rov Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 This is my story: Well my ex and I broke up in mid december telling me she wanted to be alone, I met this girl in june 2011 when she still had a boyfriend, they broke up in august and when that happened we started dating seriously,our relationship started in october 2011, it lasted 3 months. Since then she has contacted me on facebook several times and she is the one that always tell me to hang out with her, we have seen each other four times since the breakup and we had a good time with each other's companion, last time I saw her was about two weeks. She makes a lot of things that confuse me:1- Her msn profile pic is a pic of us together,2-Two weeks ago she uploaded a pic in facebook of us together and tagged me in the picture, 3-When I upload pictures to facebook she compliments me telling me that I look very handsome and cute, 4- She tells me things like: Do you still love me?, it seems like you dont miss me. . What confuses me is if she wants just to friendzone me or if she is taking things slow to get back together, we havent mention anything about reconcilation. When I hung out with her she acts flirty and likes touch my face, hands, etc. The other day she told me that she wanted to know if my parents hate her because of the breakup and i told her that they dont hate her. So I have 3 options: 1-Keep hanging with her and see what happens and avoid talking about the relationship 2-Ask her what does she really want with me 3-Go no contact and forget about her What would be the best option to follow?, I am very confused. Thanks
TaraMaiden Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 i would go for 2. I think in order to consider doing either one of the others, you need to know first of all where she stands....
Author rov Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 All of these signs by her might be signs of reconciliation or she is just playing games with me?
JasonRules Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 All of these signs by her might be signs of reconciliation or she is just playing games with me? Do you know what a sign of reconciliation is? She calls you and asks you out because she needs to talk to you. Unless she does that, everything else is simply childish games reserved for grammar school kids. I suggest you do NC and just disappear. Sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. 1
Nextlane Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Don't take her back. Don't do it please from the bottom of my heart and you will be better off!!!!!
Author rov Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Willl she want me to take her back or she is just playing games?
Mixin6 Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 You ever see a cat play with a half-dead mouse? The cat knows he could kill it at any time but he'd rather mess with it for whatever reason. Half the time he leaves it there to die on it's own. Watch what happens when another cat comes over and tries to play with his half-dead mouse......
Author rov Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 So, if I want to know what does she want, should I ask her or just wait some time?
Author rov Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 Yesterday I said Hello to her on facebook and she was a little distant with me, suddenly she stopped answering, maybe she was busy I dont know. What should I do in this case, should I ask her if she is angry with me, should I wait for her to contact me again or should I try again to contact her?. thanks
Author rov Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 This has happened some times before, where she acts distant and then a few days later she acts normal maybe she was busy I dont know.
Author rov Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 Do you think it was a good sign that the other day she asked me: Do you think it was a good idea that we split up?. Will she have intentions of getting back together?. We have been talking a lot this week. I will have to ask her this week what are her expectations of us
TaraMaiden Posted April 1, 2012 Posted April 1, 2012 I'll tell you what isn't a good sign. it's not a good sign that you're posting - 3 times now - and nobody's responding....
Author rov Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 Do you think that the fact that she told me last week this: Do you think we should have stayed together? do you think those words mean something important?, can they mean reconciliation?
EgoJoe Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I'm going to tell you the same thing I said to you on ENA. This girl is playing games.
black_shemer Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 ,wat u would do u wait for her plans to meet up again.and straight from her face tell her how much u feel about d things she do to you.with a question answerable by yes or no.if she said yes,den its up to u f u want her back.if no,go to 3 and forget her..i hope ive help u with this one.
Author rov Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 I talked to her personally and she told me that she is emotionally unavailiable at this time and that she doesnt want a relationship, she told me that two weeks ago she thought about reconciliation with me but at the end she got confused again. she told me that maybe in the future we can be back together but at the moment she just wants be friends with me. she also told me that she is not seeing anyone at this time.
