mesmerized Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 My range for dating would be 24-33 for casual only 20-37 I think I'd feel weird having sex with a guy older or younger than this.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 When I was 24, my preferred age range was 25-30. I'm now 33, and am open to 30-42. My SO is almost 32. If you don't mind me asking, why did it skew older instead of say 20-30?
mesmerized Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I am still in my 20s, and when I was on OLD, I got plenty of men WAY out of my listed age range (40s, 50s, 60 -- and 50s and 60s weren't unusual). They may not have been a large percentage of the men who messaged me but not a week went by without someone 20 years older than me writing me despite my profile saying, "Sorry, but I will not respond to anyone outside of the age range specified on OKC. I really mean what I say in those!" because I felt rude just ignoring one to several men per week but there was no use replying with, "You're too old for me." Tried that a few times and the men were always like, "But I'm young at heart," or "Let's just go on a date and see" or whatnot. Very frustrating. When I told them they're too old, some of them said but they have money and will take me shopping. :sick: So gross.
somedude81 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 At 30, I'm open to women 18-32. But I strongly prefer women 21-27. The main reason I don't want to date women older than me is that I'd like to keep the possibility of kids open, but not something that must be done right away.
zengirl Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 When I told them they're too old, some of them said but they have money and will take me shopping. :sick: So gross. Eww! I didn't hear that one, but yuck.
RedRobin Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 When I told them they're too old, some of them said but they have money and will take me shopping. :sick: So gross. When I got messages from those, I told them I'd be happy to be their brainy arm candy... but no sex, no nudity, and no pics. For some bizarre reason, I'd never get another email back. Hmmm. 2
mesmerized Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Eww! I didn't hear that one, but yuck. One of them thought the fact that he raised four kids should make me fall for him. What world do these men live in? Anyways, I honestly don't get that many messages from much older men. Most men who message me are around my age. I bet that girls who are more innocent looking are the biggest target cause they won't go bitchy on them.
zengirl Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 One of them thought the fact that he raised four kids should make me fall for him. What world do these men live in? Anyways, I honestly don't get that many messages from much older men. Most men who message me are around my age. I bet that girls who are more innocent looking are the biggest target cause they won't go bitchy on them. Well, I am fairly innocent looking. It's the Japanese half, I think. Looks can be deceiving if anyone's ever looked at me and assumed I can't be supremely bitchy.
verhrzn Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Well, I am fairly innocent looking. It's the Japanese half, I think. Looks can be deceiving if anyone's ever looked at me and assumed I can't be supremely bitchy. I know so so so many men with an Asian sensation. Maybe it's that as men get older, they just become more obvious and open about it?
Eclypse Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I am a 21 year old male and I'm open to dating girls aged 18-24. It might be a bit weird going beyond that but I guess it could work. My current girlfriend is 22. The stereotype that young men just want to party and not settle down is really wrong and harmful to a lot of men's chances. I was never into the heavy drinking scene myself. I don't like people who have ridiculous limits. A girl at my university said she wouldn't date anyone our age since she feels they are too immature. I was tempted to point out that she was one of the most immature people I know, and I have yet to hear anything intelligent come out of her. Another girl turned me down since I was too "young" which was ironic since I was actually 5 months older than her. But she only likes much older men. She ended up dating a 38 year old guy for 2 years (she was 19:sick:). It all went south when he dumped her because he was actually getting married to his fiance that weekend, which would make it too difficult for him to sneak out and meet up with the other girl. For 2 years he hid that he was engaged and she never once questioned that fact that she never went to his place. She vented to me for ages how all he was using her for was sex and how sad she was. I had very little sympathy to spare for her.
Star Gazer Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 If you don't mind me asking, why did it skew older instead of say 20-30? At 24 and months away from graduating law school, I did not find men younger than me to be emotionally mature enough to handle the type of relationship I wanted, nor in the same place in their life. Guys 20-23 are still frat boys and behave as such.
Anela Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 You'd be surprised at how many people at 23 I know who already have not one, but two kids, not even married. Of course, a lot of them are living off WIC and food stamps. Think I mentioned that in the political thread, LOL. I know a twenty-eight year old, who met her husband when they were both in high school. They're happily married, and have two kids.
Anela Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Depends on the girl. Where I live (NY) most chicks arent looking to settle down until they hit their late 20s. Untrue in my experience. Loads of girls around my age (early to mid 20s) are damn immature and just wanna party. This. Wrong...plenty of guys are down for babies and a ring. A guy whos 35 will be more privy to a 30 yr old woman than a 35 yr old woman...why? The 30 year old woman is not as feisty about her biological clock. She has more time to conceive. Hence she will let the relationship move along naturally and not force a marriage or rush things just for the sake of having a child. Guys know about all this...we hear women speak...we see threads on this very site where some women are in a rush. Last thing we want to do is settle down with the wrong woman all because things got rushed. We want to take our time and be sure of everything. Sadly for women of a certain age, she doesnt have too much time to wait if she doesnt want to have issues getting pregnant. Most guys on there don't want to make babies, they only want the practice. And they ignore what you say on your profile, as though they are special in some way. I really hate being looked at as a baby machine, and by how much collagen I have left in my skin. Wow, let me jump their bones right this minute, I couldn't possibly be more excited.
Bob_Funk Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Women peak at around 18. Just attend any college freshman orientation. They're all georgeous without even trying.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 (edited) At 24 and months away from graduating law school, I did not find men younger than me to be emotionally mature enough to handle the type of relationship I wanted, nor in the same place in their life. Guys 20-23 are still frat boys and behave as such. Interesting. I guess that makes sense. So I take it you're not one of those people morally opposed to guys dating younger since they'd be more compatible with younger girls maturity wise. Edited March 23, 2012 by fortyninethousand322
FitChick Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I like men not more than fifteen years younger up to maybe a year or two older. It depends on their mental and physical condition. Most men (and women) don't age well unless they have a lifelong fitness habit. I dated a man in his early sixties who looked and acted younger than a guy in his mid-forties. So I try not to focus on the number and look at the body instead.
tigressA Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I'm 24 and my range at its most broad is -3/+6 (currently 21-30). I prefer to date -0/+3 (currently 24-27).
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 I'm 24. I tend to be most attracted to men in their late twenties to early thirties, but I am open to dating anyone from my age to mid-thirties. If we're compatible, then his age doesn't really matter to me. It's an afterthought.
veggirl Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 When I was 24, I would have dated down to 22. i wouldn't have dated someone still in college. I am 28. What I'll date is 26-32ish? I've always really preferred guys around my age (dated mostly guys who were within a year of me, actually!) and have dated younger. I mean if I was single and met a 25 yr old guy who blew me away and was very mature etc, I wouldn't turn him down for being born a year too late or anything. but in general, I'll go with 26-32. I've only dated one guy more than year older than me, he was 5 yrs older (I was 23). I felt like a kid next to him sometimes. Current BF is 26. Actually I will turn 29 before he is 27 (couple months before). I don't really think about it much. We are at the same place in our lives and all that, so it's fine. I think when it becomes an issue is if you can look at Person A and how they are acting and KNOW they are much younger than Person B. Then it's a bit weird. If anyone saw me and my BF interacting (or individually and then compared us), they would assume that we are same age range as one another.
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