GaelicSoul Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Hi all, this is my first post in this part of the forums. Here my situation. I met a beautiful German girl in January in Australia. Sadily we only got to spend 2 days with eachother, as she had to go home to Munich. I have recently moved here from Europe, and i'm not sure how long i will be here. However though, it wont be long term, as i will return home in the next 1-2 years. Im 28, shes 25. She is amazing. Beautiful, smart, funny and really caring. She's been very keen to keep in contact the last 2 months, and we talk most days through FB, or Skype. She told me she doesn't care how long i'm here, as she is prepared to wait.. as crazy as it sounds. I really miss her, but we know we have a really strong attraction, and it has got stronger rather than weaken in the last 2 months. What do you guys think, am i mad? I'm happy at the moment, as i'm travelling and seeing the world, and come along way from the sad broken hearted man 12 month ago. I have told her i will do everything in my power to be with her again in the future, however right now, i'm focusing on getting my career back, and finish what i set out to do last year. She is happy for me, obviously sad, but honest with her feelings. Anyway, what do you guys think?
jerbear Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 This is hard with matters of the heart and career. You need your career to get you to where you want to be. Your heart is in Germany. Sometimes those two do not jive together. You two still maintain contact by FB and Skype which helps with the mental connection. For the physical connection, I suggest you take a week off to visit her. Sometimes you have to stop and smell the flowers, experience life with her and go from there. You will always go back to the one you love.
Author GaelicSoul Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Thanks for the feedback. We haven't seen eachother since Jan, and i'm not sure when i will see her again, due to finances, the distance and work. But she is an amazing girl, and very honest with me, which is a first I hope to get back to europe later this year for a visit.
creighton0123 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 You are mad. She is mad. You spent two days together. Move on.
ZacThomas Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Career is foremost priority of your life. You to have to grap this opportunity. Rest is on you what you decide for your life.
LDR Nation Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 You spent two days together, and you've talked to her through Facebook and Skype ever since. From what you've said, your relationship with her hasn't grown enough to throw your career away for it. It's new, and it's not solid. Talking to her is fine, but don't mess up your life by leaving your job / moving somewhere totally new for someone that you barely know. If you really think this can be the real deal, I suggest visiting her or arranging her to visit you. Take it slow, and move carefully. But take care of yourself above all. Hope that helps you! LDR Nation
KylesFloating Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Funny but I can quite relate to that, and no you're not crazy but I asked myself the same thing. I kept thinking...I must be crazy?!? Then I saw she felt the same way, so I started to think alright maybe I'm not crazy but truly love is crazy, no? Only those two people in love can understand. I met this girl in passing when she was visiting Houston (she lives in Miami) through mutual acquaintances but she didn't pay any attention whatsoever to me because she had a boyfriend. We became facebook friends but never talked, but I just was absolutely taken with her. I thought she was the most beautiful girl in the world. Literally. Anyways, I would day dream about her and sometimes even tell me friend and show her pictures..this girl, man she's literally the most beautiful girl in the world. I can't get over it and I just have to know her. I didn't want to infringe on her relationship so I kept my distance and we never talked for 9 months or more. She became single and had been single for a few months when out of the blue she contacted me! I was shocked but it was amazing and we instantly had that connection - probably like what you experienced. It's maybe just fortunate but she's literally exactly what I want, and I guess I must be that to her. We compliment each other perfectly but are also different enough that it's great. I mean, I felt myself falling in love with this girl well before I'd normally feel comfortable with that. I couldn't help it though! I took a few months to truly get to know her, make sure her motivations were all good, make sure she really was this wonderful girl I saw her as, and she honestly was. She stayed true to me and even before we spent time together she told me she'd wait until I could visit in Miami. I didn't expect that of her, but she chose to do that and it meant the world. As soon as I visited and we were together it was just an even stronger connection. It was like something from the movies, perfect. We spent 2 weeks together and it was the best 2 weeks of my life. Of course it was very hard to leave and from then I fell quite in love with her. It's been a month and a couple weeks since I last saw her, and it feels like forever, but she's only continued to stay true and I only love her more and more. I am realizing that I can't just let this go, she really could be that perfect one--my soulmate--and that does sound crazy but it could be true and you'll never know if you find out. Temptation is the ultimate test, and for whatever reason I've had women throwing themselves at me sometimes (likely because I pay them no attention) and it's not even hard to resist. None of them could ever compare to her, so that tells me...if I don't at least follow this through with her, I would hate myself forever. You can't pass up a chance at true happiness, true love, when so many in this world just settle. If you feel the same way, you already know what to do. You're not crazy but you have to take a step back and see where things are headed but if it's true love you feel and you she feels the same; don't give up.
Author GaelicSoul Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Thanks for all the feedback guys. ill post more in time. Things are going well, and i'm very happy right now. I'm not about to do anything silly, or throw my career away. But plans are underway, from both sides for the near future. Interesting times.
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