ThaWholigan Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 She gave a look up for interpretation, said hello, answered your questions, and left. Is the issue that you didn't get the engaging conversation you wanted, her lack of interest in the conversation and you, the curtness? is the issue the look she gave? Was it a grimace, a look of disgust? You stated it was a look of daring to enter her airspace perhaps personal boundaries? She conversed with you just not in the way it seems you wanted her to. To me it would have been rude, mean, or stuck up if she ignored you, walked away, or insulted you. Seems all she did was give a look up for interpretation and answer one wordily then left. Just like it wasn't like you were asking her hand in manner she didn't have to talk to you or engage you the way you wanted. I'm curious. What advice would you give him in terms of getting better at his interactions and handling them?
PJKino Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I'm curious. What advice would you give him in terms of getting better at his interactions and handling them? How are people twisting this as the women only acted that way because she smelled the op's insecurity through her brilliant mind Women get way too much credit on this site A lot of them are quite mean and entitled in this country as long as theyre not hidoeus looking. Though thats partly men's fault for inflating these womens egos to where theyre treated like mini celbritries and feel people beneath them should stay away
udolipixie Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 (edited) I'm curious. What advice would you give him in terms of getting better at his interactions and handling them? That if when approaching the person didn't insult you or walk away without acknowledging your existence don't let it affect your self-esteem. Especially to the point of feeling invisible to women and considering it being treated badly. If you felt invisible to this woman: she responded to your questions she just wasn't interested in continuing remind yourself of being told that you're a sweetheart and gentleman you interacted with a person who acknowledged your existence without insults If you felt treated badly by this woman: she didn't insult you *depends on the description of this look* she didn't verbally insult you she didn't walk away without acknowledging your existence she was just not interested and no one is obligated to be interested in you As well as No one is obligated to talk to you if they don't wish to. You can approach her in public and she can chose not to being, participate heavily, or continue a conversation. She didn't participate heavily as she gave one word answers and she didn't continue the conversation as she left before you pushed further. Probably best suited to get rid of this she's stuck up, so rude, she's a bitch, and she would have talked to me the way I wanted her to if I was good looking mindset when you don't get what you want. Though you stated you wanted to strike up a conversation and see if it leads anywhere. She did converse with you just in one worded replies before leaving so you did get the conversation. Edited March 20, 2012 by udolipixie 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I dont think i was too agressive i probably am not agressive enough at times in fear of getting reactions like that.. I hear you though dude...im not gonna change my ways i know im a good person and have been told im a sweetheart and a gentleman by most friends wives it just hurts being invisble to women and when you get treated badly for just trying to be nice.. I'm just going to elaborate just to make sure you know what I mean...because I by no means think you are the aggressive type...however remember she doesn't know what you're all about. And you may lack the self-awareness, that might be putting you off to women. Make sure you recognize your body language when you come up to a girl...how do you think you look? do you look semi-confident (head down, hands in pocket, cheesy smile)? do you look-too obvious (giving her a look for 30 minutes like you're thinking about doing it then finally go over)? do you stare at her like a surprised squirrel as you make the mr roboto b line to her? What you want to do is casually and gracefully make conversation with a woman..you do not need to necessarily introduce yourself or be formal about it. This can eliminate that "cold approach" and fly under the radar appearing to just be making friendly conversation. When you cold approach a woman she has to determine in five seconds...your level of attractiveness, your confidence level, the way you dress, and the overall vibe you're giving off. Not to mention like I said that she's in a bar which means she has the wall up. Do you know how many guys get shot down? It's not just you. Granted, she was a friend and like Fit Chick said, you should have been introduced however If you're not you've gotta be able to either introduce yourself or make small casual talk without looking like you're trying. Maybe you're not the best looking guy, you think women only end up with men they are initially attracted to?...If anything you're lucky to be a man because women can become attracted to you after getting to know more about you. However don't overdo the sweetheart and gentlemen thing too much, you're not in the middle ages and you're not courting a young princess in the royal court. Relax, be yourself, be confident in yourself and don't kiss the floor they walk on or treat them like innocent doves, be assertive, not aggressive, polite but not overly nice, confident yet not arrogant, and have a backbone, know your worth and what you have to offer, don't try and prove it to a girl, you don't have to try so hard. 1
