chucksagent Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 There is this weird dude, who is married, that flirts with my girlfriend on Facebook. It's never anything that is CRAZY over the top, but he will post stuff like "Oh my god you look amazing," or one day I guess she passed him in the street and didn't say hi and he said "Nice. You're too beautiful and good to stop and say hi to an old high school classmate in the streets." Bottom line, the guy is just creepy. Keeping in mind, he knows she is with me, and he is married. So, he works with my Uncle. My uncle told me, one day, he came up to him and said "Boy, your nephew is LUCKY he is dating X, she is HOT!" He's a short and skinny little harmless dude, but it's ANNOYING and I wonder what our mutual family and friends thing about seeing this stuff on Facebook. Today, I think he may have crossed the line. But that's why I want to ask all of your opinions if it warrants a response from me. My girlfriend posts a status "Wondering when I will see my first Robin of the Spring?" He posts above her status a picture of a Robin and says "Here you go, you just saw one :)" Yes, that's a smiley face... This kinda stuff annoys me as harmless as it might be. The crazy thing is my girlfriend is friends with his wife on Facebook as well, and we've checked before on her wall and he NEVER does nice things like this or compliments his own wife, but he will to my girlfriend. So I am tempted to respond under his post, "X, good morning. I can only hope you show your wife as much attention as you show my girlfriend." Should I do it or not?
Philosoraptor Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 She could remove his ability to post on her wall. Or drop him from facebook all together.
Author chucksagent Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Agreed. But do you think his behavior warrants a reaction from us?
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Agreed. But do you think his behavior warrants a reaction from us? No. She is an adult, she has to handle it
ditzchic Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I don't think it's a big deal as long as she isn't flirting back with him. I think most girls have some creepers creeping on them on facebook. If I'm with someone I usually delete the creeper's posts so that it doesn't look shady or disrespectful tot he guy I'm with but that's a personal choice.
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 No, the opposite. People like this feed on attention... the guy is creepy. Maybe you could ask his wife if she knows he posts like this..... That would make this his problem - not yours....
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I don't think it's a big deal as long as she isn't flirting back with him. I think most girls have some creepers creeping on them on facebook. If I'm with someone I usually delete the creeper's posts so that it doesn't look shady or disrespectful tot he guy I'm with but that's a personal choice. why do you have creepers on your facebook? I don't
ditzchic Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 why do you have creepers on your facebook? I don't Not like CREEPERS creepers but the guys that always comment on your posts that sometimes may get a little inappropriate... One is a guy I went to HS with that never got over his crush and the other is a bartender at a bar I frequent. They never do anything that crosses the line to the point where I think they deserve deleted but they can get annoying. Stuff similar to what the OP was describing... You really don't have anyone like that on your facebook?
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 After my divorce, I used Facebook to hook up with a couple of chicks I went to high school with who were in their early 30's and had still remained single. I've long exhausted that pool though. I found the few remaining hot and single ones. The rest are all married / single mothers and morbidly obese.
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Not like CREEPERS creepers but the guys that always comment on your posts that sometimes may get a little inappropriate... One is a guy I went to HS with that never got over his crush and the other is a bartender at a bar I frequent. They never do anything that crosses the line to the point where I think they deserve deleted but they can get annoying. Stuff similar to what the OP was describing... You really don't have anyone like that on your facebook? Nope. I tend to send friend requests to guys rather than the other way round because my profile photo doesn't show me and my info to strangers is restricted. I would come down like a ton of bricks on one if they misbehaved and they know that
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 why do you have creepers on your facebook? I don't Hahah. "Creepers" seems to be the new chic word to describe any guy who's into a chick when the feeling isn't mutual? Am I correct? And lemmie guess Emilia, I take it when the tables are turned and a guy's not into you.....you still call it a "crush" right? In any case, I kinda like the word "Creeper". Makes me think of a little tune from my generation that goes something like this....From me to you Emilia....
Author chucksagent Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 hotloader - I swear, I 100% agree with you!!! hahah I've been saying that for a while now and it's true. BUT, if the girl has a boyfriend, then sadly, you are by default and common sense, a creeper. Lol. But I agree with you when a girl is single. Oh, and it only adds to creepiness factor, when YOU are also married.
