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quietGuy13 Established Member

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I have a mental/speech disability...so i can't speak and i can't speak like normal adults my age(30s)

 

In schools and Jobs anywhere i've gone.. no woman has ever been interested in me. Especially the ones my age.. they just love the yappy , talking, hip hop..basically they like speakers or smart guys who spkea maturely even if they're quiet.

 

How in the world can i then get a GF? Moreover, women want guys who are mature and fit their age. I'm very different and don't act like the typical adults my age.

 

So, how does a person like me get a GF?

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You write her emails or texts instead...next thread!

 

 

Also money is the key...there is NOTHING human females desire more than money....they will even have sex with you, if you have baby d*ck.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Troll post reported.

I'm just not giving them the time of day any more.....

leftfordead2 Established Member

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I have a mental/speech disability...so i can't speak and i can't speak like normal adults my age(30s)

 

In schools and Jobs anywhere i've gone.. no woman has ever been interested in me. Especially the ones my age.. they just love the yappy , talking, hip hop..basically they like speakers or smart guys who spkea maturely even if they're quiet.

 

How in the world can i then get a GF? Moreover, women want guys who are mature and fit their age. I'm very different and don't act like the typical adults my age.

 

So, how does a person like me get a GF?

 

Have you looked around for women similar to you?

Thieves Established Member

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How in the world can i then get a GF? Moreover, women want guys who are mature and fit their age. I'm very different and don't act like the typical adults my age.

 

So, how does a person like me get a GF?

 

What do you mean exactly when you say you don't act like typical adults your age? In what way?

 

My opinion on the matter is to, yes, be yourself -- but also realize that sometimes dating is about putting yourself out there for the other person to know who you are. The catch is that, even if you're quiet and you're naturally less talkative than other men around you, you may still have to push yourself out there more than you're used to in order to get through the first steps of meeting a woman who is girlfriend potential. Being quiet is perfectly fine, especially if it's ingrained in your personality, and many women actually admire that in a man... but you also can't expect that a woman will be willing to date you if at first you don't communicate in a way where's she able to get to know you well. This isn't you not being yourself, but putting your best foot forward. Part of the dating process is talking with the person and getting familiar with their personality to see if it'll eventually be a compatible match.

 

So, again, two of the bigger questions that you need to contemplate is:

 

1. Are you truly comfortable with the fact that you're more of a quiet guy?

2. Are you willing to step out of your comfort zone and push yourself more in order to achieve what you want (which is in this case, a girlfriend)?

 

Number one is especially important, because as you can guess, it ties directly in with self-confidence and being comfortable in your skin. Many people have barriers or challenges they have to push through when trying to meet people, and in fact I've known a few people with similar disability (whether physical or speaking-related) who simply learned to rise above their imperfections and do their best to meet someone, so don't believe for a second you're alone in this. Another solution may be to find someone similar to you (a girl who happens to be quiet too), like Leftfordead said, who will probably understand where you're coming from a little better. Though it remains the same that you'll still need to put in more effort to initially get her interest...

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So, how does a person like me get a GF?

 

You've asked this before in various threads across various Loveshack forums over the last year or so. You've received various bits of advice. To save anyone wasting their time giving the same advice again, could you let us know how you felt about the advice you previously received and, if you followed it, how it worked out for you?

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quietGuy13 Established Member

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I've told you how i feel. I thank you

 

but many people here just keep telling me to go out and talk with people. cause they don't quite get it. I can't talk i sound like a 4 year old and worse and girls my age just think i'm stupid. usually only some old ladies are the ones that like me as like their little son.

 

The majority of people my age think people like me are stupid losers...so i don't see why people say that i should just join clubs and activities.

 

All the people my age and younger are fast paced..talkaative people(some of them cocky)..

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There's no way to get around this. If you want a girlfriend, you're going to have to go out there and talk to women. Maybe take some speech classes or something along those lines.

 

Also, you can't keep worrying about what people think about you. It seems like you're waiting for someone to post some magical advice about your situation. Advice can only go but so far if you remain stuck in your ways without any motivation to make any changes.

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I have a mental/speech disability...so i can't speak and i can't speak like normal adults my age(30s)

 

In schools and Jobs anywhere i've gone.. no woman has ever been interested in me. Especially the ones my age.. they just love the yappy , talking, hip hop..basically they like speakers or smart guys who spkea maturely even if they're quiet.

 

How in the world can i then get a GF? Moreover, women want guys who are mature and fit their age. I'm very different and don't act like the typical adults my age.

 

So, how does a person like me get a GF?

 

Pray to the mighty Lord, God. I prayed to God for ten million dollars and the next day I won the lottery. God has a plan for you, really he does.

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There's no way to get around this. If you want a girlfriend, you're going to have to go out there and talk to women. Maybe take some speech classes or something along those lines.

 

Also, you can't keep worrying about what people think about you. It seems like you're waiting for someone to post some magical advice about your situation. Advice can only go but so far if you remain stuck in your ways without any motivation to make any changes.

 

QFT - !!!

 

Jeesh....

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