danny in van Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Exactly people often have to endure interruption onto space and time and most except that as socialization. However it seems women specifically have to endure this socialization from men and be so nice and appreciative about it as well as engaging them in a conversation she doesn't want otherwise she's rude, mean, bitchy, cold, and stuck up. So a gal giving you a look up for interpretation and one word mumbles then leaving will make you feel worse for saying hello? Other than the up for interpretation look she said hello, answered your questions, and left what would make a guy feel worse about saying hello for that? Do tell is it a bending over backwards to please you and spare your feelings and ego something that makes a guy not feel worse for saying hello? Can a gal just sidestep a guy who attempts approaching therefore evading the approach in the first place? Put on her headphones or look unapproachable therefore evading the approach? Say hello back and then walk away thus evading any conversation? Say hello and then state I'm not interested and walk away thus evading any possible conversation? Or is that more of being bitchy, cold, rude, mean? Does bitchy, cold, mean, rude, and stuck up entail anything that doesn't engage the guy and making him feel appreciated without hurting his feelings or ego in the slightest with that you don't want to talk to him? It seems guys are quite picky on defining this treatment of others when it's gals as well as quite extensive on what is bitchy. manners and etiquette is an effort for everyone- guys and girls. I choose to be polite when approached by a street person even. I consider that very telling- if I'm with someone and they don't acknowledge a person- or are rude to the down and out- then they are kinda out in my books. It takes me just seconds to acknowledge that person bumming $ from me. Does it make them hassle me more? No, I get a look or a nod back that says 'hey thx for treating me like a human...' and I feel better for it. Same goes for the courting ritual. It takes effort and diplomacy but when u see it it reveals a rare type of character. I've been hit on by unattractive girls, but I converse at face value. Give them a few minutes of my direct attention - then gracefully move on- no ones the lesser for it. And to ur question- this guy started the thread because this person somehow was demeaning to him. One word answers DO generally mean disrespect btw.
ThaWholigan Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 How are people twisting this as the women only acted that way because she smelled the op's insecurity through her brilliant mind Women get way too much credit on this site A lot of them are quite mean and entitled in this country as long as theyre not hidoeus looking. Though thats partly men's fault for inflating these womens egos to where theyre treated like mini celbritries and feel people beneath them should stay away I'm not saying that, but it's possible. We are not as subtle as we think we are . It's very counterproductive and detrimental to think about women in that way. Let us remember that there are quite a few men that embody undesirable traits too. Just because women haven't given us the time of day that we would have liked in our lives doesn't mean we should start hating them and thinking most of them are mean and shallow, because the vast majority of the time they aren't. It just seems that way because we have conditioned ourselves to respond to such negativity. Well, I say we, but I've since drastically changed my outlook. If I can do it, then you have more chance than I do, I have a neurological condition and I still consider myself to have no excuse.
ThaWholigan Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I'm just going to elaborate just to make sure you know what I mean...because I by no means think you are the aggressive type...however remember she doesn't know what you're all about. And you may lack the self-awareness, that might be putting you off to women. Make sure you recognize your body language when you come up to a girl...how do you think you look? do you look semi-confident (head down, hands in pocket, cheesy smile)? do you look-too obvious (giving her a look for 30 minutes like you're thinking about doing it then finally go over)? do you stare at her like a surprised squirrel as you make the mr roboto b line to her? What you want to do is casually and gracefully make conversation with a woman..you do not need to necessarily introduce yourself or be formal about it. This can eliminate that "cold approach" and fly under the radar appearing to just be making friendly conversation. When you cold approach a woman she has to determine in five seconds...your level of attractiveness, your confidence level, the way you dress, and the overall vibe you're giving off. Not to mention like I said that she's in a bar which means she has the wall up. Do you know how many guys get shot down? It's not just you. Granted, she was a friend and like Fit Chick said, you should have been introduced however If you're not you've gotta be able to either introduce yourself or make small casual talk without looking like you're trying. Maybe you're not the best looking guy, you think women only end up with men they are initially attracted to?...If anything you're lucky to be a man because women can become attracted to you after getting to know more about you. However don't overdo the sweetheart and gentlemen thing too much, you're not in the middle ages and you're not courting a young princess in the royal court. Relax, be yourself, be confident in yourself and don't kiss the floor they walk on or treat them like innocent doves, be assertive, not aggressive, polite but not overly nice, confident yet not arrogant, and have a backbone, know your worth and what you have to offer, don't try and prove it to a girl, you don't have to try so hard. ^^^^This is magnificent. Please take heed OP.
