starla33 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 So every dating book and every gf I have always say to NEVER ask a guy out within the first 5 dates or so. I don't know why I never listen and end up asking them out for the 3rd or 4th date. I feel like I ruin it with that in the beginning as they get completely lazy at that point and don't chase me anymore. I know most of you guys wont agree with me, but come on be honest. Guys like girls that play hard to get.
nick d Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 We don't ALWAYS like girls that play hard to get.. When we are interested in a girl, it's nice when they ask us out too. To show that they really are interested. Alot of times when girls play "hard to get" they send the wrong signals so we think they aren't interested.. 1
Author starla33 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 We don't ALWAYS like girls that play hard to get.. When we are interested in a girl, it's nice when they ask us out too. To show that they really are interested. Alot of times when girls play "hard to get" they send the wrong signals so we think they aren't interested.. But a lot of guys from my experience are really into girls that are mean to them. They seem to love it they will go for the one that is the hardest to get.
nick d Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Not just guys, but EVERYONE wants what they can't have.. I personally like when a girl asks me out after we've hung out/went on dates a few times.
Author starla33 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Not just guys, but EVERYONE wants what they can't have.. I personally like when a girl asks me out after we've hung out/went on dates a few times. Eh. If a guy is playing hard to get I'm out. When I was younger I was all over that though.
lospantalonsfancie Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 (edited) So every dating book and every gf I have always say to NEVER ask a guy out within the first 5 dates or so. I don't know why I never listen and end up asking them out for the 3rd or 4th date. I feel like I ruin it with that in the beginning as they get completely lazy at that point and don't chase me anymore. I know most of you guys wont agree with me, but come on be honest. Guys like girls that play hard to get. This is again a myth. A man will not like you MORE if you hold out longer. If a man discards you for showing interest early, then most likely he would have discarded you had you held out longer anyways. Only now you learned the truth sooner and saved yourself some time. If a man is into you, then holding out on him will either not change his feelings or make him pull back emotionally out of self-preservation (due to the possibility of rejection). If he is not into you, then holding out on him will just make him pretend to like you for longer until he gets sex out of you and discards you. Here's my personal experience. When I was younger and more foolish, if I felt a girl held out on me on purpose in order to manipulate me in some way, I would make a point of bedding her for the challenge, and purposely subdue my emotions for her. Most of the time it worked, I moved on, and the girl was hurt. Now that I'm wiser and more compassionate, I lose interest in any girl that tries to pull that **** and stop calling her. To summarize: men are not, generally speaking, idiots. You are not going to magically make them love you by holding out on them on purpose. Don't be a child. Instead, be open and honest with your feelings and find someone who is willing to be the same back; this is the way you forge a real connection. Edited March 21, 2012 by lospantalonsfancie
Chicago_Guy Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 We don't ALWAYS like girls that play hard to get.. When we are interested in a girl, it's nice when they ask us out too. To show that they really are interested. Alot of times when girls play "hard to get" they send the wrong signals so we think they aren't interested.. I agree 100%. If a girl does this early on I really start to question whether she likes me. If I am already attracted to her, then I will probably be even more attracted to her is she makes it clear that she is really into me.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 But a lot of guys from my experience are really into girls that are mean to them. They seem to love it they will go for the one that is the hardest to get. Women often seem to think this is the case. However, I suspect that the girls who are "mean" are physically hotter than the ones who are nice and that is why the men go for them.
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 So every dating book and every gf I have always say to NEVER ask a guy out within the first 5 dates or so. I don't know why I never listen and end up asking them out for the 3rd or 4th date. I feel like I ruin it with that in the beginning as they get completely lazy at that point and don't chase me anymore. I know most of you guys wont agree with me, but come on be honest. Guys like girls that play hard to get. I'm not interested in guys that think that way though. I like a man who has a healthy appreciation of mutual interest and who isn't after a princess. I will ask after a date or two and if that's too much for him then 'sorry for you' and that's the end of that.
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Women often seem to think this is the case. However, I suspect that the girls who are "mean" are physically hotter than the ones who are nice and that is why the men go for them. I think you shouldn't take sh*t from a guy and that could come across 'mean' but I hate the princess stuff and don't subscribe to it.
Author starla33 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Women often seem to think this is the case. However, I suspect that the girls who are "mean" are physically hotter than the ones who are nice and that is why the men go for them. This is not true as I'm not ugly or average lol. Anyway you know that rule, don't like anyone more than they like you. I always seem to fail in that regard.
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