xztjohn Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 (edited) Me and my ex dated for a year and a half before she lived with 3 other girls and 4 other guys. Before she said this guy is kinda creepy and I used to hang out at their house and I was able to be friendly with everyone except that dude. I was very cold and distant towards me. Well I broke up with her and wanted her back soon after this guy started going after her tellling her all these sweet things,taking her out to dinner, posting on facebook with cheesey quotes right after our break up, basically rubbing it in my face. He deleted it soon after prob cause my ex told him to. A week after at a party I saw her there and wanted to talk to her and she got pissed stormed out cause I wanted her back. Then I left the party and he has the nerve to go up to my friend there and says where the **** john and **** john to my friend. I swear him having the nerve to say that when i was gone makes my blood boil. I saw this guy one time when I was walking to class I looked at him and said watsup man, man he looks so scared he liked looked down, look to the side and then mumbled hey. This guy is really ugly who has loads of cash and spends it all on her. He has alot of acne. She told me after the break up when I was talking to her that she think he is ugly and is not as handsome as me but he treats her well. She said she doesnt love him as much as me yet. She had other boyfriends before to. During 3 months of the break up she wanted me back sooooo bad, begged, texted, crying and everything. But I was not gonna take her back cause she put me through so much **** and she had sex with this guy. Shows how much she loves him if she is willing to leave him just like that right? My good friend who has no involvement in this, after 5 or 6 months after the break up he was at one of their house party. He saw him and wanted to have a word with him and threatened to kick him out of the house, but said nvm. My friend did nothing wrong and had no involvement in this. My ex played a large role in this cause she manipulated the both of us and calls me and texts me even to this day. I am pretty over her and have been ignoring all of her attempts to contact me for along time now and have no desire to ever contact her. But I still have this anger towards this dude. Like if he did anything to me even it was very little, I can't say I would not love to smash this guy. She would have never gotten with him if he did not take her when she was very vulnerable. Its been 6 months now and every once in awhile when I think about that guy it boils my blood. What you guys think? Edited March 23, 2012 by xztjohn
TaraMaiden Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I think you need to rise above it and walk away, because unfortunately, much as you may not think so - this is no longer any of your business. blank you ex off completely if you do not wish to communicate with her, or hear form her, but insofar as this guy is concerned - he doesn't deserve your rsge because it takes 2 to tango, and she betrayed you. his fault is that he is now with your ex. for whatever reasons, she chose him not you. so honestly - you need to let it go.
smudge21 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 You're definitely thinking far too much about this and him. Fair enough, we all think about the ex and it can last a long time, but to worry over their new partner is just wrong. As Tara wonderfully points out, it's not your business anymore, so why get worked up over it. She's made her choices in life, so let her be. The only one getting damaged by all this is you, so what good comes from it all? Move on, mentally and physically, for your own sake.
Author xztjohn Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 does having relationships like that really last? i would love to see ur guyss opinions of them.
TaraMaiden Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 it doesn't matter whether they do or not. All you have to realise is that yours didn't. you need to leave this alone, and concentrate on yourself. They are not your concern, and you have to mind your business. That's you. Not her, not him: You.
smudge21 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 does having relationships like that really last? i would love to see ur guyss opinions of them. I see what you're looking for here - you want someone, anyone to confirm what you want to be true. You want someone to say that no she'll be single again and then available. You're looking for answers to questions that aren't being asked. You just want something to feed that tiny bit of hope you still have. Move on mate, best you can. Try to ignore all this and work on yourself, think of only yourself. Be selfish and do whatever you want to do, for you, no one else. However, if you want some opinions, how about this - say this relationship doesn't last. She goes single. You hear about it. You smile inside. Then you hear she's dating another new guy. More pain and more hurt come your way and you're back here asking the same questions. This circle doesn't end until you end it. The power is all in you to do so...
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