Star Gazer Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I really don't understand the hostile vibe I'm picking up on here. I suspect that people are taking offense to her 120k figure, at which point I have to wonder about chips on shoulders. So that's what she has identified -- deal with it? It should be self-evident in a thread about preferences that they will differ among people. I heart you...still. 1
threebyfate Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I really don't understand the hostile vibe I'm picking up on here. I suspect that people are taking offense to her 120k figure, at which point I have to wonder about chips on shoulders. So that's what she has identified -- deal with it? It should be self-evident in a thread about preferences that they will differ among people. Also self-evident: everyone has a story about being raised while living in X on Y dollars, because people find ways to make it work -- that's not the question here. The question is about the lines to draw when finding a partner to start a family with, and whether money is/should be one of them, and how.If I were a guy, this thread would bother me greatly. As it stands, as a woman, this thread bothers me. Planning a family shouldn't be all about how much the guy makes. If more women and men would save more money prior to having children, perhaps it might make life easier on both of them. This is a couple decision and unified effort, not just a bunch of purportedly independent women gold digging for high net worth men. Pull your weight ladies. 5
aj22one Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I really don't understand the hostile vibe I'm picking up on here. I suspect that people are taking offense to her 120k figure, at which point I have to wonder about chips on shoulders. So that's what she has identified -- deal with it? It should be self-evident in a thread about preferences that they will differ among people. Also self-evident: everyone has a story about being raised while living in X on Y dollars, because people find ways to make it work -- that's not the question here. The question is about the lines to draw when finding a partner to start a family with, and whether money is/should be one of them, and how. I think the hostility comes from the OP in which 120k=modest living. It's not modest, it's well off. 1
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I think the hostility comes from the OP in which 120k=modest living. It's not modest, it's well off. I'm offended that people actually think money is worth anything and worry about debt haha.
aj22one Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I'm offended that people actually think money is worth anything and worry about debt haha. Well yeah. With the rate of inflation these days 120k is gonna feel like 50k before you know it. Start stocking up on gold people. haha
Sanman Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Getting dates is easy. Finding the right person for you long term is much harder. My point is that expanding ones dating pool makes it easier to find this person and opens up loads of possibilities. Manhattan is ridiculous. The population density and proximity to entertainment and cultural areas isnt enough to offset the price. I cant stand how unnecessarily expensive it is. I plan to just live in Queens or Brooklyn but be close to the river that way Manhattan is super close when I want to go hang out. Agreed that finding a relationship is harder than finding dates. It took me a while to find someone I really clicked with. I got someone of the same ethnicity that is also a high earner. However, I opened up my geographic requirements rather than my education, salary, ethnicity, etc. requirements. There is more than one way to skin a cat. As for Manhattan, I agree. The ridiculous cost of living around here is one of the reasons I am strongly considering moving. A six figure salary is barely more than comfortable in manhattan (excluding harlem and Wash heights). Even the suburbs and some of the other boroughs are painful. Moving to a number of other east cities or their suburbs really would not affect either my of my gf as far as raw income, but it would significantly increase our living standard. If it were not home, I would already be gone, methinks.
Jeremy87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I heart you...still. Another gold digger. SCORE! My specialty is using golddigers for sex.
reallyhotguy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 If I were a guy, this thread would bother me greatly. As it stands, as a woman, this thread bothers me. Planning a family shouldn't be all about how much the guy makes. If more women and men would save more money prior to having children, perhaps it might make life easier on both of them. This is a couple decision and unified effort, not just a bunch of purportedly independent women gold digging for high net worth men. Pull your weight ladies. That is a perfectly cogent argument and a good response to the question. I don't see the problem here. To aj: that makes more sense. Of course, the value of money varies wildly among locaations, so 120k very well may be modest for an entire family (OP specifies support of wife and kids plural -- plausibly modest in a city like Chicago).
