HELP HELP HELP freakkkkkked out and need advice

[simplybrill]

Finally...finally have gotten past the whole "missing the ex" bit- and ive gotten past looking at my phone, hoping he would call or contact me.

 

My life is getting back to the way it was before I met him...only of course things are different now, and Im a stronger person from the whole experience.

 

A guy friend I just met recently, asked me to go have dinner with some people from work - and im freaked out because Im moving on, and I want to go on with my life, but...Im definitely not ready to start dating again. It isnt a date, I know, its a group outing with co-workers,,,so Im not sure why im so freaked out.

 

The more and more I get to know this guy friend, im sure we should just be friends and not date, this im sure of! Mind you, he's not a horrible person, just not right for me personally.

 

I usually hang out with people more on a one on one basis, not groups like that cuz its hard to keep up a convo with 4/5 people unless you're an extreme extrovert (def. not me) & its easy to get lost in the crowd, literally, when there's that many people trying to hang out at the same time. Most of these people are older than me, in their late 20's-early 30's so I guess im kind of intimidated, not to mention the fact that I work with them in an office environment, im the newbie literally being only 21.

 

So YES im freaked out, so should I trust my gut - thats telling me to back off and not do this group thing because Im not comfortable enough with these folks yet at work --- or---should I just bite the bullet, get myself out there and force myself out of my post-breakup cocoon.

[easylover]

Originally posted by simplybrill

Finally...finally have gotten past the whole "missing the ex" bit- and ive gotten past looking at my phone, hoping he would call or contact me.

 

My life is getting back to the way it was before I met him...only of course things are different now, and Im a stronger person from the whole experience.

 

A guy friend I just met recently, asked me to go have dinner with some people from work - and im freaked out because Im moving on, and I want to go on with my life, but...Im definitely not ready to start dating again. It isnt a date, I know, its a group outing with co-workers,,,so Im not sure why im so freaked out.

 

The more and more I get to know this guy friend, im sure we should just be friends and not date, this im sure of! Mind you, he's not a horrible person, just not right for me personally.

 

I usually hang out with people more on a one on one basis, not groups like that cuz its hard to keep up a convo with 4/5 people unless you're an extreme extrovert (def. not me) & its easy to get lost in the crowd, literally, when there's that many people trying to hang out at the same time. Most of these people are older than me, in their late 20's-early 30's so I guess im kind of intimidated, not to mention the fact that I work with them in an office environment, im the newbie literally being only 21.

 

So YES im freaked out, so should I trust my gut - thats telling me to back off and not do this group thing because Im not comfortable enough with these folks yet at work --- or---should I just bite the bullet, get myself out there and force myself out of my post-breakup cocoon.

 

 

 

I was in this type of situation once and ended up being with this guy for 8 months even though I really wasn't into him. Now, I realize I only let him in because I didn't want to be alone. YOu're best bet is to not lead him on, which is exactly what you'd be doing if you say yes. It will only lead to him being in your life when you're not into him. Hold off and wait for the right guy to take you out with friends from work. Guys take you saying yes to something like this to a yes about liking them.