fetish1980 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Long story short, I met this girl and we met up and dated once in October 2011. I asked her to lunch and surprised her with a gift of tea on our lunch date. In between that time, we'd chat over the telephone, sometimes for hours. It wasn't until a whole month later we met up. Always saying she's overloaded with stress and has her son, school, work, and we end up not seeing eachother for another month. We went out in november 2011 and went to dinner, then i chased her for a little bit, then in early december, i tried to get a little more seductive to get us to see eachother again. She was sick at the time and i offered to come give her some TLC. She politely turned me down. then she hit me with the text "i really like you and didn't want to cross that line with me. I think you're a great friend! I'm also very careful of who i bring around my son" That was a blow to me as i told her, i liked her more than that. After a few exchanges, i told her that we could be friends but I'm out! I'm moving on!" So about a month later, she texts me, the "hey how are you". Then she calls me and offers to take me to lunch that day, but i was at work, so i couldn't. We end up going out on a movie date in February and i try to turn up my flirtily touch her. She smiles, but she still had this wall i'm trying to get over. So after our date, i call her and she shuts down again and doesn't answer her phone. Then we don't talk for a few weeks until she texts me later. I keep it short, but still don't inititate any contact. Then this past week, she pops back up, texting me with the same ol story, "she's been stressed with her son, school, workload, etc." She then invited me over to her house (for the 1st time), but then backs out to go out with her friends at the last minute. I played it off like, "Cool. We can meet another time." She calls me the next day (this past Saturday) and she invites me over to watch a movie. We agree on a time and then calls me an hour later and says" She's not ready for that! I got my son and everything!" I said, "It's not about your son, you;'re scared about something!" She said, "You're right. I'm scared. My previous relationships I've been hurt and taken advantage of so many times. This last failed r/l really took a toll on me!" I sympathized with her and was understanding, but told her she can't live the rest of her life in fear based on what a few *********s did. She then changed and said, let's go ahead and keep our plans and we meet at the time we planned. So i go over to her house, hang out for a few hours, she buys popeyes and i meet her 6 year old son (who she said he liked me). We hug and i told her i basically that i like her and look forward to seeing her again. She smiles and said, yeah, we see how things go, just take things slow. she texted me that night and said her son likes me and that's rare for him to like anyone she's dated in the past. I'm thinking things went well and have contacted her a couple times via text since saturday night, and now it seems cold again. She's begun to pull away again. I understand this girl is scared of getting hurt, but i can't help her with that. I see her like once a month. We go on a date, romance and feelings get brought up, then she shuts down. Then after not talking to her for a while, she slowly warms up to me and we start this whole cycle again. And she has nerve to say "We just this this slow". Any slower, we'll be dead! I've been patient with her over the last 5 months. She's always using her son and busy schedule as this emotional shield. It's not like i've been sitting around and waiting, i've still continued dating, but she's starting to get me kind of frustrated. Any thoughts? fetish
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