shorty7 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hello~ I'm a little shorter than 5', he's nearly 6'5". (I swear, shorter/smaller the girl, the taller the guy). How can I tactfully/gracefully convince my guy that taking Salsa dancing lessons over the summer would be fun? (He's extremely stubborn, doesn't like to exercise, is not entirely convinced that he's a terrible dancer, a little lazy, could stand to lose 20-30lbs but doesn't like admitting it, gets butt hurt about it when someone else mentions his fat but doesn't mind whining about it--to be fair, I avoid any of these discussion points at all costs) We would have been dating for exactly 98 months next week. We are separated by the Pacific Ocean (roughly 6000 miles) since he teaches overseas. He'll be home for the summer, but I won't have much PTO at all so I want some sort of activity to do together that can be both fun and memorable (and possibly useful for instances where we'd need to dance in public in the future) for the both of us. I've thought of camping instead since that's an activity we both know we both enjoy, but I really don't have much PTO this summer and it's really not fun trying to do short 2-nights-or-less camping trips on the weekends. I want to do something that would get us out, something new, and something active that doesn't require that we take mini-vacation esque amounts of time. I've always felt really awkward dancing with him in the years we've dated and I'm not a very good dancer at all either, but it's something I enjoy doing when I have the opportunity to take part in it. It's just not that fun with him due to the height difference. I think that can be remedied so long as we both learn techniques to get over that. Knowing him, if I just start without him, he's going to be convinced that I don't want him to partake in it and sulk about me not skipping lessons for 6 weeks to spend time with him on evenings I can. On the other hand if I ask him to join when he gets back, he's just going to be lazy on me and try to pull off not going, or schedule doing something he can on his own while I have my lesson. Thanks in advance!
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