I found a post my boyfriend wrote in a relationships forum

[itsallaboutme]

We broke up in January and got back together around Feb14th. We were both seeing other people while we were apart, and while I was fine just seeing him casually, because we didn't think we were really ready to jump back into a relationship again, and I was afraid he hadn't experimented enough with others, but he said he had and he couldn't take seeing other people he thought it wasn't a good idea to continue to do so while deciding what was hapenning between us, so he asked me to end it with the guy I was seeing, cause he had ended it with his fling.

From that point on, it was pretty clear to me that we were together again.

 

Two weeks ago, while browsing my favorite forum website, in the relationships category(wich he knows I'm subscribed to), I came across a post I found oddly familiar. My heart stopped, I realised he had wrote it an hour earlier.

 

It talked about the fact that we were seeing other people while apart, and that he originally broke up with me because he felt like he would be missing out on experiences with other people if he stayed with me. That he stilll loves me alot and that HE was the one who wanted to get back together and make it right this time, but that the feeling that he had before had come back, that his biggest fear is that he'll regret down the road not experiencing life with other people, I've been his only girlfriend for 1.5 years.

 

I don't want a relationship with anyone else but her, I just want to bang other girls because I'm insecure about myself. I feel like I'm afraid to let her go in case I never get her back. If I don't do it this feeling of missing out will constantly be with me forever. I just need a little guidance.

 

I feel guilty for keeping this in and not talking to him about it, cause before getting back together I told him I'd be honest and tell him when I'd feel insecure or whatever.

Should I be at peace with this, be the bigger person, and let him go? Because I do love him and I should do what would make him happy?

If I end it, should I mention it's because I've seen the post? I feel that if I do, it will defeat the purpose and he'd feel guilty about it and it wouldn't arrange anything.

Or should I just let it go and hope that if I put more effort into showing him how devoted I am to him, the feeling of wanting bang other chicks will fade away?

 

I'm afraid I'll be taken on another walk around the block, I can't take this emotional rollercoaster anymore. aaaand,

I just want him to be happyBULLS*!@# I WANT TO WRING HIS NECK

 

PLEASE HELP ME!

Edited March 20, 2012 by itsallaboutme

[Chi townD]

I take it the two of you are very young. I wouldn't suggest that you keep this relationship deal going if I were you. If he or you can't be exclusive, then it's better to part ways have have experiences with other people rather than string each other along. This kind of friend with benefits arraingment that you were having usually ends up with someone hurt by the end of it.

 

And here's what the two of you need to do is COMMUNICATE!!! Talk to each other than reading each others posts. Figure out what the two of you want and then decide if you come to a happy median or if you two can't agree, then maybe it's time to part ways.

[whichwayisup]

Join up as someone else and reply to his post. Or, post under your username (I assume he knows your username on that other forum) and tell him how you feel about what he said.

[CC12]

If he posted that to a forum he knows that you read and he gave enough identifying details that you were able to figure out it was written by him, I can pretty confidently say that he wanted you to see it.

 

I don't know if that means he wants you to be the bad guy and break up with him, or if he's prepping you for when he breaks up with you, or something else. I think you should talk to him about seeing his post before you make any decisions.