My man is driving me bonkers with his childish ways.

[asiamarie]

I am so frustrated right now i am going to explode. This is it I'm am so tired of my husbands childish behavior that i am about to go CRAZY..... He is like a 16 year old inside of a 34 year old man .. I will explain, like today he takes this sponge stick that kids use to float around in a pool and starts hitting me with it outta fun and i in return I would play slap him, well he hit me right in the ear with it and i heard ringing and him laughing at me so i slapped him in the arm and he went off to his chair and started pouting because it hurt . Then the other day he took a water balloon and hit me in the back of the heard with it and i am telling you it hurt i saw stars. He starts laughing and i didn't think it was funny. What i am saying is he can put out but he can't take the heat when it comes back to him. He does this all the time the thing is i can stand it most of the time but sometimes its nerve wrecking especially when you pms'n. I try to explain to him i am not in the mood but he keep on going until you get so mad and i start yelling at him to stop then he'll say to me (Your no fun) I am fun lots of fun when i am in the mood to play............ My husband also thinks he's the king of the world and everything should be handed to him on a silver platter. His mother spoiled him so much that now when he doesn't get what he wants he wines and pouts . Another thing that makes me sick is when he calls his mother and puts on this fake attitude to get sympathy from her........

[Pyrannaste]

A friend of mine in the same situation as you were successful when she started to behave in a more childish way than her boyfriend.

Like, they were at a fast food restaurant and he was throwing chips at her, she smiled, got a mouthful of her milkshake, and squirted it at him with her straw.

He thew water-balloons at her, she pushed him in the swimming pool, with clothes and all. His driving license and anything he got in his wallet got soaked.

He stopped.

 

I'm not sure it would be good advice though.

[Shasta]

I'm sorry, but that is just really funny. I personally think you should act just like he is and give him a dose of his own medicine...but it could end up with really bad circumstances. Maybe you should talk to his mom and see if she has any advice on how to settle him down. Go out to lunch with her and tell her what he's been doing and ask if she has any tips for you.

[dudesomewhere]

i never lay a hand on anyone, male or female...that said...I like it when female friends play fight with me and whack me hard with punches ....as for the guys, when they do that and me having a lot more muscle than they do I'll whack them back...then they pout and wonder why when of course...I never start anything lol

[asiamarie]

Today was horable. After the play fighting it got worse I had some things on my mind that bothered me so i told my husband how i felt about . Big Mistake I asked him why his mother felt the way she did towards me and my two children whom are not related only by marriage and he told me that is something i should talk to his mother about. Then i asked him about our relationship and why is it going bad and he said he didn't want to talk about it and then i said i needed to know because theirs some issues that need to be resolved . My Husband feels this way about me. (Everything stays within the family anyone outside the family has no place)

Thats me and my children even though we are married i am not blood. He and I have one child together and if it wasn't for our child we would not be together right now and his mother wouldn't have anything to do with me I feel she just tolerates me because she has too for her grandsons sake. Well today after all this My husband got really upset with me and broke my microwave table and broke our 100 dollar cord-less phone into small pieces now i don't have a phone to talk on anymore until i buy another one... Then when i refused to leave he yanked me by my hair and kicked me out the door . That belittled me right their and this happened in front of my 3 yr old child. I am 32 years old with 3 children and i am a homemaker with a nursing degree but right now i wish i had the guts to walk out on him ... He is an evil man with no heart when you look into his eyes their blank and when you talk to him its like talking to evil especially when he's mad.. Today he pulled out a knife and threatened me with it ......... I feel so stupid because i know i can walk out but i know if i did theirs a little free that he might do something to me because i have his son. I need advice....

[Shasta]

You need to get out, NOW! If he is doing that kinda **** to you, you have to leave. I don't care if you wait until he is at work and move all your stuff out, just DO IT! Don't be scared of him, if he threatens you, get a restraining order against him. Please please don't be with him! He sounds abusive. The best thing for YOU and YOUR children is to get out. Call up friends on Monday or something and have them help you move out while he's at work.

[YellowLioness]

I agree with Shasta! You have battered wife syndrome. If only for your children's sake, leave. You may not think you deserve better for whatever reason, but they deserve NOT to grow up in an unstable home with a misogynistic male role model. This stuff makes me so mad, darn it! There are children involved!

[moimeme]

Call your local domestic violence line and take their advice. You must leave this man for your sake, but especially for your kids' sakes. Subjecting them to that kind of behaviour is very bad for them. You MUST leave but you must do so safely so talk to the domestic violence people and find out how to do that.

[Pookette]

Leave. If he does it to you, he could do it to your children, especially if he doesn't feel any affection for them. LEAVE.

[Matilda]

Leave. If you have a nursing degree you know better than to stay with this man. This is harming your children, even if he does not physically harm them, it harms them to see him attack you.

 

You have the guts to leave, and you will be okay. Get help from the local women's shelter so you can do things safely. You have the ability to support yourself and the kids. Do you have family that can help you? Now is the time to ask for their help.

 

You can't stay there.

[asiamarie]

As of Wednesday June 30th 2004 I finally made the move I have been free of him for 2 weeks now and me and my children are doing great now that he's not in the picture anymore. I moved away and found myself a house and i finally have my own things now. Its been really hard the first week but we made it trough so far so good the threats are not as bad and i do have a restraining order on him at this time one thing he's been threatening to take out son and he wants to go to court to gain full time rights . but i know that won't ever happen not with abuse on his report... well i wanted to let everyone know that you all have been real helpful and i am slowly back on my feet with the help of family and friends and this site....

 

 

Thank You again

Asia Marie

[Matilda]

I am so glad to hear you are doing well, and that you got out. Good for you. Hang in there. You are going to have a much better life without him.

 

Take care.