Lonely_lonely Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hiya ,First let me say that this is not the account owner,im just using hers because I dont feel like signing up and she let me use it I'm Jessie and here is my story I knew this man for quite a while now, he is charming, handsome, mature and he has everytime I want in the man of my dreams, me and him talked for about 2 years on and off, (because i wasnt intrested to get in a relationship at that time even though he is perfect) ,he always showed intrest in me and wanted to get to know me but I was hesitant about it since we live far away from each other and I'm not intrested in LDRs. Now we are back talking BUT -When we are texting his responses are very short! One word sometimes. -he takes hours to reply , sometimes he takes days! 4-5 at most . -his longest replies are when we talking about sex and fantasies -he always seems distant. I'm confused he seems not intrested but whenever we talk He complains why I don't talk to him much and why he has always to be the first one to hit me up! I don't hit him up because It's just a weird situation , it makes me uncomfortable, I still like him a lot though! , he tells me that he wants us to meet soon and he is planning for it and whenever we talk he talks about that upcoming trip. I always reply whenever he texts and I don't mention that it bothers me that he disappears , I act normal like I don't notice that he was gone . He hit me up just now after he disappeared for 5 days asking me if we are ever going to talk again?! What does he want ? He is not intrested ? What can I do to get closer to him and get him more responsive to me ! Is there any "dating techniques" I can pull on him to get him closer to me ?
FitChick Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 He is probably married and just looking for phone sex. I doubt he would spend money to meet you if sex wasn't guaranteed. Move on!
Mr. Slim Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 No reply?????? It's almost too silly to reply to. You refuse to initiate, he plays dumb and disappears, etc. Time to pull the plug on the silliness. 1
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 How it's silly ? Can you please explain , I already explained why I don't initiate!
FitChick Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 He is NOT married lol If he lives far away, how do you know? Google him. Of course, perhaps you are both kids. That would explain the silliness.
Hear Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hiya ,First let me say that this is not the account owner,im just using hers because I dont feel like signing up and she let me use it I'm Jessie and here is my story I knew this man for quite a while now, he is charming, handsome, mature and he has everytime I want in the man of my dreams, me and him talked for about 2 years on and off, (because i wasnt intrested to get in a relationship at that time even though he is perfect) ,he always showed intrest in me and wanted to get to know me but I was hesitant about it since we live far away from each other and I'm not intrested in LDRs. Now we are back talking BUT -When we are texting his responses are very short! One word sometimes. -he takes hours to reply , sometimes he takes days! 4-5 at most . -his longest replies are when we talking about sex and fantasies -he always seems distant. I'm confused he seems not intrested but whenever we talk He complains why I don't talk to him much and why he has always to be the first one to hit me up! I don't hit him up because It's just a weird situation , it makes me uncomfortable, I still like him a lot though! , he tells me that he wants us to meet soon and he is planning for it and whenever we talk he talks about that upcoming trip. I always reply whenever he texts and I don't mention that it bothers me that he disappears , I act normal like I don't notice that he was gone . He hit me up just now after he disappeared for 5 days asking me if we are ever going to talk again?! What does he want ? He is not intrested ? What can I do to get closer to him and get him more responsive to me ! Is there any "dating techniques" I can pull on him to get him closer to me ? Why is it weird and why you feel uncomfortable?
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Isn't this forum supposed to help people or what? What's up with the bitter responses who are you to judge me? I asked you for help and your input my situation, not me! Now to answer your question "hear" I feel uncomfortable because I already feel that he is not as he was intrested in me as before , even though he say he is very intrested , but actions speaks louder than words I guess .i don't want to initiate contact with him so he won't think I'm needy or desperate of him
Hear Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Isn't this forum supposed to help people or what? What's up with the bitter responses who are you to judge me? I asked you for help and your input my situation, not me! Now to answer your question "hear" I feel uncomfortable because I already feel that he is not as he was intrested in me as before , even though he say he is very intrested , but actions speaks louder than words I guess .i don't want to initiate contact with him so he won't think I'm needy or desperate of him But you ARE needy and desperate for him..that is why you here asking for help to get him...you know what..I am that guy and you are a woman I know...so now i know 100% when before 80% that she is in to me..and has feelings..but too proud to show it and is playing games..I am sure the guy you know is like me..... So...like him I would not contact you unless I see some action from you as proof of attraction..since i tried ones and you were not ready then..or whatever..it is up to you to show interest since you rejected him before... Be proud and be alone! If he is smart like me..he will stay away and not play your games....the best way to win female mind games, is not to play! 1
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 (edited) Im way far from needy and Desperate , I just like him and I never acted in a needy way in front of him! It's not a game really , when he acts like I addressed above he makes me feel like this way, I'm now dancing to HIS music Edited March 23, 2012 by Lonely_lonely
2sunny Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Stop responding. He's looking for sex. That's why you only get him corresponding when the sex is presented. Otherwise - one word answered ... Shows he's not interested in getting to know YOU - just wants to talk sex! So stop responding at all. 1
Hear Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 (edited) it is all a power play. I woman i was seeing, likes to be in control aka make others dance to her music...well...I am Taurus baby..I don't dance for anyone...I have my own steady melody i dance to..and in order to be with me...you got to walk my path..but..it is not about control. I don't make people dance to my beat...I just show or tell them, that it is the only beat I will dance to, you can join me or move along. Did you guys ever had sex? Edited March 23, 2012 by Hear
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 No we haven't had sex , we almost kissed before , but I stopped him (cause it was too soon) and nothing was going on between us , and I didn't want to fall in the "friends with benefits" category Today he returned to texting me all day , being all sweet and loving , ahhhhh I just don't get it
WoMann Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 He likes the attention hun....i bet you are cute...he even wanted a relationship with you at one time right?...If you want him..really want him, you would need to be more aggressive and show him that now, you do really like him. Call more etc.
Author Lonely_lonely Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Yes he wanted and still want a relationship , and he tells me to tell him whenever I "stop feeling him" so he won't waste his time liking someone who doesn't like him in the same way back , but then at the same time he acts distant Then now he wrote on his facebook page that "someone special in his mind" and 20+ women and his buddies were commenting on it , one woman wrote him this "you are on my mind too" He jumps and reply immediately and write "ok ok I give in I'm thinking of this very precious, gorgeous woman _______ ) and he tagged me ! I was really surprised , because he don't do such things usually I was flattered because the women on his page are so beautiful and he is super hot as well , women really are like flies around him I don't know really , he knows that I like him but I think he is mad at me because when he asked me before to be with him I said no ??
Recommended Posts