I love her and set her free but i am scared for whats to come...please help

[woodstok]

My girlfriend and i of 8 months have just recently broke up and to be honest i dont really know if we are broken up or just on a break were we just need time to think about things. Anyways we met last october and we hit it off great except things at her home life were not great, her and her mom began fighting, she was upset and hurting and i was there to support her and help her through those times. Well she moved in about 3 months later in with me and things went well except there was always that problem of her mom and her. I was always positive and told her to fix things with her mom but at the same time her mom made things difficult because she was angry at our relationship because not only were they fighting her daughter left to be with some guy and so she felt as though i took her daughter away which i did not, i never had those intentions, i just wanted her to be happy and always supported her efforts to be with her mom and work things. Well after a while our relationship felt dried out, not that we did not love each other because we did and still do, but because we fell in to comfort nd were together 24/7 neve had a break of alone time, and we both completly abandoned our friends, so and we stopped going out to do things even together and spent most of our time at home. I wont lie i did do stupid things also, like there were times i pushed her away, times i took her being there for granted. I somtimes would rather watch tv than lay with her till she feel asleep, our sex life seemes more like just sex than actual passion and romance. And she also felt as though i never truly trusted her even though deep down i did, i just never showed it. Anyways 3 days ago she went out with some friends and i was fine with it, except it was getting rather late and so i called and she did not answer the phone, i called again late and by this time it was 2 in the morning, still no answer, so i left a message and yes it was hurtful, i told her, "were are you, why have you not called, i am here worried, this is bull****, how do you expect a good relationship when you do **** like this", she called me back maybe 30 minutes later and was like i am sorry, i lost track of time, my phone was off, i understand why you are mad, but she came home and we started talking....and she told me she felt as though lately we are toghether too much and there is no space, she likes to go out with her friends but also feels guilty because she does not wnat me to worry. She then said she was not sure of our livning situation, like maybe her moving back home we could get closer and get that spark back because it felt the spark was not ther anymore. I was upset, but also told her i realize things have not been great and if you want to stay then things need to change, but if you want to go i can not be selfish and make you stay, i want you to be happy and love you enough to let you do what you feel you need to do. I of course was hurt non the less, i mean i love her and letting go of someone you love is a tough thing to do. I want the best for her, i want her happiness, but i also want her in my life, i am so confused...i am scared she may realize she likes living back home and going out and that she may end up meeting somone new. i cant help but roll things through my head and think what if i did this, what if i did this, she would still be here. but i also know if it happened now it would have happened eventually. Help someone, i love her and i know she loves me, that is something i have never doubted, i miss her, its hard to help her pack her things and watch her move out. I know things may work out better but i am so scared they wont work out for us. i am racked with guilt because i feel this was all my fault, i am scared of whats tommorow, i am scared iwont find someone else if this does not work out. I am also bound by this love for her that keeps me hopeful, we have since talked and actually as i write this, i am out of town because i felt the need to get away, being in my house with reminders of her everywhere were driving me crazy. i told her 2 days ago, hey i am going out of town, i dont know when i will be back, but i will not call you, you have chosen to leave, and i will not beg you back, i also repect your decision and want to give you time to think. Because part of her deal was also she was not sure if she was ready for a relationship such as this, she was not sure of who she was and what she wanted. Anyways i told her look if you want to call me and talk, or just say hi, then do so i will always be here for you to support you and give you advice. i ended with i will call you when i get back in town though and we can figure out what to do with the rest of your things in my house and i will help you move the rest out. she asked me to call her when i got in to town here though on my mini vacation which i did, but i kept it short, i told her i made it safe, i loved her, i was thinking of her, and i hoped she had a great weekend and would see her when i got back, she was the same she said she was waiting to hear from me to make sure i got here safe, and she loved me and to be safe and we would talk soon. I am so scared tough i love her and i know i did right by letting her discover who she is, what she wants, and have her free time and space, i just dont know how i should be with her from know on, should i continue to tell her i love her? should i contact her upon retruning home? do i act nice but not mention our relationship and what she has thought? should i maybe send her a text message in a few days just to let her know i am thinking of her even though i said i would not call and i am not calling her i am just sending her a message? do i stillkiss her when i get home and see her, because she still kisses me, i mean i feel there is still this strong love ther between us and true it may not be fully lite right now but i feel its burning and we both want each other we are just unsure. Please help someone, and by the way this is not a puppy love thing we are both young adults, she is 19 i am 22.....

[easylover]

You are both very young and I can see you are both very much in love with eachother. Give it time, stay nice and sweet and try to call once a week and let her know you love her and miss her. She just needs time to realize, but in the meantime, keep yourself busy and get back with your friends and when you get back together, do not lose your friends again. You need to stay grounded and focus on yourself more. You have really lost yourself in her and she has all of the control now. Take some of it back and it will feel good. She'll want you more if you're busy. :-)