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I personally will only date a girl with a trust fund that has atleast over 20 million in it. Seriosly I can't be expected to live like the rest of you manimals. 2
tigressA Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I personally will only date a girl with a trust fund that has atleast over 20 million in it. Seriosly I can't be expected to live like the rest of you manimals. Ahh Dust, I missed you. So happy to see you've returned! 1
Star Gazer Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 If I were a guy, this thread would bother me greatly. As it stands, as a woman, this thread bothers me. Planning a family shouldn't be all about how much the guy makes. If more women and men would save more money prior to having children, perhaps it might make life easier on both of them. This is a couple decision and unified effort, not just a bunch of purportedly independent women gold digging for high net worth men. Pull your weight ladies. Coming from someone who married up financially and pawns her child off on a nanny, I find this really rich. Pull our weight? In asking for someone pulling in 120K, I'd be asking for my equal. That isn't gold digging. That IS pulling my weight. 1
Star Gazer Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I think the hostility comes from the OP in which 120k=modest living. It's not modest, it's well off. Not for Chicago, or many other parts of the country. I live on that alone, sans husband or children, modestly.
tigressA Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Uh-oh! Claws are coming out! *Meeeeeoooowwwwwwwrrrrrrr!!!
Dust Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Ahh Dust, I missed you. So happy to see you've returned! Thanks back at you. I guess for a girl that stirs feelings for me like the picture in you avatar I'd date her with out a trust fund even if the Mob was after her for owing 100k on bad bets with their loan shark. 1
kaylan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 I personally will only date a girl with a trust fund that has atleast over 20 million in it. Seriosly I can't be expected to live like the rest of you manimals. Lol...manimals xD Ahh Dust, I missed you. So happy to see you've returned! Ditto...we didnt always agree, but youre a damn funny dude...glad to see youre back.
tigressA Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Thanks back at you. I guess for a girl that stirs feelings for me like the picture in you avatar I'd date her with out a trust fund even if the Mob was after her for owing 100k on bad bets with their loan shark. ;):love: Would you not mind having your legs broken too?
Star Gazer Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Uh-oh! Claws are coming out! *Meeeeeoooowwwwwwwrrrrrrr!!! And your post helps, how? As if you're not one of the meowist of them all. 1
Jeremy87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Coming from someone who married up financially and pawns her child off on a nanny, I find this really rich. Pull our weight? In asking for someone pulling in 120K, I'd be asking for my equal. That isn't gold digging. That IS pulling my weight. It is gold digging unless you're in Manhattan. Do YOU make 120k?
aj22one Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Not for Chicago, or many other parts of the country. I live on that alone, sans husband or children, modestly. I live in a locale with a very high cost of living. 70k and I do fairly well. 120k and I'd have more money than I know what to do with. 1
threebyfate Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Coming from someone who married up financially and pawns her child off on a nanny, I find this really rich.Wrong as usual. As far as pawning my child off to a nanny, he loves Nanny and I'm around at home with the two of them. Best of both worlds. Pull our weight? In asking for someone pulling in 120K, I'd be asking for my equal. That isn't gold digging. That IS pulling my weight.Not if you stay at home and knowing your inability to save, doubt you'd be pulling your weight.
johan Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Maybe Spookie comes from a rich family and has expectations of a standard of living similar to what she grew up with. But $120K isn't really that much. It's definitely comfortable, but you still have to watch what you spend your money on if you want to save much. You won't be driving Porsches. Maybe not even BMWs. You can live in a decent house, but nothing extravagant. Just maybe above average, and you can afford to maintain it. You can afford Whole Foods and Starbucks, if you want them.
Jeremy87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Not for Chicago, or many other parts of the country. I live on that alone, sans husband or children, modestly. How do you burn thru 120k? designer clothes, international trips, frequent spa trips, expensive purses, expensive dinners, expensive house and car and what else?
tigressA Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 And your post helps, how? As if you're not one of the meowist of them all. Oh, come on, I'm not allowed to make a humorous observation?
Jeremy87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Wrong as usual. As far as pawning my child off to a nanny, he loves Nanny and I'm around at home with the two of them. Best of both worlds. Not if you stay at home and knowing your inability to save, doubt you'd be pulling your weight. Saving isn't her strong suit!
reallyhotguy Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 How do you burn thru 120k? designer clothes, international trips, frequent spa trips, expensive purses, expensive dinners, expensive house and car and what else? Buddy, we get it, you're upset that you don't make 120k and spookie won't date you, let's move on already. 1
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