Necris Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I feel nearly mentally retarded when it comes to social/romantic issues since its extremely difficult for me to understand or relate to anyone but I was wondering what are the signs that a woman feels attracted to you? To me that is like an alien psychic language so I need help figuring this out. Also what is flirting? I hear this term but I can't understand it since I can't read other people at all. Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 what are the signs that a woman feels attracted to you? Prolonged eye contact, smiling, allowing you into her personal space, touching you (such as touching your arm while telling you a story), engaging you in conversation (I.E. asks questions back and gives more than one word answers). These aren't guarantees of attraction, note, but they can be signs. Also what is flirting? I hear this term but I can't understand it since I can't read other people at all. Playful chatting or joking with a romantic or sexual undertone is considered flirting. Often flirting is just regular conversation, but it's combined with one or more of the "signs of attraction" I listed above. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I'll tell you some things I do when I'm attracted to someone and I want them to know it. -- I make very intense eye contact that doesn't blink very much. Of course, some people do this with other people anyway, so I can see how one would not know if it means anything. And how do you know if a person is being "intense" as in attraction or if they just tend to look at people intensely? A co-worker of mine years ago used to tell me she always wanted to avert her eyes when talking to me because I made such intense eye contact. But I certainly wasn't attracted to her. -- I will usually touch a guy if I'm trying to flirt. I will pretend I want to look at his watch, so I grab his arm or hand and admire the watch. But really I just wanted to touch his skin and have him feel me touching his skin. -- I will smile a lot at him and turn my body toward him. If I can think of any other things, I'll let you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Necris Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Prolonged eye contact, smiling, allowing you into her personal space, touching you (such as touching your arm while telling you a story), engaging you in conversation (I.E. asks questions back and gives more than one word answers). These aren't guarantees of attraction, note, but they can be signs. Playful chatting or joking with a romantic or sexual undertone is considered flirting. Often flirting is just regular conversation, but it's combined with one or more of the "signs of attraction" I listed above. Would touching be considered a more extreme form of showing attraction? As in a definite sign of attraction. I haven't been touched in anyway by a girl in years (I actually can't remember, besides this time way back when I was 14 and a girl grabbed my butt for some reason). Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I tend to make eye contact, and let it be prolonged for a while and then avert my gaze and get shy. That's a big one for me when I like a guy. Eye contact makes me a bit nervous if I'm really into the guy. So that's kind of confusing haha I tend to laugh more at his jokes. And if I allow a guy to put his hand on the small of my back while we're walking, that's a really good sign. I'll also put my hand on his arm when I'm telling a story, or make some kind of excuse to touch him. Body language is big. I'll walk closer to a guy, be more likely to stand directly in front of him, and close. I'm kind of outgoing, so a lot of times if I'm really liking a guy, I'll just slip my arm into his while we're walking and smile up at him and start telling a story. So I'm easier to read I guess. I feel like if a girl is interested in you, you'll see the signs. And if you have anything you're not sure of, just ask someone here I'll post more when I think of them! Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Would touching be considered a more extreme form of showing attraction? As in a definite sign of attraction. I haven't been touched in anyway by a girl in years (I actually can't remember, besides this time way back when I was 14 and a girl grabbed my butt for some reason). I'd say so, a lot of girls don't want to make the first move and want the guy to touch first. So if she did I'd say it was a more definite sign of attraction, yes. It's not going to be the main sign you'll see on dates. Not all girls will do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Necris Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Signs of attraction: *She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking *She giggles *She touches you *She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you *She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so *She tosses her hair (to see if you will look) *If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second *She smiles at you *She stands nearby (proximity) *She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said *While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you *She says something to her friend and they both giggle *She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation *While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention) *She asks you for your name *She asks you your age (make her guess) *She compliments you *She is playful and tries to challenge you *She's disagreeing but laughing *She's punching your arm but laughing *She uses nicknames for you *She plays with her hair while talking to you *When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours *She repeatedly touches you in any way *She asks if you have a girlfriend *She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one *When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back *She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you *She avoids mentioning her boyfriend *If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it *When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction *She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking *She introduces you to friends *She buys you a drink *She calls you a player or a heartbreaker *On her way out, she reapproaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #) *On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her) *She returns your calls *She invents reasons to be near you, intereact with you, or have isolation with you Passive signs of interest: *Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays *She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods *If you move, she follows you or waits for you *She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close *She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistence to avoid feeling like a slut) The most important signs of interest to look for are: *She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking *She giggles *She touches you *She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you Oh a list, and a fairly comprehensive one at that, thats good to know. I can't recall seeing most of these signs really ever so they must actually be special since they are so rare. What happens when a girl doesn't show any obvious signs, is she still possibly attracted to me or is it more likely I'm making more out of something then there actually is? What are some more subtle signs to look for? What should I do if women simply aren't sexually attracted to me? What is this so-called "chemistry" that I keep hearing about? I find it difficult to relate to people and understand them can this obstacle be overcome? Also how should I approach a woman, especially one who has shown no signs of attraction prior to approach? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Necris Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 I know I'm full of questions today. I just want to understand these things. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Oh a list, and a fairly comprehensive one at that, thats good to know. I can't recall seeing most of these signs really ever so they must actually be special since they are so rare. What happens when a girl doesn't show any obvious signs, is she still possibly attracted to me or is it more likely I'm making more out of something then there actually is? What are some more subtle signs to look for? What should I do if women simply aren't sexually attracted to me? What is this so-called "chemistry" that I keep hearing about? I find it difficult to relate to people and understand them can this obstacle be overcome? Also how should I approach a woman, especially one who has shown no signs of attraction prior to approach? This really does vary from girl to girl. If she doesn't show you any sign whatsoever, you're probably dealing with someone who isn't interested. The best "sign" is just if conversation is flowing and you feel a connection with her. That's what chemistry is. Are there awkward pauses? Uncomfortable moments of silence? Struggling for something to say? Then those are bad signs of a lack of chemistry. As for someone who has shown no signs of attraction prior to approach, just approach her like a friend? Get to know the woman, don't rush things. Especially if you don't think you're "good with women". Just be yourself, attempt conversation, get to know her. Link to post Share on other sites
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