ThaWholigan Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 That if when approaching the person didn't insult you or walk away without acknowledging your existence don't let it affect your self-esteem. Especially to the point of feeling invisible to women and considering it being treated badly. If you felt invisible to this woman: she responded to your questions she just wasn't interested in continuing remind yourself of being told that you're a sweetheart and gentleman you interacted with a person who acknowledged your existence without insults If you felt treated badly by this woman: she didn't insult you *depends on the description of this look* she didn't verbally insult you she didn't walk away without acknowledging your existence she was just not interested and no one is obligated to be interested in you As well as Agree 100%. I think it's important to handle socializing in that manner.....
dasein Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 My buddy brought this girl he just started to see to the bar st paddys day and she brought a few friends.. Guess you missed this part about it not being some random dude approaching in the subway or honking the horn on the street. Exactly people often have to endure interruption onto space and time and most except that as socialization. However it seems women specifically have to endure this socialization from men and be so nice and appreciative about it as well as engaging them in a conversation she doesn't want otherwise she's rude, mean, bitchy, cold, and stuck up. OP expected basic courtesy, he didn't get it. This reflects poorly on the girl. The end. The rest of what you post is rationalization. Nothing in OP even suggested that he expected some red carpet reception and a lengthy, inconvenient conversation. I try to sympathize, and have recently in a similar thread from a woman's POV, but I find lots of women today have the mistaken belief that they carry around a magic force field they can turn on at any time, and only men they deem acceptable are free to pass through it. Sorry, no. It isn't a sin to approach strangers, especially in certain environments and contexts, and rationalize til the cows come home, it's wrong to treat people rudely who haven't earned it. People with character who are faced with engaging someone they aren't attracted to still manage to behave decently and disengage themselves with tact. People who don't are simply people of low character, regardless of gender. And no, giving an eat sh-t look and dismissive one word answers to questions is not behaving decently towards a friend of a friend. 1
Author AD1980 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 I'm just going to elaborate just to make sure you know what I mean...because I by no means think you are the aggressive type...however remember she doesn't know what you're all about. And you may lack the self-awareness, that might be putting you off to women. Make sure you recognize your body language when you come up to a girl...how do you think you look? do you look semi-confident (head down, hands in pocket, cheesy smile)? do you look-too obvious (giving her a look for 30 minutes like you're thinking about doing it then finally go over)? do you stare at her like a surprised squirrel as you make the mr roboto b line to her? What you want to do is casually and gracefully make conversation with a woman..you do not need to necessarily introduce yourself or be formal about it. This can eliminate that "cold approach" and fly under the radar appearing to just be making friendly conversation. When you cold approach a woman she has to determine in five seconds...your level of attractiveness, your confidence level, the way you dress, and the overall vibe you're giving off. Not to mention like I said that she's in a bar which means she has the wall up. Do you know how many guys get shot down? It's not just you. Granted, she was a friend and like Fit Chick said, you should have been introduced however If you're not you've gotta be able to either introduce yourself or make small casual talk without looking like you're trying. Maybe you're not the best looking guy, you think women only end up with men they are initially attracted to?...If anything you're lucky to be a man because women can become attracted to you after getting to know more about you. However don't overdo the sweetheart and gentlemen thing too much, you're not in the middle ages and you're not courting a young princess in the royal court. Relax, be yourself, be confident in yourself and don't kiss the floor they walk on or treat them like innocent doves, be assertive, not aggressive, polite but not overly nice, confident yet not arrogant, and have a backbone, know your worth and what you have to offer, don't try and prove it to a girl, you don't have to try so hard. Damn it seems like so much work to attract a women with the way they overanalyze our every godamn move or expression... As far as how i come off i dont know..i try not to be to predatorial at all and scare women off so i dont think its that... My problem is any chance at attraction with me cant come right away since im not very good looking so id guess my only chance is i really need soemobdy to get to know me and my good traits but if all i get is a few seconds of women overnalayzing and judging me then im probably not gonna do to well
udolipixie Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 manners and etiquette is an effort for everyone- guys and girls. The only etiquette breaching I see is her mumbling. The look she gave is up for interpretation. She answered his questions then left. Same goes for the courting ritual. It takes effort and diplomacy but when u see it it reveals a rare type of character. I've been hit on by unattractive girls, but I converse at face value. Give them a few minutes of my direct attention - then gracefully move on- no ones the lesser for it. She acknowledged him as well just not in the way he seems to have wanted her to. She gave him a few minutes of her attention answering his questions then left. However she got being called mean, rude, stuck up, and a bitch in return. Not unsurprising as it seems increasingly common in my country that if you don't engage a man the way he desires that's what you are. And to ur question- this guy started the thread because this person somehow was demeaning to him. One word answers DO generally mean disrespect btw. One word answers generally mean disinterest to me not disrespect. If it's not insulting, degrading, patronizing, or demeaning the answer isn't disrespectful to me. The look is what's up for being labeled disrespectful as well as the mumbling for being etiquette breaching.
