pinkttulips Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 (edited) I need opinions please! There is a guy that I am interested in, and recently on my facebook page I posted a pic of my daughter (who is an adult) and posted that I thought it was a pretty pic of her. Well the guy that I am interested in posted "like Mother like Daughter" him and I dated just a little bit in the past, then things got busy for both of us and time slipped away (for 4 months or so) and we haven't had a lot of contact. Does this comment from him mean he is again interested in me too? And if so, what would be a good flirty (clean) response. I'm not good at this stuff sadly. And I'm really afraid of assuming something that may not be so, and reading him wrong. Thanks for the help. Edited March 20, 2012 by pinkttulips
thatone Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 i would say it was intended to be a compliment showing interest, yes. but that's just a wild guess, there's no way to know without knowing, know what i mean? send him a private message, tell him you appreciated the compliment. see what he responds with.
Author pinkttulips Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 thanks for the reply. I sent a response privately, still waiting for one back from him. We shall see.
Author pinkttulips Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Wow! So he was on facebook last night and didn't respond to my private message.. I guess that's my answer right. I was an idiot.... this is why I dont go out of my way much anymore to let a guy know I'm interested, its just a waste of time and I risk making a fool out of myself. This is what I'm thinking now... I'm thinking that he's just a game player and I will now just ignore him if he posts anything or if he does contact me, because I'm done. I'm really tired of this kind of crap from guys, its a bunch of bs! Sorry to all you nice guys out there, the game players who don't care about anyone but themselves ruin it for you. I'm sure I'm not the first nice girl who's pretty much given up on the idea of finding someone. I'm just sick of it.
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 you don't think you are somewhat overreacting? There can be a million reasons why he isn't reciprocating the interest, a lot of it may have nothing to do with you. Having said that, you don't think it's your anger he finds unattractive perhaps?
Author pinkttulips Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 he's actually never seen my anger before, so no it can't be that. And I have come right out and told him that I was interested in him in the past (recently like 2 month ago or so) so for him not to post something like that and then to not respond to my private message = game playing to me. Yeah, maybe it could be something else, maybe he didn't have time, he also has my phone number and knows where I live... maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning... but no he has not seen my anger yet, so it can't be that at all.
Author pinkttulips Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 well he has never met her, but hey maybe he is, even though he's 48 yrs old and she is only 22... I bet that's it. @@ because you know, a lot of men his age go for the younger ones, right!
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 You sound quite negative OP. There are a lot of maybes here, you can't blame someone for not being interested in you. Perhaps he was trying to be complimenting you because he knew you were interested even though he wasn't? He doesn't owe you romance, does he?
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 i would say it was intended to be a compliment showing interest, yes. but that's just a wild guess, there's no way to know without knowing, know what i mean? send him a private message, tell him you appreciated the compliment. see what he responds with. Unfortunately this is horrible advice that a woman would give to another woman in this situation (no idea why a man would suggest this) You do not respond/react to small flirtatious comments from a man, you just smile and or make an equally subtle comment in return. He was basically fishing to see If he could peak your interest, nothing more. The fact of the matter is he probably got a rise out of your daughter more than with you...which is a subtle way of not coming off pervy. If it was meant for you he would have complimented you first out of it, or made it more obvious, in this situation he was just admiring both of you...but as men go especially older men, they like the fresh meat. I would delete this guy from your facebook, and let him pursue If he's interested and you really need that validation...he would chase If he wants to stay in contact. However sending him a message only satisfied his curiosity and boosted the ego a little bit by you sending a reply. Does this mean he won't reply some days later? Possibly, but at that point It's obvious he is not really interested anyway. Bottom line: You do NOT have to acknowledge a compliment from a man, words are cheap and a lot of guys throw them around fairly easy to gain some easy brownie points...never let a man know you are swept away by mere words or he'll take you for a fool If his intentions are "less than divine" 1
thatone Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 eh? i don't get it. what's the harm in "thanks for the compliment" in a private message?
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Nothing. I don't think anyone should worry about arbitary rules too much and when someone doesn't reciprocate it's time to move on. End of.
Author pinkttulips Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 You sound quite negative OP. There are a lot of maybes here, you can't blame someone for not being interested in you. Perhaps he was trying to be complimenting you because he knew you were interested even though he wasn't? He doesn't owe you romance, does he? Your right Emilia, he doesn't owe me romance or anything for that matter... BUT, knowing that I am interested and then he isn't and he throws a compliment, doesn't that sort of make him a game player possibly??? I'm sorry, but I really dont understand your way of thinking. If he was admiring me (and my daughter too maybe), knowing I am interested, you'd think if he wasn't interested and he wasn't a game player then he wouldn't be leading me on that way. So like I mentioned, I don't understand your way of thinking here.
Author pinkttulips Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Unfortunately this is horrible advice that a woman would give to another woman in this situation (no idea why a man would suggest this) You do not respond/react to small flirtatious comments from a man, you just smile and or make an equally subtle comment in return. He was basically fishing to see If he could peak your interest, nothing more. The fact of the matter is he probably got a rise out of your daughter more than with you...which is a subtle way of not coming off pervy. If it was meant for you he would have complimented you first out of it, or made it more obvious, in this situation he was just admiring both of you...but as men go especially older men, they like the fresh meat. I would delete this guy from your facebook, and let him pursue If he's interested and you really need that validation...he would chase If he wants to stay in contact. However sending him a message only satisfied his curiosity and boosted the ego a little bit by you sending a reply. Does this mean he won't reply some days later? Possibly, but at that point It's obvious he is not really interested anyway. Bottom line: You do NOT have to acknowledge a compliment from a man, words are cheap and a lot of guys throw them around fairly easy to gain some easy brownie points...never let a man know you are swept away by mere words or he'll take you for a fool If his intentions are "less than divine" This is great advice for the future, I will use this instead... to not even acknowledge a compliment. But also on the other hand, in this case, I'm sort of glad that I messaged him, because now I know for sure that he isn't interested, so now I'm moving on. And deleting him from my facebook is a great idea too. I'm done with wishy washy guys, and game players... I'm learning how to spot the game players a little quicker now so that is a good thing. This one was really sweet, well mannered, etc... so it apparently threw me off... its actually disappointing and sad, and makes me think gosh, who can I trust if one who seemed so sweet, caring and polite will do that. And I dont have any patience for the wishy washy guys and why should I, I'm a good person, not bad looking and have a lot to offer, so why should I spend my time trying to convince a guy to be with me, its actually just a waste of my time...
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