lt_show21 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Hey guys, So i dated this girl for about a year and fell absolutely in love with her. Things went really sour on us in december as I had suspicions she was sleeping with another guy who she was "best friends" with.. I became so paranoid that we were getting in fights everyday and I ended up chasing her out of my life completely. We went no contact off and on about 2 and a half months a go, but still spoke periodically. One night I drunk texted her and she told me never to talk to her again, please, because I was just "bothering" her. We have no obtained absolutely zero contact ( deleted off facebook, twitter and even instagram) and have not talked in about a 6 weeks. I miss this girl like crazy and still think about her every 10 minutes.. Help me guys. I really want to re-gain contact with this girl.. what should I do?
smudge21 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I'm confused - she cheats on you, leaves you, tells you never to talk to her again... and yet it's you wanting to contact her? To what end? What do you hope to achieve from this apart from more mental abuse, more upset, more hurt, longer healing times and one massive huge ego boost for someone who doesn't care, trust, love or respect you in any way?
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 you don't contact your ex 'after NC' - because there is no such thing as 'after NC'. It is always, and always will be - NC. You do NOT contact her, ring her, text her, pm her, email her, meet her, see her or anything associated with any form of exchange....EVER, ever, EVER! Hope that's cleared it up. She doesn't want you to do that, so the likelihood of it ending well, is below zero. Sub-zero. Minus zero. you're out in the cold, hun, and that's where you should stay. out, away and absent.
immitable Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 you don't contact your ex 'after NC' - because there is no such thing as 'after NC'. It is always, and always will be - NC. You do NOT contact her, ring her, text her, pm her, email her, meet her, see her or anything associated with any form of exchange....EVER, ever, EVER! Hope that's cleared it up. She doesn't want you to do that, so the likelihood of it ending well, is below zero. Sub-zero. Minus zero. you're out in the cold, hun, and that's where you should stay. out, away and absent. TaraMaiden, can you please explain where does all this bitterness come from???
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I don't think he's bitter.... I think he's clinging to false hope, and wishful thinking never brought favourable results. Certainly people who are shunned in this way, can develop bitterness, and of course everyone craves different treatment from the dumper - but the fact is - something didn't work. and sometimes - if it's broken - fixing it is impossible. something repaired, whatever it is, is never as good as the original, and loses its aesthetic and intrinsic value. Same with a relationship. sometimes it's best to just take a deep breath and walk away.
robertmathis1026 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 You can contact your ex AFTER YOU KILL YOUR PAIN. after that you can contact her and then don't expect too much, expectation make us crazy!! Are you SUFFERING THE PAIN, because your ex DUMP you? Can You imagine, if you can make your ex BEGGING TO BACK WITH YOU? click here to make it HAPPEN!!
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