Sophie99 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Ok, so I've been trying really hard to take my mind off things recently, after my boyfriend of almost 2 years split up with me 2 months ago. So I joined the gym, and I go at least three or four times a week. That was going really well, and I was enjoying it. Somehow my ex found out about this, and asked me about it. I was polite and everything. Now he is joining too. THE SAME GYM!!! What?! I tried to explain that it was my way of trying to get over things, and take my mind off it. But he's asking around for a 'gym buddie'. He was NEVER the sporty type when we were together - in fact, he HATED exercise! I don't understand, he dumped me. Why is he doing this?! I know for a FACT he isn't interested in getting back together. I joined to take my mind off him, since I have to see him at school everyday, it was a way of getting away, but it won't be if he's there too! Advice please.. Thank you
Philosoraptor Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Sounds like he may be upset that you are healing and wants to twist you some; since you are certain he does not want to try again.
CaliBabe Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 That is quite odd. I agree with the above poster that maybe he is upset you are not groveling after him like he may have thought you would. When you don't beg for them back they realize they aren't as special as they thought they were. I would just go to another gym, if it's at all possible. Try your best to avoid him.
loveydove Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I agree! He could be jealous you are doing so well. He sounds pretty immature. For whatever reason, he doesn't want you to forget about him. Do whatever you need to do to continue your path : )
sid3 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Join another gym. Why put yourself through that. Besides, you may like the next gym and the people there a lot more.And if asks why you aren't going anymore, remember you don't owe him an explaination.
CC12 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 You could just start going to another gym, but **** that! That's your gym and you were enjoying it. Don't let him ruin that for you. If you ever run into him there, pretend he doesn't exist. If he tries chatting with you, tell him, "Yeah, I'm just here to work out. I'll talk to you later." If he joined your gym as some sort of stupid ploy to get you to react or something, he'll give up quickly if you ignore his existence.
TaraMaiden Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 The opposite to 'Love' is not 'Hate'. The opposite to Love - is indifference. He's clearly not being indifferent to you, and he doesn't hate you.... He clearly doesn't actually love you any more, because we don't do things like this to people we love - because love entails respect... He's extremely childish and puerile in his behaviour, and obviously thinks it's fun to try to rattle your cage, yank your chain and... well, any other appropriate idiom.... so your best weapon against his idiocy is to carry on with your life, as if he really mattered not a jot.... YOU be indifferent. Remember that famous quotation: The person who cares the least - controls the most. Fake it until you make it.... Actions speak louder than words, so his actions have revealed a side to him that frankly, puts him firmly in the 'moron' category. Let your actions show him that not only can you rise above such behaviour - but that you are soooo much better than him.... Stick with the gym, and completely blank him off and ignore him. (sorry about all the famous sayings.... but they're not famous for nothing: they're 'famous' because they're true.) 1
robertmathis1026 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Maybe he misses you! Remember to always be yourself and be a nice and interactive person Are you SUFFERING THE PAIN, because your ex DUMP you? Can You imagine, if you can make your ex BEGGING TO BACK WITH YOU? click here to make it HAPPEN!!
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 The opposite to 'Love' is not 'Hate'. The opposite to Love - is indifference. He's clearly not being indifferent to you, and he doesn't hate you.... He clearly doesn't actually love you any more, because we don't do things like this to people we love - because love entails respect... He's extremely childish and puerile in his behaviour, and obviously thinks it's fun to try to rattle your cage, yank your chain and... well, any other appropriate idiom.... so your best weapon against his idiocy is to carry on with your life, as if he really mattered not a jot.... YOU be indifferent. Remember that famous quotation: The person who cares the least - controls the most. Fake it until you make it.... Actions speak louder than words, so his actions have revealed a side to him that frankly, puts him firmly in the 'moron' category. Let your actions show him that not only can you rise above such behaviour - but that you are soooo much better than him.... Stick with the gym, and completely blank him off and ignore him. (sorry about all the famous sayings.... but they're not famous for nothing: they're 'famous' because they're true.) Makes a world of sense; especially the opposite of love being indifferent. And the person who cares the least controls the most===very true!!
Leigh 87 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 Carry on with the same class you have been: go to the gym, do what you go there to do, and DO NOT let him impact you. If he acts you be around you while your there, tell him that you are there to work out, and will talk to him later - like the other poster said. If he bothers you, just be honest and direct: tell him that after your relationship ended, you prefer to not have to talk to him all the time, and would like to to your own thing without him bothering you. You dumped me, I had strong feelings for you, so now I want to spend time away from you to get over my past with you. Why do you think it is a good idea to be around me, when it will only annoy and upset me? If your a decent guy, you would want me to move on from you and be happy. People can be morons. Sometimes, you have to be straight with them, tel them what the deal is, and hope they understand!
water4150 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 If you are not bound to a schedual. Change the time where you go to the gym so you don't bump into him. I guess you can "stalk" his gym time so you know when he goes so you can avoid him easier. Even though you shouldn't have to do this...it might help lessen the situation... It's YOUR gym not his!
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