Bob_Funk Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 (edited) Why are these considered good places to pick up? From what I've seen, girls just want to stick to their little cliques and not be bothered by strangers. Plus you have a such a small window of opportunity to make anything happen. You get rejected a few times, and before you know it they're announcing last call. Then you have to wait another five or six days. I'm tired of messing up my sleep schedule and spending a bunch of money only to get treated like crap by blonde bimbos. Does any guy actually pick up strange girls from bars or nightclubs? Edited March 22, 2012 by Bob_Funk
silvermercy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You'll probably have to look the male equivalent of the blonde bimbo to do that.
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 As a woman, I tend to avoid bar guys... because it's a pretty known fact they're usually after one thing. There are exceptions, but honestly.. a bar isn't the place I think I'm going to meet my future husband. It's a place I can have fun with my friends, flirt and meet guys at, maybe give my number to someone and SEE if he ever tries talking to me about anything other than "if he buys me a blowjob shot will I give him a blow job"... so, yeah, generally bars.. not where I expect to meet a great guy, so usually I don't even keep an open mind. Sadly! Also, I'm usually approached by guys in their early 20s, if it was an older man maybe I'd think a bit differently. 2
Jane2011 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 My older sister met her husband in a bar. They met in 1999 and married in 2002. Now they have two kids, my adorable nephews. I suppose you can meet your future wife or husband in a bar. I can see why most people shy away, though.
sid3 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Maybe you should find a bar where they have speed dating events, that way you can extend the 'date' when you meet someone you click with. Otherwise I agree Bob, you're wasting your time and money.
mr_sexxxy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You're just jealous you're not getting any action. Why are these considered good places to pick up? From what I've seen, girls just want to stick to their little cliques and not be bothered by strangers. Plus you have a such a small window of opportunity to make anything happen. You get rejected a few times, and before you know it they're announcing last call. Then you have to wait another five or six days. I'm tired of messing up my sleep schedule and spending a bunch of money only to get treated like crap by blonde bimbos. Does any guy actually pick up strange girls from bars or nightclubs?
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I'm tired of messing up my sleep schedule and spending a bunch of money only to get treated like crap by blonde bimbos. Does any guy actually pick up strange girls from bars or nightclubs? Waaaaay "back in the day" when I was around the age of 21-22, I used to "go out" quite a bit. Of course I was only after "one thing", but usually I got another...a hangover. On a few occasions I managed to make out with some random skank, but by that point I was usually too wasted to form a complete sentence. I haven't drank in years, and looking back it's a miracle that I didn't kill myself or someone else back in those days.
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Maybe you should find a bar where they have speed dating events, that way you can extend the 'date' when you meet someone you click with. Personally, I'd rather hit myself in the head with a hammer, over and over and over and over and over again.
El Brujo Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You're just jealous you're not getting any action. Action like that I don't need. Eccchhh!!!
setsenia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Never been into the bar scene. Most people I know who meet people that way don't end up lasting long together. A lot of them have unnecessary drama or issues or are after sex. I prefer to meet people at school, work or common interest. 1
dasein Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 (edited) Have had some success pulling from bars and clubs over the years. It hinges on several things, don't get drunk, go to the same few places at the same times rather than random places, know the staff and treat them well (tipping, showing class, remembering their name), be slightly overdressed, not lots overdressed. Go out frequently within time limits, say walk in the door at 11:00, walk out at 1:00 and do that with three places where good looking women go three times a week. Say a woman is next to you at the bar. The bartender comes up and says "hey X how's it going?" Even better if the bartender is a hot female. The bartender may even know the woman and introduce you. Whether they introduce you or not, you have so much more social value as "known." She doesn't know if you are the owner or some big cheese, but she does know you aren't just some random hopper. The higher your perceived social value in a place, the more it's your "home turf" the better you will do with women there. Guys come in by the dozens looking like lost puppy dogs, not attractive. Women who see you as the king of the place, or "somebody" will naturally treat you better. It's that simple. Oh, maybe most important, stay out of loud and overly crowded places. If you have to constantly say "excuse me?" when talking to a woman because you can't hear them, how can you ever hope to seduce them. Unless you are far and away the best looking man in there, your mouth is your best tool, go in places where you can use it. Edited March 22, 2012 by dasein 3
