Mark1 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Recently I added a friend on Facebook from Middle School. The last time I spoke to her in person was freshman year of high school. Her and I are both 23, now. We decided to get together tonight to watch March Madness. I text her today and say, "hey are we still on for tonight?" "Yeah! I'm bringing a friend, I hope you don't mind. You'll love her!" What should I do? Bail? Go with it? Is this her way of telling me its not a date, or her way of making sure she feels comfortable since we haven't seen each other in a while?
jobaba Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Recently I added a friend on Facebook from Middle School. The last time I spoke to her in person was freshman year of high school. Her and I are both 23, now. We decided to get together tonight to watch March Madness. I text her today and say, "hey are we still on for tonight?" "Yeah! I'm bringing a friend, I hope you don't mind. You'll love her!" What should I do? Bail? Go with it? Is this her way of telling me its not a date, or her way of making sure she feels comfortable since we haven't seen each other in a while? Who cares? You haven't seen her in 10 years. Who knows what she's like. Maybe she's a dyke. Meet up.
ditzchic Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Go meet up. You have nothing to lose. She may be trying to set you up with her friend. But maybe her friend is hot! Don't miss an opportunity to have a good time.
cerridwen Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 What should I do? Bail? Go with it? Is this her way of telling me its not a date, or her way of making sure she feels comfortable since we haven't seen each other in a while? Go. Her inviting her friend could mean she didn't realize you wanted it to be date-like or yeah, that she wanted a buffer person. Another possibility is she thought "the more the merrier." Since we don't know for sure, go. Who knows what could happen.
R1TE0N Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Only bail if you have other plans... What's to lose? Maybe she is trying to hook you up with her friend
Author Mark1 Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Update: -She texts me 3 hours before "hey hun, I have to take my little sister to [blank] college tonight, so me and my friend will a little late" (mirin hun?) -I say, okay fine, nbd. Nice of her to tell me -Get a text 30 mins later "Hey hun, we are staying at [blank] college tonight for my little sisters friends birthday party. Didn't know we'd end up doing this, it wasn't the plan. " -I reply: "Hey chit happens, no problem. Lets meet up soon thought" -Her: "Omg yes! For sure! I'm so sorry. Next time you will have to come to [blank] college to hang out with us, but until then lets hang out" I think it's legit, and I am intrigued by her wanted to get together for a night of drinking at [blank] college.
dasein Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Agree with posters who said just go with it with someone you haven't seen in that long if the nature of the plans is vague. But if you make clear date plans with a woman and she -ever- attempts the "bring along," bail immediately. It's plain rude and manipulative to try to wedge "chaperones" or "date insurance" third parties in on a date. In light of her conduct, leaving you hanging and dissing your plans, remove this person from your life yesterday. Don't waste another second thinking about her. You got "BBD"ed, people who do that are beneath contempt and make crappy GFs or even friends for that matter. Best to get them out of your life. Oh and the "next time" is BS, she is trying to cover her obvious rudeness with crumbs, don't eat them.
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