Motor35 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 hi i am falling hard for the first guy i have dated for just over five years. it just became clear to me that i am *way* more into him than he is into me. i know this situation is not healthy. how can i take my heart back? i am pretty crushed....maybe even heartbroken....hard to tell but it sure hurts
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 hi i am falling hard for the first guy i have dated for just over five years. it just became clear to me that i am *way* more into him than he is into me. i know this situation is not healthy. how can i take my heart back? i am pretty crushed....maybe even heartbroken....hard to tell but it sure hurts Hi, Motor, can you tell more of your story, how did you meet; were you dating for 5 years or you you mean that is the first fellow you dated in that span of time? How do you know for sure he's not into you? How long have you known him and how many dates has it been?
Author Motor35 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 hi Bewitched i hadn't dated or been intimate with anyone for five years. met this man in septmeber right before a work detail and he had to leave town for 6 months. we continued to get to know each other over the phone. in december we started to rotate trips back and forth every three weeks. (we were 500 miles apart) i have a BLAST with this guy he returned back to town to stay march 9th and it was great for the first week. but he has stopped calling or texting for the last four days. i know that is mostly silly, but it shows me that he doesn't think of me how i think of him. i guess i assume nothing good can happen here as i am falling and he seems to not care at all...*shrugs*
Whisky1981 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I would need more info to give you my opinion. Now if you are crushed...maybe in confort I can tell you that I am crushed too. I know how hard it is to not have your love fullfiled by the other party in question. My story short...I met a girl at dance classes...I fell for her imediatly and in time I just grew on her...she was giving me some signes and I was really hyped that something can really happen...two weeks ago she kind of mentions that she is back with her ex (I was really heartbroaken, didnt realize she ment so much to me)...last week they were officialy back together (sadness overcame me)...today at te dance classes she said she wont continue the classess with me as she will try to continue them with her boyfriend (today...I really am depressed). So hang in there, I feel your pain and millions of others do in this moment so you are not alone.
Author Motor35 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 i am so so sorry you are hurting, Whisky not having your love returned certainly hurts. thank you for your wise and kind words
Whisky1981 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 hi Bewitched i hadn't dated or been intimate with anyone for five years. met this man in septmeber right before a work detail and he had to leave town for 6 months. we continued to get to know each other over the phone. in december we started to rotate trips back and forth every three weeks. (we were 500 miles apart) i have a BLAST with this guy he returned back to town to stay march 9th and it was great for the first week. but he has stopped calling or texting for the last four days. i know that is mostly silly, but it shows me that he doesn't think of me how i think of him. i guess i assume nothing good can happen here as i am falling and he seems to not care at all...*shrugs* Hm....not all is lost but something is not right in my opinion. I would try to contact him and ask him is something is wrong. As a girl you can do this and the guy will probably be more than glad you did it. But BE CAREFUL, before falling even deeply in this get to know him a little more, his habits, his life when he is not around. He can easily be a player couse you were not together most of the time till now. Be prepared to take the pain if he rejects you. As you said you have been out of the dating business for 5 years. I am sure that you had a lot of good times in those 5 years, so if he rejects you or he dosent show interest anymore it is not that big of a deal it is his lost! You will have fun with or without him. If things go wrong you can always come back here for words of confort. I had a ton of good advices from this site and you will too! Hope everything turns right for you!
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