mrmquestion Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for more than two years and I cant express to you how much I am in love with him. He recently went to jail off his first DUI charge, for 30 days. I went out with a friend one night, got insanely drunk, and hooked up with someone else. I never do anything like this and I had never even thought about cheating before. I love him a lot, and I just don't know if I should tell him, or how since he's in jail. I think telling him is the right thing to do, and I have kind of made that decision to tell him. I just don't want to tell him and have him freak out and get in trouble in jail for doing something harmful, but at the same time talking to him and seeing him without telling him seems unfair. I would never cheat again, I love him more than I knew I could love and I can't believe I did something so stupid and inexcusable. I understand alcohol isn't the excuse, but this never would have happened without that and without him. I know I'm still to blame. I would love to spend more of my life with him, and I would work so hard to have his trust back.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Most of these cheating threads seem to contain only one post from the OP. So until further notice - Not sure if serious.
Feanor Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 How did he get a 30 day sentence for his first DUI? There's got to be more to it than that.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 How did he get a 30 day sentence for his first DUI? There's got to be more to it than that. You see the light my friend. 1
Author mrmquestion Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 I know jail time for his first DUI is total bs, but he failed to get a lawyer, didn't tell the judge what she wanted to hear and didn't do well representing himself basically. So she sentenced him to 30 days and told him to write a letter to get himself out early, which has taken time since you have to buy paper and pencils in jail.
Black Jack Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Most of these cheating threads seem to contain only one post from the OP. So until further notice - Not sure if serious. I agree, and plus I've seen a story like this almost exactly word for word.
ascendotum Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Its not like this guy got locked up for 5 yrs, its was just 30 days and you couldn't keep your legs shut for that period. Oh but it wasnt my fault, I got drunk and didn't know what I was doing...bull****. (I've had that pulled on me) Do him a favour and save your confession till after he gets out of jail. He's likely already dealing with some sort of stress & depression. "at the same time talking to him and seeing him without telling him seems unfair."....don't worry about it, you crossed that line when you sucked that others guys c0ck you met in the bar. Confess to him when he gets out and let him decide if you are worth winning his trust back. Yeah possible bogus post.
Author mrmquestion Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Yeah I know, it seems some other people have had the exact same story. And i've read their comments and everything. I get the right thing to do is to tell him, but I don't think doing it over the phone or through 4 inch bullet proof glass is really the way to go. I also don't know if I should just wait till he's out? Then it seems like I'm hiding it. He has a really short temper, I know he'd either walk away or hit something once he found out. I want to be able to explain what happened and try to fix the situation, even though it will take time
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Its not like this guy got locked up for 5 yrs, its was just 30 days and you couldn't keep your legs shut for that period. Oh but it wasnt my fault, I got drunk and didn't know what I was doing...bull****. (I've had that pulled on me) Do him a favour and save your confession till after he gets out of jail. He's likely already dealing with some sort of stress & depression. "at the same time talking to him and seeing him without telling him seems unfair."....don't worry about it, you crossed that line when you sucked that others guys c0ck you met in the bar. Confess to him when he gets out and let him decide if you are worth winning his trust back. Yeah possible bogus post. Yes. Don't bite.
ThatDudeXO Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Tell him. You both made stupid mistakes, maybe he'll understand.
Author mrmquestion Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 thanks for no crucifying me off the bat.
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for more than two years and I cant express to you how much I am in love with him. You're so right on that one. not coming over at all.... we get this one perodically, don't we? Notice how no guy (AFAIK) has ever posted about his gal being in the slammer, and him screwing the female warden the moment the key is turned in the lock....
Whisky1981 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Come on....30 days in jail and you hooked and f*cked some dude you met in a bar? If this post is real....hm....i wont be mean. But...yeah....tell him when he gets out. You dont want him to think about this while he is in jail. Uh.....this really pisses me off...What kind of a person are you?
Mantis Toboggan Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I've only been a part of this forum for a week, and I've found it to be the most troll-filled message board I've ever signed up for. Take a couple trusted members and make them moderators. This place is like the Wild West. A much sissier version of it, but you get the idea. 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Oh looooong story.... if only you knew the half of it......
kaylan Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Most of these cheating threads seem to contain only one post from the OP. So until further notice - Not sure if serious. This. I suspect troll.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 How did he get a 30 day sentence for his first DUI? There's got to be more to it than that. Um, I know the answer to this one: (and no, not from any sort of personal experience) When somebody gets a DUI... they go in, and the consequences become clear... When someone speaks of "his FIRST DUI"... with it comes a tone of assurance that there will be many more... So you heighten the sentencing guidelines for someone who has a "first" DUI but who clearly aspires to DUI greatness well beyond.
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for more than two years and I cant express to you how much I am in love with him. He recently went to jail off his first DUI charge, for 30 days. I went out with a friend one night, got insanely drunk, and hooked up with someone else. There's really not much to figure out here.You have no values, morals, or personal code of ethics that you adhere to. You care about nobody but yourself, and will manipulate anyone that you possibly can for your own personal gratification or monetary gain. It's alright. Your behavior is perfectly acceptable in modern society, so feel free to show your fangs in public. You're a brave, liberated woman! Horray! Horray for you!
hotloader Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 How did he get a 30 day sentence for his first DUI? There's got to be more to it than that. Yeah, U GO GIRLLLL! Take the focus off the slutty actions of the OP and place them on the poor schmuck of boyfriend who's life currently consists of a 6x9, three hots, and a cot. Must be all his fault somehow huh?
Leigh 87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Don't tell him. If you truly love him, and it was honestly a one OFF mistake, I would aim to have a lasting relationship: if it lasts, it likely would NOT have lasted if you had told him. If you do it again, let the poor guy go, he deserves better. Also, never get drunk to the point where u lose control, when he is not with you. It is asking for trouble
Jeremy87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for more than two years and I cant express to you how much I am in love with him. He recently went to jail off his first DUI charge, for 30 days. I went out with a friend one night, got insanely drunk, and hooked up with someone else. I never do anything like this and I had never even thought about cheating before. I love him a lot, and I just don't know if I should tell him, or how since he's in jail. I think telling him is the right thing to do, and I have kind of made that decision to tell him. I just don't want to tell him and have him freak out and get in trouble in jail for doing something harmful, but at the same time talking to him and seeing him without telling him seems unfair. I would never cheat again, I love him more than I knew I could love and I can't believe I did something so stupid and inexcusable. I understand alcohol isn't the excuse, but this never would have happened without that and without him. I know I'm still to blame. I would love to spend more of my life with him, and I would work so hard to have his trust back. first time and would never do it again, thats what they all say.
Jeremy87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Don't tell him. If you truly love him, and it was honestly a one OFF mistake, I would aim to have a lasting relationship: if it lasts, it likely would NOT have lasted if you had told him. If you do it again, let the poor guy go, he deserves better. Also, never get drunk to the point where u lose control, when he is not with you. It is asking for trouble an OFF mistake? LOL
Necris Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Don't tell him. If you truly love him, and it was honestly a one OFF mistake, I would aim to have a lasting relationship: if it lasts, it likely would NOT have lasted if you had told him. If you do it again, let the poor guy go, he deserves better. Also, never get drunk to the point where u lose control, when he is not with you. It is asking for trouble Come now, this woman obviously can't love her boyfriend if she is going to have sex with some random guy days after his lock up (seriously days and she couldn't stop herself from having sex with another guy, that's pretty sad and shows what kind of morals she has), the best thing for both of them is to tell her boyfriend what happened and not keep it a secret so they can move on. Besides what if she got pregnant or caught an STD from her little adventure her boyfriend should know.
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