I think she is showing interest, whats her intent?

[safetyv]

ok so, to give you a quick run of the back story I broke up with my first love 7 months ago. we were lc for three months and then i met another girl whom i was with for about three months. I tried to convince myself i didnt have feelings for my ex and it was working until she started making contact again... since then....

-we kissed (drunk) on the anniversary of our first kiss.

- I broke up with the new girl.

-a week later (drunk) the ex (the original one) and i had a huge argument where i confessed my feelings. she told me "i did have feelings once upon a time but now i am actually enjoying guys chasing me".

-i went to thailand for two weeks to clear my head.

and since i got back from thailand she has started hanging around more and more, i have picked up on some signs of interest which i will run over now...

-the kiss was more than a kiss for both of us. trust me.

-that night she told me she had been thinking about me recently.

-since i got back from thailand she has been coming into my work once a week.

-she wears an outfit she knows without fail turns me on.

-she brings up old personal jokes alot.

-she is very flirty (touching and teasing).

-she talks to my mum on facebook alot and they are going to breakfast next week.

-she compliments me a bit.

-she keeps mentioning how i have "changed".

-on the weekend she interferred with a woman hitting on me at a bar and brought up our sexual history.

however

-she often mentions other guys. (but i feel like she may just be trying to make me jealous).

So if you guys can think of a reason other than the fact that she may not have completely let go (which seriously that kiss showed me without a doubt she has feelings) please tell me now.

 

my thinking is this: shes worried im going to hurt her and so is trying to convince herself she is over me. i acted very needy when asking for her back so it was easy for her to feel powerful and say no. but since i went to thailand i have been pretty indifferent toward her (not replying to txts, not taking much notice of her when she comes into my work) and i had alot of fun which may have her thinking twice.

 

the only way i can think of reestablishing anything will be to take it slowly. confessions, romantic gestures etc have never worked before but she still seems to have kept her foot in the door so i am going to break down her walls slowly over the next few months and rebuild the attraction she most likely lost for me while i was being needy. slowly. and slowly i wil get closer and closer and reignite the feelings she is trying to hide from me and herself.

 

thoughts?

[Dimitris26]

Please read:

 

DONT and i repeat... DO N O T let her take you for granted... because she feels insecure now... like... "oh why is he SO happy now..." or "Why he changed into this thing i like so much but its not mine" "Why isnt mine and why he isnt showing me signs that it can be"

Now if you go giving her even the SLIGHTEST bit of "attention" she WILL NAIL YOU down... she will literally destroy you... she will date left and right and live her life while keepin you in STANDBY mode...

 

Good news now... She isnt the only girl on the planet. Even if you think she is... She doesnt have to know about it. So... live your life (literally) ofc dont try to showoff in her eyes... "look who am i dating today" etc...

 

Your goal: Making realize that you are the one... but SHE gave up on you.

 

How to achieve it: Live your life... Dont reply to any kind of contact she may have with you... or do reply actually in a ratio: if she contacts you 1/day you will reply after 2 days. if she contacts you 1/week you will reply 2days after as well. If she contacts you too much... less than 1/day you will reply with 1 msg the next day. and if she keeps doing it for 3 days continusly you will increase the ratio by a day for 3 continuing days she contacted you. I Know it might sound silly... but you have to make her think that you are not on top of your phone waiting for a msg to come. and even if you see one... you "cant" reply at that time cause you are "busy"

 

Always keep it friendly and no signs of feelings. Dont act... cocky (sorry if that is forbiden my english arent that good and i just couldnt find another word for it. I m really sorry there is no intention to insult) or you might hurt her ego. you need to walk between the line.... I talk to you friendly but we aint friends...

 

Give us some more info of whats going on... your 5 last contacts. what was said and in what tone...

[robertmathis1026]

I think she is testing you, she is want to know if you are suitable for her or not. What you should do be friendly, at the same time don't be needy act just like a friend, don't over-flirt

 

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[safetyv]

i am under the impression that being cocky/flirting etc will help my situation? like it has been long enough that if we are to start moving toward something it would be more like starting a new relationship as opposed to continueing an old relationship and so i should be courting her and not trying to reignite old flames.

as for more detail i have sort of summarized the last two months worth of contact i only really see her once a week where we would talk for maybe ten minutes but in that time she manages to bring up old jokes, tease me etc the other day i left my car at hers (because i carpool with her brother) and she messaged me saying "what is your car doing in front of mine?" which i never replied to so she wrote again "yep uni" which i never really replied to either. she is having breakfast with my mum on monday and will be coming into my work that afternoon aswel so i will update after that.

[safetyv]

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