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Why are these considered good places to pick up? Because usually the whole point of those establishments is to give single people a place to meet, relax, and have fun. From what I've seen, girls just want to stick to their little cliques and not be bothered by strangers.They are not cliquey at all if they find you attractive and approachable. If girls see a guy that they like when they are out, they will put themselves in his way so he can talk to her. Or she will just go up and talk to him. Plus you have a such a small window of opportunity to make anything happen. You get rejected a few times, and before you know it they're announcing last call. Then you have to wait another five or six days. Lol I used to go out 3 nights a week in my senior year last spring and summer. So I didnt have much waiting to do. The window of opportunity seems rather large to me when I go out. Time goes by really slow for me when Im out drinking and dancing with my friends. We usually hit the bar at 11 or 12 and dont go home till 3 or 4. Thats plenty of time to let loose and meet people. I find when Im not actively trying to meet women, that I actually meet more women. I'm tired of messing up my sleep schedule and spending a bunch of money only to get treated like crap by blonde bimbos. Does any guy actually pick up strange girls from bars or nightclubs?Dude...if you want to save money, you have to pregame before you go out. Hell I remember my friends and I used to sneak those dollar shots from the liquor store into places. It saved us a load of money on drinks. Then again, we were broke college students. Anyways, Ive danced and made out with a number of chicks while out at the bar or club...but Ive never gone home with one. The only time Ive gone home with someone I barely knew was when I went to this house party a while back. I only did that once, and freaked myself out since Im paranoid about my sexual health. Never again lol
Leigh 87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I love to party, and I still do it with my boyfriend. Even when your single, some people love to let lose in that way. YOu should not go with the aim tp pick up, that is the trick. Even if you WANT some action, it is more worthwhile to MEET a cute girl who you get along with, have fun and a genuinely good conversation or two, and get their number, Get numbers when your out, and you take it from there. They will think your a bettr quality guy if you do not try for a one night stand, and get to know them better instead. I do not have too much respect for people who have the need for one night stands, although a one off occasional thing is okay. I am a horny girl but I would rather go it alone, haha, than sleep or fool around with a dude I do not even know. I think clubbing and bars is a fine place to make contacts! It is not that hard to have a conversation, and find decent people who you get along well with:) PArty with them, and get to know them better if you have a connection. In terms of saving money: I always have pre drins at my place. 5 Aussie doll;ars for a bottle of wine, or 5 dollars for ONE small GLASS at a club or pub...Robbery!!!!!!1
Emilia Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Does any guy actually pick up strange girls from bars or nightclubs? Yes but they don't turn up until about 11 or 12 soberish. The girls are drunk, the guys who want to pull are not. That's your starting point.
motive2002 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I don't know what it's like in different parts of the US, but where I live there doesn't really seem to be "singles bars". Yeah there are a lot of places around, but it seems like the casual "singles" bar" is usually full up on couples! More and more if I see any attractive women at a bar, they are usually there with their boyfriend. Couples like to go out and have fun too, I guess so it's just a night spot and not necessarily a singles place. The exception of course being the "clubs" where it's a full-on meat market. Unless you're looking like Jersey Shore forget it... and forget having a converstaion where it's so damn loud.
grkBoy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I think that unless you're the kind of guy that attracts attention from women and can stand out like a star in social gatherings, the club scene won't work out much. From my years of experience working and being in the club scene, I notice women go out with their defenses up...as they believe practically all the guys are only looking for a lay. However, they're more open on the guys they think are good looking and/or exciting. Meaning they'll be open to chat and such. If you're not a social butterfly, then clubs are hard. I'd even tell guys who are social, but not butterflies to try bars and such where there ins't loud blasting music and loads of image-centric people. If you're a total antisocial person, then stay away altogether. I'd also tell you all never to go out alone. Women now seemingly want a man who has a social life, friends, etc. The lone guy tends to come off as creepy...unless he knows everyone who works and frequents the club. In that case, they become your social capital. Personally, I'm a fan of building social capital. Friends, people, colleagues...they tend to become the ones who introduce you to single folk they know. 1
BlueGrl Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Let's all go to the bar today and tomorrow post what experience we had. Also, how many free drinks we got from lonely, creepy, guys.
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Let's all go to the bar today and tomorrow post what experience we had. Also, how many free drinks we got from lonely, creepy, guys. HA! And I got attacked on this site for rejecting a woman in a bar....once....and saying that I got off on it. What an effin' double standard. Please BlueGrl, go out tonight. Pound back about a quart of vodka on an empty stomach, and please forget to wear your seat belt on the way home. Let us all know how it goes.
eleanorhurting Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Let's all go to the bar today and tomorrow post what experience we had. Also, how many free drinks we got from lonely, creepy, guys. I thought we had collectively gotten over calling people creeps
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