Cupcake Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 I broke up with my ex-boyfriend last week. We were in an LDR and after a year of us having agreed to be monogomus, he told me a few weeks ago that he has been dating other women for the entire year that we've been dating. He apologized for literally having lead me on all this time, because he had been making it clear that I was not allowed to date other men. I didn't date anyone else for he entire time that my ex and I were together. After he confessed to what he'd been doing behind my back, he demanded that I accept his behaviour due to the distance between us. For the first time, he offered me the opportunity to date other men as well. Well I didn't agree to this, because I didn't have a desire to date other men. I only wanted to be with him. Since he assured me that I wouldn't be the only woman in his life, I broke up with him. Afther I broke up with him, he got angry. He said that I was being insecure. He said that I wanted him to live in a cage. He also said that I would never find another man who will treat me half as good as he did, especially since I couldn't handle my man having a normal life and dating other woman than myself. Am I really being insecure? I mean..I just didn't see the point in the two of us staying together and dating other people. If I start dating other people, they will interfere with my feelings for my ex or vice versa. Either way, it's a waste of time to me. I just thought it would be better if the two of us set each other free. Did I make the right decision. Even now he says he would take me back, but only if I accept the fact that he is dating other women. I'm 24 and he's 29. What do you make of this?
swtbonita Posted June 12, 2004 Posted June 12, 2004 you are totally right.. he has lied to you for a year.. and if you knew that he was like this in the beginning you wouldn't have been with him.. so don't waste anymore of your time. As for him saying that you can't find better.. I think it's very easy to find a guy that cheats on you.. so instead you should tell him he's a dime a dozen and you are one in a million.. You shouldn't settle for anything less.. You need to find a guy that will respect you and will love you with all his heart.. not a guy that only wants to sow his seeds..
sweetie7 Posted June 12, 2004 Posted June 12, 2004 I would tell him you ARE going to date other guys and are not staying together with him. Tell him to have his fun with other girls and when he's ready to be in a committed relationship w/ you to let you know. If you haven't in fact found someone better or more your type you'll think about taking him back. He's the one who's insecure. He wants to be able to say he has a "girlfriend" but also wants to be free to date other girls. I doubt the girls would be going out with him if he told them about you. What's the point in having a girlfriend if you're going to be w/ other girls? Just so you can SAY you have one when no other girls want to date you. Good luck!! Keep us updated.
capitald Posted June 12, 2004 Posted June 12, 2004 Dump him like a rock and never take him back again. You can't do anything else and ever have the dignity to look at yourself in the mirror ever again. I think my gf is cheating on me as well, if I find out that she is then I am going to dump her quicker than she can bat an eye. If she has just been messing with the things that she says, well we are going to have a talk about that instead. I won't take crap from anyone and I suggest you do the same.
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