Lonelystar Posted June 12, 2004 Posted June 12, 2004 I don't know what to do. My ex keeps talking **** about me, and I have no clue why. After the break up he is the one that contacted me, and decided at one point he didn't want to talk to me. I have left it alone, and have not told anyone about the personal info he has shared with me. Why does he keep telling people the things I have told him? I don't know why I trusted him, and what benefits he gets by hurting me like this.
dudesomewhere Posted June 12, 2004 Posted June 12, 2004 some people are just like that...I always keep those issues to myself...or of course post on anon forums . Others like to divulge in public, it's another way to make themselves feel important or worth something...to show others this and that.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 12, 2004 Author Posted June 12, 2004 Yeah I suppose. I just wish he was more mature. Oh well. When he pulls stunts like this makes me know I did the right thing saying no to him when he wanted me back. I could stoop to his level as well, but I'm just going to let it go and be the bigger person, even though revenge is sweet heh.
surfgurl Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 Obviously he is immature and dealing with feelings of inferiority. In his mind he has put you above him, but to the outside world, he has to make himself be the "better" person in front of his friends and that inadvertently boosts his ego. Not all people are aware of the pedestal they have put other people on, so don't assume that he is consciously aware of the pedestal that he has you on. What your ex-boyfriend is doing is demonstrating his poor coping skills. It's of no relevance who broke up with who, but the guy is hurt. He doesn't really know how to deal with your separation. Talking s*** about you is a way to help him get through it. He probably is encouraged by his peers (friends) who chime in and laugh with him when he talks about you. Not to bore you, but I've been there before. You have to make a conscious decision about what to do though. (1) You can ignore it and tell yourself that you're better (more mature) than he is. (2) Participate in his games and starting spreading rumours about him. (3) Prank call him. (that was totally random....hahaha) If you want to maintain your dignity though, just ignore it. The things that he says about you force the people who listen to them to make a decision of their own (whether or not to believe the truth in them). Your character is the convincing factor here. If you continue living your life day by day without an outburst of retaliation, he ends up looking like the fool. Good Luck!!! Please reply as to which decision you're going to make.
Author Lonelystar Posted June 14, 2004 Author Posted June 14, 2004 My friends have been telling me that too. His friends say that he is a dork and that I should ignore what he says because he is hurt. I'm friends with his friends too, and they told me I'm way better than him and deserve someone better. I think I'm going to just let it go , and ignore him. I could start saying a lot of things too ....stuff that would ruin him basically if anyone found out , but I'm not going to. I'm better than that...and I want to let him know that I can handle anything he throws at me. Hah..prank calling him would be fun too...but i'm usually bad at those things. I wouldn't know what to say and such. I just don't understand why some people have to be so immature about a break up situation. Okay we are over, let it go ...move on. He wanted to end the relationship....and I moved on, so should he. So i'm going to listen to your advice, and keep my diginity. He can be the one looking like a fool. Thanks for the luck! Goodluck to you too!!
secondstage2004 Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 Originally posted by surfgurl If you want to maintain your dignity though, just ignore it. The things that he says about you force the people who listen to them to make a decision of their own (whether or not to believe the truth in them). Your character is the convincing factor here. If you continue living your life day by day without an outburst of retaliation, he ends up looking like the fool. I was also lambasted and treated like garbage by my ex.. I even heard that she was telling her friends that I was planets away from her ideal guy, and I was weak blah-blah. I may not be perfect, but I know I am much more than how she pictured me to be. You are so right that it is best to ignore an ex's hurtful remarks. An eye for an eye will make the world go blind. Being sober will definitely make you a better person in the long run .....
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