TheSingleGuy Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I was talking to a guy at a restaurant bar the other day. His daughter was a teacher in an elementary school. We got onto the subject of bullying. This teacher handed each student a blank sheet of notebook paper. She had each kid wad the paper up into a ball. Then she told them to unravel the paper and make it as smooth as they could. Then she asked the kids "Can you make it like was before you wadded it up?" Then she said, "That's what bullying does." So the guy goes on to explain that when we were kids growing up, the bullying would stop when we got home from school. But now days, it doesn't end there. They are picked on at school, of course, but then they are picked on via Facebook until they go to bed. And they get picked on throughout the weekend as well. All via Facebook. So I started thinking about how things used to be. When I was in college, I hooked up with a girl from my hometown at a party. I really wanted to see her again, so I called her sorority house phone. She never called back. So a few days later, I called again. She never called back. That was the end of the rejection. It was quick and it was over. She rejected me, end of story. Today, with cell phones and text messaging, that rejection gets dragged out, sometimes forever and ever if you allow it. I'll ask a girl out, she'll flake out at the last minute, or vanish, and I'll assume she's not that into me. The rejection hurts, of course, but I get the hint and it's over. Or it should be. Problem is, these women usually end up texting me a few days later. When I get the text, I always assume she's interested in me. So I get baited back in to eventually calling her and trying for another date. I've literally allowed this behavior to go on with a few girls for years. I never realized that I was in the "friend-zone" with these stupid bitches. I only thought that happened to other guys, but not me. Now that I look back and analyze the situation, I've allowed myself to be tormented by these women. They have COMPLETELY used me for a never ending ego boost. Without the new technology this simply wouldn't be happening. If the girl had to call in order to bait me back into her never ending quest for an ego boost, it simply wouldn't happen. But it's always a text. Always. Realizing this has somehow allowed me see things more clearly. She had a chance, she rejected me. So now, if she's texting again later, she jut wants an ego boost from her "male friend". I get it now. It's actually kind of embarassing that it's taken me this long to figure this out. I'm just glad I finally realized what's been going on with these women in my life. I'm a slow learner, but at least I'm learning. 1
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