starla33 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Im talking about a week or more of no contact...what does that mean? Did he suddenly realize after a week he wants to see you again? I always figured if a guy is really into you he will ask on the next date ASAP
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 No contact isn't a good sign. Why didn't you ask him if you had such a good time?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 What does he do, travel for work? He backburned you for a week to date other people and then decided to come back and see if you are interested. This happens alot on internet dating. 1
westrock Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Has he asked you on the third date? If he has asked you out on the third date, even if he waited a week, then it means he's interested. Don't focus on the fact he waited a week, instead focus on the here and now. Enjoy your third date.
zengirl Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 It's not a good sign, but if he's asked you and you want to go, you should go. It may not be a death knell either. Just wait and see. Don't get ahead of yourself.
Mantis Toboggan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Im talking about a week or more of no contact...what does that mean? Did he suddenly realize after a week he wants to see you again? I always figured if a guy is really into you he will ask on the next date ASAP Maybe he has a life. And compared to other great things that he's doing with his time, dating isn't one of his top priorities. I'm sure you're fantastic, but reality is, you're some lady he went on 2 dates with. Let's hit the brakes and slow this thing down a bit. Liking a girl doesn't necessarily mean that I'm all weak in the knees, heart-racing at the thought of seeing her again. He asked you out again. It's not like it was after 3 months of not speaking. Why worry? You're good.
Author starla33 Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Maybe he has a life. And compared to other great things that he's doing with his time, dating isn't one of his top priorities. I'm sure you're fantastic, but reality is, you're some lady he went on 2 dates with. Let's hit the brakes and slow this thing down a bit. Liking a girl doesn't necessarily mean that I'm all weak in the knees, heart-racing at the thought of seeing her again. He asked you out again. It's not like it was after 3 months of not speaking. Why worry? You're good. You are right and have a good point there. I have had guys come out of the woodworks sometimes and ask me out again after a month or so. I'm not sure what that means exactly, but WTF? They really think I"m going to go out with them again after they fall off the face of the earth for a month?! What a joke! If you don't have time to date then don't bother on going on dates at all, especially when you know the other person is not looking for something casual.
Author starla33 Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 What does he do, travel for work? He backburned you for a week to date other people and then decided to come back and see if you are interested. This happens alot on internet dating. Yep this is an internet dating guy. We actually had an AMAZING time he was super affectionate (no he wasn't trying to sleep with me) and then has not bothered to ask me out again. Odd....very odd indeed. I'm going to quit online dating because this seems to happen all the time to me on dating sites...while with people I meet in the real world this rarely happens.
Mr. Slim Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 A week, seriously? That's nothing... and you've only been out twice anyway. Where's the fire? Age could have something to do with it. If he's 19, OK maybe a bit of a flag. For me in the very beginning I only date once a week because I have to put a lot of time in at the office and it wears me out. I don't want to put in a tired, crappy performance in when we are supposed to be in the impression stage.
Author starla33 Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 A week, seriously? That's nothing... and you've only been out twice anyway. Where's the fire? Age could have something to do with it. If he's 19, OK maybe a bit of a flag. For me in the very beginning I only date once a week because I have to put a lot of time in at the office and it wears me out. I don't want to put in a tired, crappy performance in when we are supposed to be in the impression stage. For sure hes not that young, but I guess this guy would rather sit home and relax than go out on another date with me it seems. oh well! Next
FitChick Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I don't see how you can expect someone to admit to undying love for you after two dates. You both should be seeing others but if you like each other, keep dating but don't have sex. Which dating website are you on? That can make a difference some time.
Author starla33 Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 I don't see how you can expect someone to admit to undying love for you after two dates. You both should be seeing others but if you like each other, keep dating but don't have sex. Which dating website are you on? That can make a difference some time. I'm on a few. This is from a free one, and see my posts about multi-dating. Not into that.
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You know you sure ask a lot of BASIC questions for a girl who claims to have hanged out extensively in the nerdiest of company PUA's. You think you'd have some theory on the subject... then again maybe thats why you like overanylyzing it... In the end it could mean a lot of things. Just ask him if bothers you. Also ask yourself "am I still into him?"
Mr. Slim Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 For sure hes not that young, but I guess this guy would rather sit home and relax than go out on another date with me it seems. oh well! Next But didn't he just actually do just that? If you really liked this guy, I can't believe you'd dismiss him so easily. What is your ideal scenario? Daily dates with flowers?
Andy_K Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 A week, seriously? That's nothing... and you've only been out twice anyway. Where's the fire? For me in the very beginning I only date once a week because I have to put a lot of time in at the office and it wears me out. I don't want to put in a tired, crappy performance in when we are supposed to be in the impression stage. Dating once a week is normal, but that's a whole world apart from waiting for a week before even asking for a date. I'm with Starla on this, as a guy if I want another date I'm going to be setting it up pretty soon after the last one, not maintaining radio silence for a week first. If I did that I'd expect to just be ignored next time I got in touch.
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 But didn't he just actually do just that? If you really liked this guy, I can't believe you'd dismiss him so easily. What is your ideal scenario? Daily dates with flowers? I think her issue is mainly the lack of contact for the whole week as well as the gap. I think a phone call is something that's quite polite and expected in between.
Mr. Slim Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I think her issue is mainly the lack of contact for the whole week as well as the gap. I think a phone call is something that's quite polite and expected in between. Why? He may not be a phone person, and I assume her phone works as well. Now personally, I would definitely be setting up the next date way faster than that, either on the same date or 1-2 days after. Still, very early on this isn't outrageous behavior (especially when you actually like the guy, as the OP claims). Again, a guy has offered to take you out for a good time at his expense. How is that a bad thing?
LexiB Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 But whose fault is it you didn't speak for entire week? Did you reach out to him at all during that time? If not, why? If he's been the one taking all of the initiative, there's a good possibility he attempted to gauge your interest by seeing how long it would take for you to get in touch with him. Not even necessarily to ask him out on a date, just to send a simple "hello" text. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 He could have got hit in the head and been in a coma for a week. You never know...
Mantis Toboggan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I think her issue is mainly the lack of contact for the whole week as well as the gap. I think a phone call is something that's quite polite and expected in between. For someone you've been on two dates with? Dating is supposed to be fun. It's not a contract. Neither of them owe each other anything. Just because I go on a date with a girl doesn't mean that: A) I need to see her again within a specific amount of time or B) I need to communicate with her 3 times per week before setting up the next date. We're talking about a woman this guy has hung out with twice. Not his girlfriend of 3 years.
filani Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 But whose fault is it you didn't speak for entire week? Did you reach out to him at all during that time? If not, why? If he's been the one taking all of the initiative, there's a good possibility he attempted to gauge your interest by seeing how long it would take for you to get in touch with him. Not even necessarily to ask him out on a date, just to send a simple "hello" text. Seconded @ starla The way I see It , this guy has done nothing wrong in this scenario. LexiB raised valid questions that are begging for answers. You come across like ur trying to get him to chase you perpetually and as far as quality guys go that is a major turn off. If I were in his shoes I would totally NEXT you. Your complete lack of initiative says you're not really into this guy. If he kicks you to the curb it would be your loss not his
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