PJKino Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 (edited) I have a friend who women flock to he always has women asking about him interested in him etc meanwhile im the exact opposite im invisbile to women,if i approach they usually what nothing to do with me As a friend i feel i should be happy for him but i just get jealous of him and wish i had it as easy as him:laugh: everytime i talk to a women and she asks me about him i get a little angry i know its not his fault but it sucks lol Edited March 22, 2012 by PJKino
ditzchic Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Women don't flock to you because you are the type of guy that gets jealous of his friends. Clear lack of confidence. 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Jealousy is a natural human emotion.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 He's just better looking than you that's all, nothing special...I would get some uglier friends or approach women alone Oh and women who don't know you are associated with him, but then again you must be young so this is kinda normal.
ThaWholigan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I have lots of friends like this. I have brothers like this even. I don't get jealous, in fact I often encourage them. If a girl I'm moving to asks me about them, I always act the conduit and get it together. I'm not concerned really, and you shouldn't be either. Try to emulate your friend and ask him for advice. 1
Author PJKino Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 I have lots of friends like this. I have brothers like this even. I don't get jealous, in fact I often encourage them. If a girl I'm moving to asks me about them, I always act the conduit and get it together. I'm not concerned really, and you shouldn't be either. Try to emulate your friend and ask him for advice. I hear you,as far as advice or to emulate him i guess id have to buy something that would make me good looking:laugh:
ThaWholigan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I hear you,as far as advice or to emulate him i guess id have to buy something that would make me good looking:laugh: I always say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. With regards to being good looking, there are ways to enhance your looks that include improving body language, working out, even improving your eye health can help a great deal.
Author PJKino Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 I always say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. With regards to being good looking, there are ways to enhance your looks that include improving body language, working out, even improving your eye health can help a great deal. ehh im in decent shape just my face i cant fix unfortunately:laugh:
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Girls like an ugly face. So if you look normal or good don't worry about your friend if he looks better.
ThaWholigan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 ehh im in decent shape just my face i cant fix unfortunately:laugh: Don't worry about your face, even that can be improved, maybe a haircut, facial hair and accentuation of certain features, it can work. There are going to be women out there who think your face is beautiful. Don't sweat it so much. Think of yourself as good-looking and women will probably respond to you better.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I have a friend who women flock to he always has women asking about him interested in him etc meanwhile im the exact opposite im invisbile to women,if i approach they usually what nothing to do with me As a friend i feel i should be happy for him but i just get jealous of him and wish i had it as easy as him:laugh: everytime i talk to a women and she asks me about him i get a little angry i know its not his fault but it sucks lol There's something I don't get...so what's stopping you from asking him for advice?
Author PJKino Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 There's something I don't get...so what's stopping you from asking him for advice? Women are physically attracted to him and hang all over him really not much i can take from that
verhrzn Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Women are physically attracted to him and hang all over him really not much i can take from that Except he can give you tips on how to look more attractive... dress better, better body language, how to do your hair and stuff. 1
ptp Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Except he can give you tips on how to look more attractive... dress better, better body language, how to do your hair and stuff. Ehh, From personal experience all of those things are very minor improvements if a guy is unattractive he is unattractive. OP, No point in spending energy on being jealous, it gets you no where. That is the way of the world, more women are going to be attracted to good looking guys. Let me ask you a question, would you want to date a girl who you knew was more interested in your friend? If not, then are you really losing out on anything? It is very important to find someone who likes you for you.
Author PJKino Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Except he can give you tips on how to look more attractive... dress better, better body language, how to do your hair and stuff. Im not a slob i dress pretty well
Shaun-Dro Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I have a friend who women flock to he always has women asking about him interested in him etc meanwhile im the exact opposite im invisbile to women,if i approach they usually what nothing to do with me As a friend i feel i should be happy for him but i just get jealous of him and wish i had it as easy as him:laugh: everytime i talk to a women and she asks me about him i get a little angry i know its not his fault but it sucks lol Jealousy is certainly not the way to go in this matter. My best advice is to hang out with him as much as possible and pick up pointers. You have to go in with the "I don't give a damn" attitude when you do this so all of the rejections won't faze you. I've gone through similar with a friend not too long ago. He started off as a failure with women, but he kept at it and eventually his game went up, as did his confidence, so now he gets hit or miss with women, instead of always missing the target. You must practice the same approach.