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hahah. "Creepers" seems to be the new chic word to describe any guy who's into a chick when the feeling isn't mutual? Am I correct? And lemmie guess Emilia, I take it when the tables are turned and a guy's not into you.....you still call it a "crush" right? In any case, I kinda like the word "Creeper". Makes me think of a little tune from my generation that goes something like this....From me to you Emilia.... You will find it was ditzchick that used the word first and I responded to her post in kind. I'm not checking your link.
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You will find it was ditzchick that used the word first and I responded to her post in kind. I'm not checking your link. Oh cm'on Emilia. Lighten the F up.
Author chucksagent Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 So you guys think posting this is a bad idea? "X, good morning. I can only hope you show your wife as much attention as you show my girlfriend."
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 No. Providing you alert his wife as well, and give her reference. if you're going to stop his games once and for all - be thorough.
FRlower Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 No. Providing you alert his wife as well, and give her reference. if you're going to stop his games once and for all - be thorough. Yes, be thorough, like an over 50 year old woman, washing her sagging boobs.
ditzchic Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hahah. "Creepers" seems to be the new chic word to describe any guy who's into a chick when the feeling isn't mutual? Am I correct? And lemmie guess Emilia, I take it when the tables are turned and a guy's not into you.....you still call it a "crush" right? In any case, I kinda like the word "Creeper". Makes me think of a little tune from my generation that goes something like this....From me to you Emilia.... Lay off Emilia, buddy! It was me that used the term "creeper" and yes it's exactly how you describe. It's a guy that is showing interest in you when you are showing none in return. And I don't care how innocent you try and make it sound, they are creepers. They aren't picking up on the social cues that you aren't interested and are thus becoming an annoyance by persisting in trying to the point that it is making you uncomfortable. That is creepy. Making people uncomfortable is not a good or innocent thing no matter what light you try and put it in. When I'm interested in a guy who doesn't seem interested back, I don't refer to it as a crush anymore. I let go and move the hell on to someone that is interested. Even if I have to fake it until I make it sometimes. I don't poke and prod trying to get ANY kind of validation from someone who clearly isn't interested in giving it to me. I collect my pride and get to going like normally socially well-adjusted people do.
make me believe Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 What does your girlfriend think of all this? SHE should be the one to say something to him, not you. If she's not willing or doesn't see a problem with it, then I assume it's because she enjoys the attention. That would be a problem for me. If some guy was constantly making comments like that on my FB, I would know he has no respect for my relationship with my husband, and I would delete him. Your gf should do the same with this guy. Talk to her about it. 1
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Lay off Emilia, buddy! It was me that used the term "creeper" and yes it's exactly how you describe. It's a guy that is showing interest in you when you are showing none in return. And I don't care how innocent you try and make it sound, they are creepers. They aren't picking up on the social cues that you aren't interested and are thus becoming an annoyance by persisting in trying to the point that it is making you uncomfortable. That is creepy. Making people uncomfortable is not a good or innocent thing no matter what light you try and put it in. When I'm interested in a guy who doesn't seem interested back, I don't refer to it as a crush anymore. I let go and move the hell on to someone that is interested. Even if I have to fake it until I make it sometimes. I don't poke and prod trying to get ANY kind of validation from someone who clearly isn't interested in giving it to me. I collect my pride and get to going like normally socially well-adjusted people do. haha thanks That's why facebook weirdos bother me, don't like overfamiliarity by near-strangers/aquaintances so I befriend those that I don't think will behave that way. I don't understand why people don't take social queues and it does seem to apply to men more than women - though I suppose as women are usually more passive it's not surprising.
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Facebook is so immature. no - people on Facebook can be immature.
Feelsgoodman Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 why do you have creepers on your facebook? I don't Because she like the attention. Isn't it obvious?
Feelsgoodman Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 So you guys think posting this is a bad idea? "X, good morning. I can only hope you show your wife as much attention as you show my girlfriend." Yes, it's a pretty stupid idea. Makes you look like a jealous husband who blew a gasket over something quite minor. Why can't you just tell your wife to remove his from facebook??
pteromom Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You trust her, right? So who cares what HE does. If he responds to everything she posts with cute flirty messages, it just makes him look like... a creeper! I would not even let it faze you. Not a big deal at all.
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