TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Okay, Having a change of heart. You know what? Forget about what I said. I had a weak moment. GO!! Have a good time! See your family! And when you get back, plan your next trip somewhere different. Have a plan and save for it. Then go! She had her chance, she wanted space? She got it! That was her decision. That was HER choice. She wanted you out of her life so that's EXACTLLY what you give her. If she gets upset that you're becoming a world traveler. Oh well...not your concern anymore. Hell, I got two trips in the works right now! Sorry Tara....I had a weak moment.... Hey, don't mind me - I'm with you all the way....!
gotye Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 dude, never take her on that trip... she should be respectful that you had told her this is something you wanted to do alone reading this made me mad... if my SO would tell me he or she wanted to take a trip alone... not that they don't want me, but because it's important for just them to go, I would be hurt but understand
robertmathis1026 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Ask yourself "what do you want"? Do you want your ex back, or just let your ex go? from what I have saw here you are very good at going out to your homeland after the breakup, I think your ex is jealous. Are you SUFFERING THE PAIN, because your ex DUMP you? Can You imagine, if you can make your ex BEGGING TO BACK WITH YOU? click here to make it HAPPEN!!
Author BMZMJ Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Ask yourself "what do you want"? Do you want your ex back, or just let your ex go? from what I have saw here you are very good at going out to your homeland after the breakup, I think your ex is jealous. Are you SUFFERING THE PAIN, because your ex DUMP you? Can You imagine, if you can make your ex BEGGING TO BACK WITH YOU? click here to make it HAPPEN!! It definitely sounds as if she is jealous or trying to manipulate and ruin my trip. are you a salesman, or are you trying to get me to use something you used?
Jono85 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 dude keep your balls, and keep NC with ur ex. no ultimatums nothing. she doesn't deserve YOU coming to HER. it's disgusting that would even be an option. and tell your mom to STOP RELAYING MSGS TO YOU. or tell your mom to tell her to STOP SENDING MSGS TO HER. it's ridiculous. this is so childish it's crazy. i'm bewildered that an "adult" would do this.
TaraMaiden Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 are you a salesman, or are you trying to get me to use something you used? Yes, he's put an external link in his post. He's advertising. He's a spammer. basically, he needs to write something to hide the link, because it's too obvious in a signature.....
Author BMZMJ Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 dude keep your balls, and keep NC with ur ex. no ultimatums nothing. she doesn't deserve YOU coming to HER. it's disgusting that would even be an option. and tell your mom to STOP RELAYING MSGS TO YOU. or tell your mom to tell her to STOP SENDING MSGS TO HER. it's ridiculous. this is so childish it's crazy. i'm bewildered that an "adult" would do this. It is very childish. I always thought she was more mature then that but I can tell she is becoming very emotional now and is trying to get to me through my mom. I am keeping with NC and today is day 10 or 11...I am thinking she must have thought that I would have reached out to her as soon as I hear what my mom said. but I am not breaking NC and I am not coming to her.
Jono85 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 It is very childish. I always thought she was more mature then that but I can tell she is becoming very emotional now and is trying to get to me through my mom. I am keeping with NC and today is day 10 or 11...I am thinking she must have thought that I would have reached out to her as soon as I hear what my mom said. but I am not breaking NC and I am not coming to her. good. keep it up. i can tell you, as someone who's been in your gf's shoes (ie. dumper, but really missed the ex) that sometimes i wanted to reach out to my ex b/c it hurt that it seemed like they didn't care anymore. BUT, as soon as the dumpee reaches back in response to breadcrumbs, and pours their heart out to the dumper that he/she really does care and still loves him/her but is in NC to heal, that's usually all the dumper needs. the dumper wants to feel loved, but doesn't necessarily still want to be with the dumpee. they are just very lonely and missing someone loving them and sharing everything with them, not necessarily missing the actual dumpee, although it can seem like that sometimes. don't flinch until she comes to you directly and pours her heart out to you. it will be hard, but do it for ur pride. i've made it 13 months NC with my ex that crushed me. i hardly ever think about her anymore. it was a tough journey, no doubt, especially being single for the first half of it, but my pride never let me contact her. gl.
Jono85 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 i should of said that of course the dumpers still miss the dumpees, b/c they do. but don't necessarily want to get back with them or think of the dumpee as someone they want to spend the rest of their life with. she undoubtedly misses you, but obviously that's not enough for her to want to contact you and spill her heart out to you and beg for you back. she might even contact you at some point and spill her heart out about how she misses you, but even then, be careful. she might just be looking for that ego boost back from you (not consciously usually). and then when she gets it, she's satisfied, and goes back to 'well i don't want to be with him still'. so until she begs for you back or tells you she made a big mistake...ignore it.
Author BMZMJ Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 i should of said that of course the dumpers still miss the dumpees, b/c they do. but don't necessarily want to get back with them or think of the dumpee as someone they want to spend the rest of their life with. she undoubtedly misses you, but obviously that's not enough for her to want to contact you and spill her heart out to you and beg for you back. she might even contact you at some point and spill her heart out about how she misses you, but even then, be careful. she might just be looking for that ego boost back from you (not consciously usually). and then when she gets it, she's satisfied, and goes back to 'well i don't want to be with him still'. so until she begs for you back or tells you she made a big mistake...ignore it. Jono you made some very good points. I have seen some 'signs' that she is still interested and unwilling to let go but I still tell myself that it obviously hasnt been enough for her to contact me... I am holding firm and keeping NC. Surprisingly it isn't difficult, as in I am not looking at my phone wondering if I should call, or start typing a message or e-mail that I dont end up sending. I havent done none of that. I am trying to keep my pride and not giving in. She asked for time and space so she wont hear from me at all
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