you think you know someone after 5 years but maybe you really dont??

[rd1978]

its it funny how you think after 5 years you know someone,,, yeah we had our ups and downs , its wads bolth our first love,, we needed to grown up,, we needed to respect each other more, because we got comfortable,, no one is perfect its all part of a learning experience,,, but we had love for each other,,, ill admit i always had the upper hand and sometimes wasnt fair,, but she was the same way to sometimes,, but it drove me to be more unfair because of the whining and childish bitching,,,

 

it kills me ,, a girl i told secrets to that i wouldnt want anyone else to know,, thigns i did with her behind closed door's etc. etc. someone you felt you could trust...etc.. {you know what im getting at} Then 1 day she decides she wants to be single and not tied down... ok so she is walking away,,,, i tried to work things out,, i didnt try all that hard,,, im not all about begging,,, thats it,,, a girl that was jelious of everything about me and my friends,,,

 

so i see her out 1 week later at a local bar club,, holding hands with this guy that she had been talking to when we were toghthor,, she admitted this to me and i had a girlt hat was calling em aslo that i told her about,,, i wasnt looking for anything,, i think she really liked the fact that this other guy was giving her all the attention and wanted to be with her,, so he says,,, SO she is holding hands and hugging him right in front of me,, w/t/f she was with some of her sloppy friends,,, this 6'2 skinny inverted chest 165lb deusch bag with white plastic sneakers and a long skinny face with cheekbones popping out and a weird chin,, i couldnt help but laugh ,, i was expecting some muscle bound good looking stud,, that made me feel better anyway but she was parading around the place with this kid like it was her prize,, she was purposly doing this to piss me off ,, now this girl can be nieve and has absolutly no street smarts ,,,, so then she has the nerve to call me crying the whole next week saying i dont know what i want i thaught i liked him etc etc.. so me being stupid told her i wanted to workthings out and that set her off,, she put the cape on and became superwomen,,, THENhas the balls to say i didnt do anything wrong ,, we arent togethor ,, i said your right but there is this thing called respect ,, and she just blew it off like whatever,,, i could totally understand this scenario if i broke up with her she would want to make me be like ah look what you lost,, now i was alwas the 1 to go out she was like i partied in college blah blah ,, so now every place i would normally go,, she is freaking there on the same night with this crack head,,,so ive been laying low and doing other stuff rather than going to those places,,

 

NOW if i do show up with a girl she will probally just about lose it,, she doesnt have this context of reality right now,, she's got this guy to fill that void, that say and acts like he wants to be with her,, how much she really like him who knows,, i just think its something different,,,and new,,she is only fooling herself,, she hasnt givn herself anytime to get over me ,, she couldnt because her only way to do it was to hang out with this guy , and she thinks she could probally have me back,,, alhtough i havent been awnsering any of her phone calls,,, she needs a reality check,, has anyone had something alon the lines of this happen to you??

[Confused123]

I was with my last boyfriend for five years.. It is a long time to be with someone, we meant in college and dated all through and then a few years after. I mean him when I was 20 and broke up with i was 25.. We were actually engaged to be married... SO, I understand your pain and your confusion.. It is amazing how someone can be your whole world and in five years you share alot of experiences with that person... I was the one in the end who walked out the door, but he was the one who ended it.... He was having a emotional relationship with an older women at work.. He wa shaving dinner at ehre house after work, with her KIDS to boot. She was 40 yeats old.. I was floored and it was a long process, but I finally moved out, canelled the wedding and moved the fuc& on.

 

This girl sound very immature. Clearly, she is mature enough to handle a relationship that is so serious. Out of all of the time we were back and forth, I never even spoke to another man. I never even wanted to.. not until I moved out and after I gave him another chance did I move on... SOunds like you need to move on and not answer your phone... This girl will be back, after her rebound fails, but be strong and stand your ground. Cause, if she turly loved you she wouldn't even consider behaving this way... My ex called me about 7 months after we broke up, he found out I was seeing someone new. He left me the nasty, meaniest message in the world. I am not sure who he turned out being, but I am sure glad I am not with him anymore... People need to feel the consequences to their actions, I believe you should let her feel them.. Hang in there, I understand how hard it can be, but it gets better

[rd1978]

well here is the thing,, in didnt give it my all,, i wasnt fair to her,,, i didnt treat her like a true girlfriend,,, holding hands ,, showing affection,, etc. etc. making love ,,,not just getting right down to it,,, you know what i mean ?,,, part of me feels i did it because it was my first real relationship and i was curious about other things ,, but couldnt break it off because i didnt want to lose my first love,,, which isnt fair,,,, But its also not fair if she is calling me either,,, now the deal with this guy...... ok i dont know if they are "togethor" but i do know they hung out quite often, i believe,, when i refused to take her calls and what not,, and it was almost like she was hoping to run into me with him,, ,, ITs really wierd its almost like i was forcing her to hang out with him,, as stupid as it sounds,{believe me it sounds stupid} But thats how it was she was treating it as i broke up with her..... so she was trying to contact me ever so often but i didnt awnser or respond,, i finally did and now its been 4 days and for the past 4 days she has called ,, and yesterday 2 times i was awnsering the calls but last night i did not,, have to leave something for the imagination ...... but she was calling every morning because she knew where id be at that time,,, soooo i decided i will let this go for a week or 2 of talking like this,, and if nothing comes out of it or i happen to see her out with that guy ,, then she knws i will not awnser any more calls,,, dont get me wrong im moving on ,, and i always thaught that if i could find someone else id be gone,,, her thinking was i didnt put in the time and effort so she didnt think i ever would,,, But now im ready whether it be with her or someon else.... she cant let me go ,, i know she cant ,, she went nuts for 2 weeks and now she is back to nromal and thinking about me,,, but tis not fair i refuse to get dragged around she is going to be the one hurting int he end , for her quick acting mistakes