SJC2008 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Ok since I've had a hard time getting a gf I want to ask this. I've made strides as getting past date one was my achillies heel but now getting past date 3 seems to be. I know for a fact that the last woman I dated is a very strong confident woman who is conservative/tradtinol and I may have had a chance but I'm pretty sure she sniffed me out. Now I am tempted to text her and ask her for some adice (I don't care how bad that looks) strait from the source. I'm not gonna freak her out just tell her I haven't had a gf in a little over a year (lie) and that I've been on a bad roll so I want to ask you if I came on too strong, not strong enough, was I too blunt, unsure of myslef? I like who I am and don't want to change that but I need to change how I approach women. Should I bother or would I look like a whack job?
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 would I look like a whack job?Without knowing her attitude to people who might or might not be whack-jobs, it's impossible to say.... Is she a compassionate, patient and understanding, or is she impatient and intolerant and doesn't suffer fools gladly?
sid3 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Ok since I've had a hard time getting a gf I want to ask this. I've made strides as getting past date one was my achillies heel but now getting past date 3 seems to be. I know for a fact that the last woman I dated is a very strong confident woman who is conservative/tradtinol and I may have had a chance but I'm pretty sure she sniffed me out. Now I am tempted to text her and ask her for some adice (I don't care how bad that looks) strait from the source. I'm not gonna freak her out just tell her I haven't had a gf in a little over a year (lie) and that I've been on a bad roll so I want to ask you if I came on too strong, not strong enough, was I too blunt, unsure of myslef? I like who I am and don't want to change that but I need to change how I approach women. Should I bother or would I look like a whack job? You're only going to get her opinion, just how valuable will that prove to be with future dates. Whatever she tells you could be the exact opposite of what the next girl believes. Personally, I think you'd be wasting your time. You have the right idea, learn from your pmistakes. And don't beat yourself up over it. Who knows, you may have in fact dodged a bullet.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Dont count on getting any answers from her. Alot of women who have direct contact with you, and arent attracted to you anymore will not think that she is helping you by giving you pointers, she will probably avoid telling you whats wrong for fear of how she thinks you will judge her, or think she is a bad person. Stupid, isnt it? So you have to make sure if youre going to do this that you do it in person, and be prepared to phrase it in a way that she understands you wont think of her in a certain way after she tells you. But dont do it in text, she will probably just ignore it.
dasein Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Spend the time you would have spent quizzing her finding a man who gets lots of women, describe your entire experience with the woman in detail, and ask his opinion and advice.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Good point on her turnoffs might not be another womans. I just want to fine tune my game. I don't think I came accross as needy but now that I think about it I did and IMO she gave me more chances than I realized. But then again who know? It's dating. I just feel bad because I had a woman who I was attracted to, was funny, strong and for sure no bar room floozie at my fingertips. That doesn't mean it would of worked out but I feel I blew the chane at getting to know her better. All in all I'm glad I got the exp. I have never dated a conservative woman and now I'm thinking that's the kind of woman I want to pursue because it tells me that they won't jump into anything with anyone which is what I want.
Feelsgoodman Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Ok since I've had a hard time getting a gf I want to ask this. I've made strides as getting past date one was my achillies heel but now getting past date 3 seems to be. I know for a fact that the last woman I dated is a very strong confident woman who is conservative/tradtinol and I may have had a chance but I'm pretty sure she sniffed me out. Now I am tempted to text her and ask her for some adice (I don't care how bad that looks) strait from the source. I'm not gonna freak her out just tell her I haven't had a gf in a little over a year (lie) and that I've been on a bad roll so I want to ask you if I came on too strong, not strong enough, was I too blunt, unsure of myslef? I like who I am and don't want to change that but I need to change how I approach women. Should I bother or would I look like a whack job? I can guarantee that you won't get a straight answer out of her. She will just tell you some vague crap that will make you even more confused.
sid3 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Good point on her turnoffs might not be another womans. I just want to fine tune my game. I don't think I came accross as needy but now that I think about it I did and IMO she gave me more chances than I realized. But then again who know? It's dating. I just feel bad because I had a woman who I was attracted to, was funny, strong and for sure no bar room floozie at my fingertips. That doesn't mean it would of worked out but I feel I blew the chane at getting to know her better. All in all I'm glad I got the exp. I have never dated a conservative woman and now I'm thinking that's the kind of woman I want to pursue because it tells me that they won't jump into anything with anyone which is what I want. The you're in luck cause there's a lot of women out there. Chances are you'll like the next one far more this one.
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