kcanner Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I have been writing a love letter to the love of my life everyday. I don't know whether or not to send them to her or not. She broke up with with no reason whatsoever so I know she still loves me (and when I mean no reason she just said I need space to figure things out - then she starting dating someone else) ... I am currently in another state and still love her and her son (who she considers to be mine as do I) and have been writing 2-3 letters a day to her. Should I send them out or keep them till I get back. I don't know whether or not she will want to read them ... she might read the first few but after that she might not.
JasonRules Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I have been writing a love letter to the love of my life everyday. I don't know whether or not to send them to her or not. She broke up with with no reason whatsoever so I know she still loves me (and when I mean no reason she just said I need space to figure things out - then she starting dating someone else) ... I am currently in another state and still love her and her son (who she considers to be mine as do I) and have been writing 2-3 letters a day to her. Should I send them out or keep them till I get back. I don't know whether or not she will want to read them ... she might read the first few but after that she might not. So she told you she needed space, dumps you, then starts dating someone else and you've been writing her a love letter every single day? Just curious; do you have maybe an ounce of self-esteem? I just don't understand why you would do this. It makes absolutely no sense. And hell no, don't give her anything. In fact, stop wasting your ink... 2
Author kcanner Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Yes i understand, and i've thought about that, BUT we still talk and there is still "something" there. We went out for 10months and were best friends for 3 years before we decided to cross the line. so there is love there. I do love her, and though she wanted a "break", she still has yet to tell me she doesn't love me.
JasonRules Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Yes i understand, and i've thought about that, BUT we still talk and there is still "something" there. We went out for 10months and were best friends for 3 years before we decided to cross the line. so there is love there. I do love her, and though she wanted a "break", she still has yet to tell me she doesn't love me. This woman doesn't talk to you as a MAN, but as a girlfriend/friend. Wake up and quit being an area rug. She is walking all over you. Stop deluding yourself. There is NO LOVE. She is loving someone else by being with them and being intimate with them. You need to man up and quit chasing after her. I can't believe I'm having to tell you this stuff. Man UP! Leave the pen down, slap yourself in the face a couple times, stop contacting her, chasing her, talking to her and start living your life. She is...and you should too. 1
rAFC Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I have been writing a love letter to the love of my life everyday. I don't know whether or not to send them to her or not. She broke up with with no reason whatsoever so I know she still loves me (and when I mean no reason she just said I need space to figure things out - then she starting dating someone else) ... I am currently in another state and still love her and her son (who she considers to be mine as do I) and have been writing 2-3 letters a day to her. Should I send them out or keep them till I get back. I don't know whether or not she will want to read them ... she might read the first few but after that she might not. First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry we have to be so harsh with you, but we are only doing it for your own good and because we have all been there before. Now, for the hard part: She didn't break up with you "for no reason", she broke up with you for another guy. She is too much of a coward to tell you that she doesn't love you, but when you love someone you don't leave them for someone else. Staying in contact with you is just her way of relieving her guilt. Jason has it right, there is no way you should send her those love letters. In fact, please stop writing them right now and burn the ones you have accumulated. She doesn't deserve them, not by a long shot. Your words will transform in her mind into, "I have no self respect at all". They will have the opposite effect as what you intend, she will lose whatever attraction and respect she has left for you. You have her on a pedestal in your mind where she can do no wrong. It is time to knock her off of it and start no contact immediately. Please believe us when we tell you that she is not the woman for you. I know how hard it is, I really do, but you have no choice but to move forward without her.
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