SJC2008 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 long story short I was 99% sure she was flaking so I went to 3 strikes and your out. Asked her out last mon for tues and she texed saying shell be back mon. So friday I texted her that I can do this tues agian and she said she'd let me know mon due to a new job ans shced. She did not get back to me yesterday so I was done, never would of called her again. But this morning she texts me "Hi xxx! did you still want to get together today?" I asked her how bad the weather was on her side of town and she said so so, so I told her get back to me in a couple of hours and we'll go from there. So she does and said it's raining and I said I don't want to force anything due to weather but It's fine where I'm at (shed have to drive through my part to get to our date) so let's do it. She then said she had things to do and blah blah blah. I was DONE yesterday when she didn't respond and let her flake but she contacts me this morning. Why would she do this? I never would of called her again.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 I let her have it to afterward (like a gentleman). That may have been her goal. Who knows?
thatone Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 attention is attention. she's getting it for free. you met this girl online? seen her in person yet? if not, i'm betting on the obvious... 1
sid3 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I let her have it to afterward (like a gentleman). That may have been her goal. Who knows? She does. You shouldn't of called her back. Letting her have it seems a bit much.
Feelsgoodman Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 long story short I was 99% sure she was flaking so I went to 3 strikes and your out. Asked her out last mon for tues and she texed saying shell be back mon. So friday I texted her that I can do this tues agian and she said she'd let me know mon due to a new job ans shced. She did not get back to me yesterday so I was done, never would of called her again. But this morning she texts me "Hi xxx! did you still want to get together today?" I asked her how bad the weather was on her side of town and she said so so, so I told her get back to me in a couple of hours and we'll go from there. So she does and said it's raining and I said I don't want to force anything due to weather but It's fine where I'm at (shed have to drive through my part to get to our date) so let's do it. She then said she had things to do and blah blah blah. I was DONE yesterday when she didn't respond and let her flake but she contacts me this morning. Why would she do this? I never would of called her again. Obviously she enjoys messing with you. Some women are like that. Your rule should be one strike and you're out, not three strikes.
TheFinalWord Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 long story short I was 99% sure she was flaking so I went to 3 strikes and your out. Asked her out last mon for tues and she texed saying shell be back mon. So friday I texted her that I can do this tues agian and she said she'd let me know mon due to a new job ans shced. She did not get back to me yesterday so I was done, never would of called her again. But this morning she texts me "Hi xxx! did you still want to get together today?" I asked her how bad the weather was on her side of town and she said so so, so I told her get back to me in a couple of hours and we'll go from there. So she does and said it's raining and I said I don't want to force anything due to weather but It's fine where I'm at (shed have to drive through my part to get to our date) so let's do it. She then said she had things to do and blah blah blah. I was DONE yesterday when she didn't respond and let her flake but she contacts me this morning. Why would she do this? I never would of called her again. Who knows, but it seems like too much work to set up a date. Here is what you do next time: Don't text, pick up the phone, say "I would like to take you out Friday night", if she says "I can't" say, Okay I'll try next week. Try again a week later with solid plans. If she gives an excuse, be done with it. Leave it at that. Texting 15 times about changing days, weather, too much confusion. You seem wishy washy. You're the man, take charge, i.e. "we're doing this on this day at this time" End of story. If I was her, I would have given you one strike your out when you asked me out over text. And pick her up if weather is a concern. Or meet her where she's at. You're the man, you want her to feel safe. Don't make her drive through a hurricane to see you. You're too much work bro! 1
Author SJC2008 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 @Thefinalword: You usually give good advice but on this one I totally disagree with you. I was not wishy washy, she was and I should of left it alone sooner. I texted her with solid plans, place time etc (she's almost impossible to get by phone) on friday and she told me the same day she'd let me know monday after she went to work and checked her sched. So then mon comes and goes and she texts me in the am today. It's raining so I tell her get back to me in a couple of hours. Should I have offered to pick her up? I don't think so, this is the same woman who declined that for date 3. I did offer for her to meet me at my place and take my car after a few texts. I don't need a woman testing my sack, I need a woman who wants to get to know me. The only thing I agree with you on is mabye I should of switched it to her area but like I said she was already flaking so I have no idea what it would of taken.
CC12 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 It's raining so I tell her get back to me in a couple of hours. I don't know about her prior flakiness, but in this case she tried to make plans with you and you brushed her off with a lame excuse. So you can't really be too upset with her for making other plans after that. I think you tried to play some weird game where you didn't want to seem too available or something and it backfired. If you really wanted to see her you would have made it happen, and the same goes for her. On to the next one.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Thanks for the input but it really was raining hard. Mabye I should of told her I'd get ack to her in a couple hours instead of putting it on her but I was already walking on eggshells with this one so eff it. This is also the same one who never initiated contact. I just want to meet someone who wants to get to know me. I don't believe in tests and stuff but if these were tests I know how to pass next time that's for sure. I think she did like me but sniffed me out (lack of exp) and and resorted to testing and I failed. I feel bad because I really did like her. I know this because the last girl stopped dating me and I didn't care.
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