Necris Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I was wondering should I try interracial dating? I'm black and I personally have no issues with race since we are all just human and thus equal but others might (many girls probably aren't open to dating outside their race). As for myself I wonder if I should even try I'm already completely unsuccessful with women as it is being a super nerdy (I'm into anime, videogames, a variety of sciences (software engineering, biology, psychology, astronomy they also interest me, but they don't seem to interest other people especially most women I've talked to)). Being nerdy was particularly not helpful in my younger years when I have other black people calling me "oreo" or something for "acting white" which I thought was wierd fortunately people have grown up a little now so that doesn't really happen at all anymore. I'm also very shy (I can talk to women but it requires alot of willpower to get out and actually talk to people), nice guy (I'm described by other people as being super nice, but I understand this isn't actually really a plus, im just naturally that way), virgin (I'm cool with being a virgin especially because I'm a christian, but it seems that my inexperience isn't very helpful, way back in highschool people seemed to be able to simply "smell" that I'm a virgin they could know nothing about me but already know I have zero experience with women so I guess its pretty obvious). I have been on a few dates before but they were always terrible and I have no experience at all with women just touching a woman's hand is wierd to me so no I have never had a girlfriend. I find just making friends can be difficult as I have extreme difficulty understanding and relating to others so that's not good. So with all of this the potential women that would probably be attracted to me is extremely low and the amount of women willing to date a black guy is probably also extremely low so my chances would be essentially zero. Then again its not like I have much to lose, and it might expand my options. Anyway what are Love Shack's general thoughts on interracial dating? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as well.
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 If you think the girls are hot why not? I mean why not? Only reason I wouldn't do it is if you arn't attracted to other races. Have you even dated in your race though? Isn't this more of "hey guys should I try dating?" Yeah man go ahead get your hands on some. Good luck.
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Do a thread search for some older threads. This has been covered a lot. We had a troll recently start a thread on this topic as well. Itd be better to do that instead of creating another thread which the trolls will drown with negativity and racism.
somedude81 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Let me guess. You're interested in dating white girls
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Let me guess. You're interested in dating white girls You should be able to relate you're always shaking your fist about your mother not making you with a white guy. If you read the thread you'll realize the guy just wants to date period. If he does like white girls better then blacks he's alloud. Thing is the guy seems to have never dated and just wants to have a pitty party that he's black. I really see no problem with him dating interracialy.
somedude81 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You should be able to relate you're always shaking your fist about your mother not making you with a white guy. If you read the thread you'll realize the guy just wants to date period. If he does like white girls better then blacks he's alloud. Thing is the guy seems to have never dated and just wants to have a pitty party that he's black. I really see no problem with him dating interracialy. I'll wait for him to confirm it. The vast majority of these interracial threads are about guys wanting to date white girls. How come I never see anything like, "I'm Korean and want to date Indian girls. I always wanted to try peyote." Bet you didn't see that one coming
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I'll wait for him to confirm it. The vast majority of these interracial threads are about guys wanting to date white girls. How come I never see anything like, "I'm Korean and want to date Indian girls. I always wanted to try peyote." Bet you didn't see that one coming Theres white guy on here who posts about liking Indian and middle easter girls only. My friend who is a good looking whit guy blond hair blue eyes only likes dating dark skinned black girls and other non whites. What you wouldn't date a pretty black girl? I mean you of all people? I mean an ugly black girl or an ugly white girl I won't want them. If its a pretty girl I won't care if they are blue... I mean as long is it isn't catching lol.
Author Necris Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Let me guess. You're interested in dating white girls Actually race doesn't really matter to me (race is really a very silly reason to judge someone) when it comes to attraction black, white, asian, hispanic, etc. can all be extremely attractive to me. I'm just bad with women. I'm just wondering if I should give interracial dating a try and how to go about doing so, it seems even scarier than intraracial dating. @Dust Actually I have tried dating I've only been on a few dates but they never seem to go as planned like the girl standing me up or in the "best" case scenario me being "friend-zoned". Interestingly enough I have been on actually one interracial date the girl I dated was white that date I have to say was quite interesting in the worst way possible, though I suspect the girl was either insane, on a dare, or just really didn't like me so wanted to make the date hell. How it went: We plan to go to restaurant, I pick her up at her home she is 40 minutes late (for me this is okay gives me time to calm down) when she finally comes out she is dressed very casual and I'm dressed in between casual and formal so I felt kinda silly for dressing up. We talk about our studies and favorite comics and games on our way to the restaurant, she also compliments me on the cleanliness of my car which I thought was nice. We arrive at the restaurant and everything is normal for some reason she decides to strike up an uncomfortable conversation about her man on man gay sex fantasies and keeps asking me repeatedly if I'm into that sort of thing I tell her no and that I don't really want to talk about stuff like that and she keeps going on and on speaking loud enough that the other patrons started turning their heads toward our table. Eventually I managed to switch the conversation to favorite books and she starts talking about how she loves to read rape stories and yells the word rape for no reason during the date and goes on and on about the "fascinating" topic of rape, and she was incapable of whispering so people started to stare. We managed to get off the topic of rape and somehow into history and she was arguing that America should have allied with Nazi Germany and supported them and their efforts, then she started talking about psychology and the world trade center disaster and how she thought it was wierd that anyone would care that a few thousand strangers died and how wierd it is for someone to show empathy for others. I paid for our meals and on our way back (I wanted to leave her at the restaurant but that would be mean especially when its raining outside) the topic somehow switched to religion and she decided to spend the rest of the time bashing my church. I noticed throughout the date she seemed to be enjoying herself but afterwards she never wanted to speak with me again, which was alright since after that experience I really do not want to go on a second date, that was annoying and embarassing.