Author rov Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 I talked to her personally and she told me that she is emotionally unavailiable at this time and that she doesnt want a relationship, she told me that two weeks ago she thought about reconciliation with me but at the end she got confused again. she told me that maybe in the future we can be back together but at the moment she just wants be friends with me. she also told me that she is not seeing anyone at this time.
sweetheart5381 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Life is way too short for games like this and love is not be a game. Your internal conflict about this will eat you alive, put an end to it for your own good. Be an adult, communicate clearly and ask her upfront what her intentions are. If they do not align with yours then end it. Point blank.
sweetheart5381 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I talked to her personally and she told me that she is emotionally unavailiable at this time and that she doesnt want a relationship, she told me that two weeks ago she thought about reconciliation with me but at the end she got confused again. she told me that maybe in the future we can be back together but at the moment she just wants be friends with me. she also told me that she is not seeing anyone at this time. I can honestly say, being "friends" is very hard - and the fact that she threw the part in there about not seeing anyone else is intentional - stringing you along. My ex is doing the same to me - wants to be friends, ended the relationship for space, etc. My advice would be to pay her no mind now. No attention, nothing. Let her pursue you if she wants, but don't get your hopes up.
Author rov Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 holy crap, she texted me today on facebook telling me she is sad about seeing me today for the last time and that she doesnt know what to do with us. she told me that she thinks Im for her. what the hell with her!
TaraMaiden Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Stay NO CONTACT!! She is fishing and throwing you breadcrumbs and doing her level best to exact a comment/response from you! Do NOT give it to her! the only thing you should listen to, from her, is a full and sincere 180! she must make it clear that she really wants to get back with you, is deeply sorry and would do whatever it takes to make it up to you! Anything else is a pile of crock!! Read the NC guide!!
wilsonx Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) Shes not playing games. Are people really this retarded and can't read whats right in front of them? She doesnt want a relationship! You do, so move forward and find someone else that wants a relationship Fix yourself, you are needy as hell. I understand you are in love with her Shes texting you because you have given her the option of being friendzoned. Thats all you are right now. Its not going to change any time soon. If you can't man up and accept this or move on, I'd suggest talking to someone about your problems. Edited April 14, 2012 by wilsonx
Author rov Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Well my ex and I broke up in mid december, since then she has contacted me on facebook several times and she is the one that always tell me to hang out with her, we have seen each other six times since the breakup and we had a good time with each other's companion. When I hung out with her she acted flirty and liked touch my face, hands, etc. She also made weird questions such as if I miss her and if I still love her. We hung out 6 times, each time she got physically closer to me, she even told me to massage her etc, she made collages of pics of us together, started to call me home and even told me to go to her family's events. All this started in february, toward the end of march it felt like if we were back together again. So on friday I confronted her and told her where she thinks we were going with all this and out of the blue she tells me: I dont want a relationship right now, I am very emotionally unstable and very immature but we can be friends and see what happens in the future, so I gave her a letter expressing all of my feelings and my perspective of the situation, she read it and in the night she sends me a message that she got she is sad and confused again because she saw me, that she thinks that maybe Im the one for her and that she doesnt know what to do. Well after all this she has contacted me three more times, the last time she told me that she got a new cellphone and that I should get one also so we can have conversations.... . Some background: When I met her she had a boyfriend, the broke up and she and I dated for a month and became a couple in october, she broke up with me a week later telling me she hasnt got over her ex, 4 days later we reconciliate, then 2 weeks later we broke up again because she tells me feels unstable and immature, then after this she keeps in contact with me. a week later she tells me that Im the one for her, that she loves me and that she feels stable, two weeks later same story happened and we broke up. A friend of her told me that when she broke up with me she returned to her ex for a week and then they broke up again because these guy doesnt treat her well. She and I broke up in december but Im sure that during that time she returned to this guy and broke up in february, I say this because she put some comments on facebook that said: Youll never forget the person you love but its better to be alone and all that crap. Two weeks ago she told me that when she dated me she was in love with me and that she had a great time, on friday she tells me that two weeks ago she thought about reconciliation but she got confused again. She told me that in her previous relationships she also got confused with her ex boyfriends and I remember when she was with the other guy she told me one day: I love him, he is the one for me and a week later she says: I dont see a future with him, he is not form me Im confused. She also has a very disfunctional family where the guy that lives with her mother hits her mom and her, when her father was married to her mom he broke her nose. When she was a child she lived with her aunts and grandmother because her mother didnt had enough time to take care of her because of work etc. Is she really messed up?, why does she change her mind all the time?, will she change some day?. . Is there any hope?. I feel depressed .
TaraMaiden Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 ...Why are you going through this again? Have you not kept up with this thread?
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