vanillang Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 Lets just say you are in a relationship with someone that you really, really liked. Its been about... 6 months, say. You really like this person, except for some reason you have communication issues. Like, it is sort of hard to talk to him/her for some reason. The two of you connect - you have a lot of things in common - except it is hard to express how how feel about everything. Conversations just dont flow, sorta. What would.. you do?? It's not that i'm antisocial, that's why i was getting frusterated. I can talk to people really easily, But with him the words don't come. I still get ... nervous (? or something) I thought that it would have eventually went away.. i figured i would eventually start to feel comfortable and more myself. But it has been 6 months now. And that's a really long time to be dating someone and really like - and still be nervous for dumb things, like calling on the phone. I dont know, i guess i was just wondering if anyone else had been in the same situation. And how they handle'd that?
tiki Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 I remember when I first started dating my current b/f, I felt so stupid when I was on the phoen w/ him, no matter who called who. My words were sticky and the smoothness wasn't so there. I stumbled over words and had a hard time keeping a convo going. I approached him about this and told himt hat our convos felt a little one-sided, like I was having to lead. He got better, and the more I got to know him, the more in common we had and the more we click and were able to carry on adult-like conversation. Now my ex-boyfriend (cough:loser:cough) was a different story. What a fraking mind-player. He always made me feel awkward when I called or wanted to do anything. That game lasted for three terribly long months. Our conversations were dry. We just couldn't get into the sync of things. My advice: If you don't have anything to say, get in the habit of getting off the phone. I would recommend keeping it honest, tell him if he asks why you want to get off the phone, that you just don't have much else to say. Either he'll come up with something to blab about or you guys will limit calls to imformative calls only. The more you talk to him though, the more you will get to know him. But after 6 months, you guys should know each other better than what you do. =)
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