live under my sister's roof. I had to move in with her after some minor setbacks due to work and she laid down a bunch of ground rules when I moved in like no boys staying over and no parties. My sister and I are total opposites she's more conserative and I'm more laid back. We get along great except for the boys staying over. I have no idea about this guys parents but majority of parents but don't majority of parents dislike girls sleeping over? One other problem is this guy is shy! We talk all the time flirt up a storm but he still hasn't asked me out! Now do I ask him out or do I wait? Normally guys just ask me out but this guy is so shy! I should clarify when I say met I meant virtual meet up like Skype etc but haven't physically met him because he's too shy to ask but he certainly flirts and talks about going out but never quite says anything.
Feanor Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 When I was 24 I lived with my parents and I had a girl I was dating over a few times. We had a big basement, though, far away from the bedrooms. Maybe you should just ask him?
PhillyDude Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 A guy that is 23 is not expected to have his own place. And you being 22 shouldn't care about it especially since you don't have your own place
Nextlane Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I used to book hotel rooms on a weekly basis in the city with my ex. It was fun, get to chillout in the morning after lol.
gaius Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Just wait until your sister heads off to church and sneak him in. If he ever gets around to asking you out.
phineas Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Just wait until your sister heads off to church and sneak him in. If he ever gets around to asking you out. That just seems so wrong & so right at the same time. 2
kaylan Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 He sounds like a virgin. Since when did shy automatically mean virgin? 1
Author AmericanHoney Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Shy doesn't mean virgin but even if he was kudos to him. Alot of guys his age would of given it up a long time ago. I would just like him to ask me out already. Like I said flirts up a storm on skype and always talks about hanging out but he never makes his move. Maybe he is worried about getting shot down but then again if he was so worried about getting shot down I wouldn't of even responded to him on skype. What would you do in my position? Wait for him to ask me out ( even though he sure does hint about going out) or should I ask him out? I never had a problem with a guy afraid to ask me out:o I don't bite much LOL
jobaba Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I have had some ups and downs the past couple of months and recently I met a guy on Match. He is super sweet but the only problem is he lives with his parents. I live with my ultra religious sister so nothing ever happens at my house. So what should I do? I really like him but when a guy lives with his parents there isn't much time for love and since I live with my ultra religious sister there isn't much I can do either. I know there is more than sex of course but can it work out? Should I throw in the towel now and not even bother? I can use some advice please..... OMFG. A question on LS that presents the chance for actual substantial usable ADVICE to be given? Drool... 1) Rent hotel rooms. You can find out which ones are cheap, yet clean and safe on Trip Advisor. 2) Plan when your sister and/or his parents are away and have a romp fest. 3) If you have friends that have apartments in and around the area you live, find out when they will be away and nicely ask to use their apartment. Promise you will NOT use their bed for sex. 4) For everything except for actual intercourse, a parked car can work really well. Been there, done that.
mixwell Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I can't speak for most parents but even in my teens I had my ex stay over and up until last year at my current house with my dad and gramps they didn't give 2 craps about who I brought over.. Now I have the house to myself since they passed away but I remember when I'd bring over a chick my pops would often tell me "oh shes a nice little cutie" haha i thought it was pretty funny.. Back to the OP, just because he lives with his parents doesn't mean they're going to be strict or find it weird, I mean after all he is old enough and I'm sure his parents aren't complete idiots and would know what's going on. Unless his parents are religious I don't see why they'd care, I mean at one point our parents were our current age so I don't see why they'd "cock block" (sorry) but they know what's going on... I'd be more concerned on WHY he is still with them in the sense that if he is just freeloading or is it because other circumstances etc..
mixwell Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 OMFG. A question on LS that presents the chance for actual substantial usable ADVICE to be given? Drool... 1) Rent hotel rooms. You can find out which ones are cheap, yet clean and safe on Trip Advisor. 2) Plan when your sister and/or his parents are away and have a romp fest. 3) If you have friends that have apartments in and around the area you live, find out when they will be away and nicely ask to use their apartment. Promise you will NOT use their bed for sex. 4) For everything except for actual intercourse, a parked car can work really well. Been there, done that. Oh noes not a question that can be answered literally !! hahahaha.. Serious where there is a will to do the deed you WILL find a way !! There are tons of options out there. Yall need to find a spot and Fk like :bunny:
FitChick Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I would just like him to ask me out already. Like I said flirts up a storm on skype and always talks about hanging out but he never makes his move. This is why I think he is a virgin. He is afraid to meet her.
MrCastle Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Wait for him to ask me out ( even though he sure does hint about going out) or should I ask him out? I never had a problem with a guy afraid to ask me out:o I don't bite much LOL Be the pioneer. Ask him out. Don't fall into that trap some people fall into where "if he likes me, he'd text first", "if he wanted to date me, he'd ask me first" Sometimes both parties are thinking this and neither makes a move. Some people are just shy or fear rejection, doesn't mean they don't want to go out with you. As far as the living situation thing goes, someone mentioned before, 23 year olds are not expected to have their own place. Occasionally you'll have young people that share a place with roommates, but having your own place is ridiculous, especially in this economy. That shouldn't be a deal breaker one way or another.
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