udolipixie Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Guess you missed this part about it not being some random dude approaching in the subway or honking the horn on the street. Guess you missed the part where what you quoted was my response to danny in van not the OP. Not sure how as I even quote danny in van when I posted it. OP expected basic courtesy, he didn't get it. What's this basic courtesy to you? She acknowledged his existence, answered his questions, and left. This reflects poorly on the girl. The end. It reflects poorly on her based on this look that's up for interpretation. As well as the mumbling due to etiquette breach.
ThaWholigan Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Damn it seems like so much work to attract a women with the way they overanalyze our every godamn move or expression... As far as how i come off i dont know..i try not to be to predatorial at all and scare women off so i dont think its that... My problem is any chance at attraction with me cant come right away since im not very good looking so id guess my only chance is i really need soemobdy to get to know me and my good traits but if all i get is a few seconds of women overnalayzing and judging me then im probably not gonna do to well Well there are ways to improve your looks naturally. You can improve your body language, work out, find out more about yourself and what kinda style you like. Try and make this as unconscious a change as possible. Learn to speak better, improve your vernacular, your voice tone and expression. Find interests that you love and integrate them into your goals for the future, and what you want to do in life. These are things that will help you. I have started to do all of these things and am still in the process of doing them. As a result, I have a much more positive outlook on life and am progressing well. I am sure the same will happen for you.
SteveC80 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 As a man who in his younger days enjoyed the fruits of being so called good looking and seeing how women reacted to me compared to my plainer friend i dont find this surprising one bit Not just hot ones either,ive seen this attitude by women who to be nice were not attractive Dont know where this sense of entitlement comes from
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 The girls who do that are not ones you want to be talking to anyways! Honestly, my three best friends are all gorgeous and it doesn't matter who approaches them, they would at least be kind enough to chat and take the time to say hi to anyone. And wouldn't make them feel stupid for trying. They'd say something about having a boyfriend, but they wouldn't just mumble and walk away. That is rude. I wouldn't dwell on it. The only time I do that is when a guy at, like, a gas station approaches me and it makes me nervous and uncomfortable. But at a place like a bar, when other people are around? That's just being stuck up.
shorty7 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 To be fair, I'd react similarly to the woman the OP posted simply because: 1) I'm not used to guys coming up and randomly talking to me 2) Did you introduce yourself? I don't know about you (or her), but to me it's rude to ask for someone's name without introducing yourself first 3) Are you asking intriguing, open-ended questions to start a conversation or asking me something that really doesn't matter in the situation? If you're asking dumb questions, and I'm feeling uncomfortable and I can smell the insecurity (as other people put it) and I was not in a mood of entertaining others, I might be answering one-word responses too. I'm not trying to be discouraging, AD, so please don't take it the wrong way; but I've been in her shoes and it isn't exactly comfortable for her either. My example/ similar situation is the awkward guy coming up to strike a conversation and here's the first line: "So, you into video games?" Just to paint a picture, I'm short, petite, and Asian. I was in Vegas celebrating my birthday with a girlfriend and company, and he *happened* to be attending a video game convention/tournament or something that was in the area, which I had no clue about. He was probably able to tell my race from what he knows from his media exposure, but still. You have to agree with me there's really not much I can respond to with an opening line like that. I ended up being rude and closed off to get rid of him because I was already ticked that he'd made the deduction that: a) I look Japanese (which he is right, but approaching someone due to race isn't what girls like to hear), and b) all Japanese are into video games (assume something about me and then insult my ancestral culture, ooh, big no no), there fore, c) I would be interested in holding a conversation opener like that (I was already ticked at him at a) and b), he was lucky I actually knew what I was talking about when responding to his questions surrounding video games and comic book characters albeit I was being very harsh and rude). Like someone else said, when you bring in assumptions about someone else, you already risk walking over a mine. Try with some open-ended questions next time. Or perhaps find a buddy to be your wing-man. The guy who'd unashamedly publicly get drunk and sing at an open mic so you can maybe start a conversation with the gal. At least in that scenario you aren't making assumptions about her, you're just striking up a conversation about something that's going around the both of you. I honestly can't recall what face I made to the awkward geek boy, so I can't say anything about the woman who responds with "how dare you invade my space" look, but if you approached her with a genuine smile and made an effort to make an engaging conversation, then maybe she really was being a bithc. *shrugs* Please don't be discouraged, better luck next time. 1
Els Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 So she was uninterested and not terribly polite or subtle about it. That's her failing, not yours. Next. I'm curious about the sort of woman you're approaching when you claim this 'constantly' happens though. Are you by any chance approaching the 'hottest' woman in the room, as so many guys are wont to do? It's your prerogative, but really, you guys collectively teach them how they treat you. If a woman has hordes of guys consistently approaching her everywhere, she soon begins to find it a bother, and learns that she can get away with whatever behaviour she wants, because they'll still come.