Feelsgoodman Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hey, life is not fair. You have to play the hand you are dealt. Right now, some guy who could have been the next ladykiller don juan is being aborted by his mother. Life is 80% luck of the draw and 20% what you make of it. Start focusing on the 20%.
ThaWholigan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Im not a slob i dress pretty well Dressing well and dressing attractively are in some cases different. 1
verhrzn Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Im not a slob i dress pretty well Your idea of dressing well, and what actually looks good on you (and what attracts women) could be two completely different things. 1
mr_sexxxy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Yeah, I can't really keep my wingmen. They usually get so pissed off at the imbalance of success they can't handle it. First, they'll make some snide remarks. Then, they will just become openly bitter and refuse to even speak to me anymore. I figured I could go out with women as wingmen. They are just as jealous, sadly. This is one area where it is impossible to put egos aside. Take a look at the so-called advice on this board. 90-95% of the time, the feedback is "s/he's not interested." It upsets people when others feel attraction to someone besides themselves. Fact. I have a friend who women flock to he always has women asking about him interested in him etc meanwhile im the exact opposite im invisbile to women,if i approach they usually what nothing to do with me As a friend i feel i should be happy for him but i just get jealous of him and wish i had it as easy as him:laugh: everytime i talk to a women and she asks me about him i get a little angry i know its not his fault but it sucks lol
dasein Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 It is wrong to be jealous, but not wrong to poke holes in his condoms with a pin. 1
phineas Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 It is wrong to be jealous, but not wrong to poke holes in his condoms with a pin. Odds are he will run through enough women that he will eventually meet one that does it herself. The thing with guys that slay on a regular basis is eventually one of the women he's using for sex will know another woman he used for sex & they will seek revenge. Knew a guy who was slaying 3 different girls at work in 3 different departments (yeah, he was THAT good) He had to quit because he got caught (not sure what he was thinking) and literally EVERY woman made things very difficult for him. another co-worker used a VP's daughter for sex. Broke his little girls heart. Suddenly mr MBA wasn't cutting the mustard in his current position & no department in the corporation would take him. They get cocky or run into a crazy & they have to relocate in order to get some play.
Leigh 87 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I had a friend in high school, my best friend, who guys flocked to. I was very jealous and upset when good things happened to her, because jealously only occurs when YOU are not happy within yourself. Fast forward ten years, and I can tell ya... I am not the prettiest girl that guys flock to from the outset, but if I had a girl who guys hit on a lot, I would not CARE. I would focus on smiling, having fun, being positive. The guys who hit on her would then see me as her awesome friend who they love being around, eventhough I am not the one they want to take home. You do not have to be bitter about the cards your dealt. I'm not. I would love to be more attractive, but I just smile, and be very positive about what I have been given. A smiling person who has hot friends, at least attracts posotive people in their lives. They do not have guys hitting on them, but they have a rich life, just as good as a girl who gets hit on. That is my lesson I have learnt. It does nto HAVE to suck, that your not as attractive as your mates that get hit on when you go out. You can CHOOSE to either be : grr this sucks, life is less great for me because I was not born that attractive: or, you can be like " wow, I have legs that work, I am healthy, I am a great person who great people will want to accociate with, I can have a life that is evry bit as good as a more attractive person. YOu can have every bit as much fun and have a life that is just as good as a more attractive person, so why let it get to you? 1
stillafool Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 ehh im in decent shape just my face i cant fix unfortunately:laugh: Especially with men, a good body is more important to women. You can fix your face with good haircut, skincare, teeth, etc., and women will want you.
Leigh 87 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 In a lot of cases, a person simply is not attractive, or they are only moderately attractive, but not enough to pull a lot of women. If your moderately attractive, if the guy does NOT already try hard, they could make a difference; however, a lot of men do try hard and that simply are only attractive to a certain point. In most cases, having a great attitude helps with the ladies. Shallow women are not worthy of a quaity guy, but women like me for instance, go for personality, and only require the guy be attractive to us to a small extent. When I am out, and when quality women that ar enot all about looks go out, we like guys who are nice, friendly, and have great character. Better looking men get the best looking women who are shallow to swoon over them at first glance, but the quality girls who are normally cute and not shallow, prefer men with great personalities, who ALSO have the ability to project their great personalities.
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