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Sounds like an entertaining date even if she was insane. Yes you should date interracialy if only to give you a larger dating pool. Still date black chicks to though. Basicaly just date girls you like. When you meet the right girl and she starts talking about rape it won't bother you so much. Some times I feel like America is turning into Nazi Germany. There is no way we should have allied with them though. I mean they were allied with the Japanese who wanted to take hawaii from us. Seriously everything else the girl said was tolerable. heck entertaining. Her pubes were probably shaved into a hitler mustache.
Author Necris Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Sounds like an entertaining date even if she was insane. Yes you should date interracialy if only to give you a larger dating pool. Still date black chicks to though. Basicaly just date girls you like. When you meet the right girl and she starts talking about rape it won't bother you so much. Some times I feel like America is turning into Nazi Germany. There is no way we should have allied with them though. I mean they were allied with the Japanese who wanted to take hawaii from us. Seriously everything else the girl said was tolerable. heck entertaining. Her pubes were probably shaved into a hitler mustache. I'm mostly looking for advice on interracial dating. As for the date I really felt like I wasted money and time that could have been spent elsewhere. Its only entertaining from a distance like if this was a tv show I would be laughing out loud but real-life not so much. She's going on and on about these crazy topics like if I'm into gay orgies and talking about the gay porn she watches in a voice loud enough that everyone nearby can hear. Then going on and talking about hardcore rape and even yelling rape for no reason. And when she started loudly voicing her support for the Nazis in the middle of a restaurant I'm like "you got to be kidding me" plus I can't tolerate nazis being as insane and racist as they are. Then I'm driving her home and she's talking about how she thinks my church is silly and wrong. Then after all of this she suddenly never wanted to speak to me again though the feeling was mutual. I wasn't mad or anything just severely dissappointed.
motive2002 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 This is my own opinion: Seems to me that the only snag with inter-racial dating would be any enormous difference in culture.. but a huge difference in culture could exist with the same race, so that's not specifically relevant. For example, I'm a white guy that finds some black women really attractive, and I wouldn't let something as simple as the color of my skin deter me from pursuing... but one could say that there might exist a cultural difference based on a lot of factors. Racial tension still exists in the good 'old US of A, whether we want to acknowledge it or not. I'd like to think I'm more open minded and can see past it, but I certainly cannot blindly ignore it. People tend to partner up well if they have a similar background... raised in a similar area.. with the same core values etc. If the other pieces are all in place, skin color shouldn't make any difference at all. ..but, it might not be an easy ride. You'll probably get looked at different. I know it's 2012 and people should not be so prejudice, but I see it happen every day.
LexiB Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I'm mostly looking for advice on interracial dating. As for the date I really felt like I wasted money and time that could have been spent elsewhere. Its only entertaining from a distance like if this was a tv show I would be laughing out loud but real-life not so much. She's going on and on about these crazy topics like if I'm into gay orgies and talking about the gay porn she watches in a voice loud enough that everyone nearby can hear. Then going on and talking about hardcore rape and even yelling rape for no reason. And when she started loudly voicing her support for the Nazis in the middle of a restaurant I'm like "you got to be kidding me" plus I can't tolerate nazis being as insane and racist as they are. Then I'm driving her home and she's talking about how she thinks my church is silly and wrong. Then after all of this she suddenly never wanted to speak to me again though the feeling was mutual. I wasn't mad or anything just severely dissappointed. Wait, so you actually contacted her again after all that?
Mr. Slim Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I'm mostly looking for advice on interracial dating Not sure what to tell you, it's just like anything else. I'm multi-racial so pretty much every kind of dating I do is "interracial". I can't think of anything special about it.
ThaWholigan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Date who you want I'm a black guy who is a virgin too, and although I find myself more attracted to mixed raced girls (black/white....there's something about them ), I don't rule out dating a girl of any race. In any case, white girls tend to like me more anyway, not sure why. Perhaps being borne to parents who are pro-black may be a hindrance (although my dad may not be too bothered). If this is the case then it may be difficult. I don't think I could bring a white girl home to my mother, she won't disown me or anything but she won't be happy...... C'est la vie, I'll probably still date a white girl
Author Necris Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Wait, so you actually contacted her again after all that? No. But the next day I'm walking down the street and I manage to see her, she sees me and its obvious she is trying to avoid me. I met her in a class on campus so I noticed she was actively trying to avoid me when we go to class, which worked out for the best since I really didn't want to speak to her much after that.
aj22one Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Theres white guy on here who posts about liking Indian and middle easter girls only. My friend who is a good looking whit guy blond hair blue eyes only likes dating dark skinned black girls and other non whites. What you wouldn't date a pretty black girl? I mean you of all people? I mean an ugly black girl or an ugly white girl I won't want them. If its a pretty girl I won't care if they are blue... I mean as long is it isn't catching lol. Haha hey that's me! OP, nothing wrong with interracial dating. Do what feels right to you.
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