Author AD1980 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 To be fair, I'd react similarly to the woman the OP posted simply because: 1) I'm not used to guys coming up and randomly talking to me 2) Did you introduce yourself? I don't know about you (or her), but to me it's rude to ask for someone's name without introducing yourself first 3) Are you asking intriguing, open-ended questions to start a conversation or asking me something that really doesn't matter in the situation? If you're asking dumb questions, and I'm feeling uncomfortable and I can smell the insecurity (as other people put it) and I was not in a mood of entertaining others, I might be answering one-word responses too. I'm not trying to be discouraging, AD, so please don't take it the wrong way; but I've been in her shoes and it isn't exactly comfortable for her either. My example/ similar situation is the awkward guy coming up to strike a conversation and here's the first line: "So, you into video games?" Just to paint a picture, I'm short, petite, and Asian. I was in Vegas celebrating my birthday with a girlfriend and company, and he *happened* to be attending a video game convention/tournament or something that was in the area, which I had no clue about. He was probably able to tell my race from what he knows from his media exposure, but still. You have to agree with me there's really not much I can respond to with an opening line like that. I ended up being rude and closed off to get rid of him because I was already ticked that he'd made the deduction that: a) I look Japanese (which he is right, but approaching someone due to race isn't what girls like to hear), and b) all Japanese are into video games (assume something about me and then insult my ancestral culture, ooh, big no no), there fore, c) I would be interested in holding a conversation opener like that (I was already ticked at him at a) and b), he was lucky I actually knew what I was talking about when responding to his questions surrounding video games and comic book characters albeit I was being very harsh and rude). Like someone else said, when you bring in assumptions about someone else, you already risk walking over a mine. Try with some open-ended questions next time. Or perhaps find a buddy to be your wing-man. The guy who'd unashamedly publicly get drunk and sing at an open mic so you can maybe start a conversation with the gal. At least in that scenario you aren't making assumptions about her, you're just striking up a conversation about something that's going around the both of you. I honestly can't recall what face I made to the awkward geek boy, so I can't say anything about the woman who responds with "how dare you invade my space" look, but if you approached her with a genuine smile and made an effort to make an engaging conversation, then maybe she really was being a bithc. *shrugs* Please don't be discouraged, better luck next time. AS i said i dont think i came off overly agressive or predatorial im pretty laid back and didnt say anyything right away when she firts got there until she was rigth next to me not talking to anyone so i figured why not try to start a convo inroduce myself since its my freinds new girls friend and see if it leads anywhere
Author AD1980 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 (edited) So she was uninterested and not terribly polite or subtle about it. That's her failing, not yours. Next. I'm curious about the sort of woman you're approaching when you claim this 'constantly' happens though. Are you by any chance approaching the 'hottest' woman in the room, as so many guys are wont to do? It's your prerogative, but really, you guys collectively teach them how they treat you. If a woman has hordes of guys consistently approaching her everywhere, she soon begins to find it a bother, and learns that she can get away with whatever behaviour she wants, because they'll still come. Not really..i mean im not gonna hit on a women im not attracted to but at the same time this women was not a beauty not ugly decent looking i guess Edited March 21, 2012 by AD1980
counterman Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Don't take it too personally -- it's not a reflection on you as a person. I would agree though if your friend had introduced you, the reaction probably would have been different. I was once introduced to this girl in my class by my friend. Bare in mind, I was not trying to hit on her; I was just merely making an acquaintance, as you do with new classmates. When I spoke to her, she had this look on her face like she was harassed. She folded her arms and gave this look of disgust. Everytime she answered a question, it was very dismissive. There was absolutely no reason for her to be so cold but she has every right not to talk to me if she doesn't want to. So I left it at that. You would think she would have been nicer since I'm a friend of her friends and I'll be taking classes with her, but no. Anyways, I've seen her here and there from time to time and we never ever talk. However, that's not the norm, in my experience. Just a few isolated incidents. Don't let it stop you from approaching other women
Plump Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 If i come up to a human female and she is being mean to me for no reason, I slap her across her whorish mouth. I also make sure there are no "Captain save a ho" around. Dumb bitches should show respect and know there place, in Man's world!
