SJC2008 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I don't know what the hell this woman did to me but I can't stop thinking about her. The last girl I dated let me go after 3 and I can say with a srait face I didn't give a shyit. Hell she even texted me back and we're going out tues but I don't care so I should tell her (more than likely will) that I won't see her in a gentle way. Why do I like a woman who I only seen 3 times, who never called and pissed me off? I don't think it's validation as the last 3 I didn't care and the 1st two I got blown off and didn't care. But this one want's nothing to do with me like the others and I can't stop thinking about her. Now she cracks me up, is strong and successful and is attractive so mabye I'm attracted to her on more than one level. Or does the fact that she's I'm more attracted to her than the others make it validation? I'm going to call her and will probably go down but I don't care how big the fireball is I need to know that I tried. Inputs please if this seems like validation to you all. I feel that it's real but with all the rejection I don't know if it is or not. Either way I'll protect myself and make sure I move on after this attempt.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Not tying to bump but has anyone honestly really not liked someone after only 3 dates? It's like she cast a spell on me or something. Please tell me that I'm not crazy. I'm strange in that I am weird when it comes to attraction and I haven't been attracted to someone this strong in a long time. I think I'll leave her alone for a mont mabye and then leave her a vm and tell her I want to talk to her. I'm not going to stop dating as I have 3 lined up. But even though I do I almost don't care and want to date this woman.
sid3 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Yeah I think you'll find lots of people have honestly not liked a person after three dates, even more that figured it out after the first.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Thanks sid but let me rephrase. I'm asking is it odd that I seem to like her after only 3 dates. Like I said I hardly ever get "sprung" on women and she got me. I'm not saying I'm in love, my emotions are in check ya know? I just want to get to know her better and feel bad about how things progressed. There have been plenty of people that I didn't like after one date I know what you are saying.
sid3 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 No I don't think its odd, it happens. Have fun on your other dates, why put yourself through a month of wondering over the last one.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 23, 2012 Author Posted March 23, 2012 Yeah like I said I'm not gonna stop living my life and will date. I just hardly ever get that "I gotta be with this one" feeling and I have no I dea where it comes from. That last time I felt like this was coincedintally a year ago lol. I'll stay positive and say it's her loss. And not to dog her, her man picker may not be aligned right. She's almost 32 and not married and no kids and I'm sure that's what she wants if she's like most other women. I'm not saying she should settle I'm not. But think outside of the box and give a little time to not let a good one slip through the cracks yes I'll say that.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 Ok so I've met a few more women online and plan to set up dates soon. The thing is I can't seem to stop thinking about her. We haven't seen each other in over a month and according to LS I blew the last date even though it was not my intention to play it cool or come off as casual. Hindsight being 20/20 it did seem that way after replies here and talking to friends at work but for sure it was NOT my intention and she must be a lot like me thinking I'm not interested so it's a shame. I did leave her a vm telling her I felt bad about how things played out and want to see her again so I'll keep my fingers crossed. I feel like I blew the opportuinity of a lifetime and feel horrible and am mad at myself. That being said she was very very subtle and it really goes to show how men and women think differently. I think it was dasien who once told me sometimes a woman feels like she's holding a neon sign flashing I like you and man barely notices. Either way somethings gotta give meaning I hope she calls or start feeling better, hopefully the former.
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