BurntBroski Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 At one point in time, her beauty on the outside matched her beauty on the inside. The past version of herself is what I've put on a pedestal. At one point time (repeating myself...), she was an absolute sweetiepie. A lot of smiling, a lot of giggling, a lot of hysterical laughter, a lot of in depth discussions, and a lot of good times. The best times, actually. She was gorgeous, an absolute stunner. Could have been a model if she was taller. Everything was incredible about her. The thing is, she turned into an excessive liar, eventually a cheater, and her attitude had the undertones of a bitterly sarcastic person. The problem is, I keep putting her past self on a pedestal. Every girl I encounter, I compare them to the way she used to be. How in the heck do I get it through my thick skull that she's completely different than who she once was? How do I stop putting her past self on a pedestal? She used to be so great, and I keep glorifying that aspect. Even when I anger myself over thinking about the girl she turned herself into, I think back to the good times when she wasn't like she is now. I'm losing my mind. I need to get her off this high perched pedestal.
marqueemoon4 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 How do you get her off the pedestal? I suggest a reverse suplex from the top rope.
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Why did she change? how far into your relationship....?
VirileEntity Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Keep hammering it into your mind that she doesn't deserve you. She obviously doesn't if she lied and cheated. Judging from your other thread, she's incredibly unstable. Go out and enjoy your hobbies. Do whatever you can to stop thinking about her. She obviously isn't that great if she screwed you over like that. 1
Author BurntBroski Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) Why did she change? how far into your relationship....? See: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/317848-i-want-send-her-text-letter-about-things-i-found-out How do you get her off the pedestal? I suggest a reverse suplex from the top rope. I'll save that for you, Jim Ross. Keep hammering it into your mind that she doesn't deserve you. She obviously doesn't if she lied and cheated. Judging from your other thread, she's incredibly unstable. Go out and enjoy your hobbies. Do whatever you can to stop thinking about her. She obviously isn't that great if she screwed you over like that. Easier said than done. I want to stop drinking. It takes the edge off and relieves the unwanted anxiety, temporarily anyway. I put her past self on the pedestal over her current self. I guess I just need to remember that she changed (negatively). That becomes a problem, as well, because I just end up remembering the person she was. Edited March 24, 2012 by BurntBroski
TaraMaiden Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 'WAS' isn't 'IS', and 'was' is irretrievable. Stop drinking - get rid of every single drop of alcohol within a 5-mile radius to you, because hiding in a bottle still means you get to see through the glass... it's just all distorted. you need a clear head to think about what you're doing to yourself..... 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Please do not drink; your problems will be waiting for you full force when you sober up. Go through the healing in a healthy way, grieve when you need to and as much as possible. You have to face it; alcohol isn't good for this at all. I took an antidepressant for awhile; took off the edge, but then I decided to get off it; I weaned and it was an awful 2 weeks of withdrawal with my sadness waiting for me at the end of the line. Analyze, think, talk, scream, cry, yell, do what you need to to get this out of your system--just don't harm yourself with alcohol and other junk like that.
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