SteveC80 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm just going to elaborate just to make sure you know what I mean...because I by no means think you are the aggressive type...however remember she doesn't know what you're all about. And you may lack the self-awareness, that might be putting you off to women. Make sure you recognize your body language when you come up to a girl...how do you think you look? do you look semi-confident (head down, hands in pocket, cheesy smile)? do you look-too obvious (giving her a look for 30 minutes like you're thinking about doing it then finally go over)? do you stare at her like a surprised squirrel as you make the mr roboto b line to her? What you want to do is casually and gracefully make conversation with a woman..you do not need to necessarily introduce yourself or be formal about it. This can eliminate that "cold approach" and fly under the radar appearing to just be making friendly conversation. When you cold approach a woman she has to determine in five seconds...your level of attractiveness, your confidence level, the way you dress, and the overall vibe you're giving off. Not to mention like I said that she's in a bar which means she has the wall up. Do you know how many guys get shot down? It's not just you. Granted, she was a friend and like Fit Chick said, you should have been introduced however If you're not you've gotta be able to either introduce yourself or make small casual talk without looking like you're trying. Maybe you're not the best looking guy, you think women only end up with men they are initially attracted to?...If anything you're lucky to be a man because women can become attracted to you after getting to know more about you. However don't overdo the sweetheart and gentlemen thing too much, you're not in the middle ages and you're not courting a young princess in the royal court. Relax, be yourself, be confident in yourself and don't kiss the floor they walk on or treat them like innocent doves, be assertive, not aggressive, polite but not overly nice, confident yet not arrogant, and have a backbone, know your worth and what you have to offer, don't try and prove it to a girl, you don't have to try so hard. You're giving him too much to think about while hes approaching women and hes probably ovranalyzing approaching women as is Women arent that difficult if shes attracted to you then you just have to not **** it up if she isnt then move on For the people saying he might have been too agressive thats also bs if a women is attracted you cant be agressive enough Bottom line is he just has to run into a women whos attracted to him which may take hundreeds of women
Author AD1980 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Thanks for some of the advice guys..i guess im just a sensitive person in general whter it be a wome nnot attracted ot me or people just liking or not liking me in general i get a little overly sensitive Wish i didnt care so much
chelle21689 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Yeah, I agree with some people that if she was nice and engaging in conversation that would give you the wrong signal. I've made that mistake before, talking to someone and they think they have a chance... Better to act not interested and let them know. It's all in the body language... at least she didn't insult you or say anything mean.
SJC2008 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 You don't have to conversate with someone if you don't want to but there are ways to end one without being a beeyatch. A mature adult would throw out a quick "We'll I'm gonna get back to my friends" or "Ok gotta run now". Also if you don't mind conversating platonically you can bring up the bf casually like Veggirl said. It used to piss me off but now I understand and appreciate it because it gives me the SIGN I need. Some woman are cold, as are men, but these "some" woman need to respect that the man has to put himself out there if he ever wants a gf while the woman can just say next because there will be another one along shortly. I don't ever want a woman to humor me or go out with me to not hurt my feelings and there are some women who have done things like that. Mu uncles first wife "allegedly" accepted his marriage proposal because she felt sorry for him???. It all boils down to attraction. If a guy is super hot the playing field is automatically level if not skewed toward him and then she'll be the one in thiking mode so it goes both ways. I was more aggressive with the last girl I dated because I wasn't really attracted to me and she liked me. I walked on eggshells with the most recent one and she sniffed me out.
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