Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 I hear you loud and clear. I would love to go back to High School with what I know now and do it all over again. No reason to not go for younger girls. Have you actually been saying no to them? I'm 30 and willing to go as low as, hell there is no bottom as long as she's legal. If some cute 19 year old girl was into me I'm hardly going to say no to her. As for starting from scratch, both you and I need to place ourselves in situations where interacting with women is a regular and frequent experience. What those are exactly, I don't really know. No I haven't been turning down younger girls (well except one time a 17 year old a couple years ago). Anyway yeah I guess we just need to be put in places where women are but we also have to have assertiveness in interacting with them.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Jobs take the meaning you give them. Doing honest work is always worthwhile IMO -- and it doesn't have to be forever. When you decide what you really WANT to do, then I say go for that, whatever it takes, but you might as well do SOMETHING in the meantime. I was thinking maybe I should do a bunch of volunteering. I mean that's something. What I'm really concerned about is the fact that I'm going nuts without any female interaction. If I could put a finger on what I'm really preoccupied with, it's that. I'm not into going the prostitution route, but I really would consider paying someone to kiss me. No sex, just a simple kiss. I think then I'd be able to concentrate. What's your useless degree btw? I didn't see it, if it was in the thread. Religious Studies. I explained it earlier in the thread.
FitChick Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 The government is desperate for Arabic translators. Then you could meet a Muslim girl who is a virgin who wouldn't care that you were one, too.
somedude81 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 What I'm really concerned about is the fact that I'm going nuts without any female interaction. If I could put a finger on what I'm really preoccupied with, it's that. I made a thread about that a few weeks ago. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/317607-importance-opposite-sex-attention-energy It's been a long time since I actually spent time with a girl and it's making me feel like crap. I'm not into going the prostitution route, but I really would consider paying someone to kiss me. No sex, just a simple kiss. I think then I'd be able to concentrate. I have no idea how many years since I kissed somebody. I don't think it's something you'd want to pay somebody for. A real kiss is very intimate
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 The government is desperate for Arabic translators. Then you could meet a Muslim girl who is a virgin who wouldn't care that you were one, too. I tried to date a Muslim girl once (maybe we were dating I don't know) and her rejection/game playing drove me insane and took me months to get over (maybe I'm still not over). I don't know if I'd go that route again unless it was a very independent Muslim girl.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 I made a thread about that a few weeks ago. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/317607-importance-opposite-sex-attention-energy It's been a long time since I actually spent time with a girl and it's making me feel like crap. I have no idea how many years since I kissed somebody. I don't think it's something you'd want to pay somebody for. A real kiss is very intimate Yeah that's generally it. Not spending time with any woman you're attracted and/or interested in. As far as the kissing thing, I just want to get the mechanics of it down so that when I'm actually with some girl I like, kissing isn't awkward and weird. I'm not 16, my first kiss is no longer going to be "special" or whatever it was going to be. It needs to be routine.
somedude81 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Yeah that's generally it. Not spending time with any woman you're attracted and/or interested in. As far as the kissing thing, I just want to get the mechanics of it down so that when I'm actually with some girl I like, kissing isn't awkward and weird. I'm not 16, my first kiss is no longer going to be "special" or whatever it was going to be. It needs to be routine. You may be surprised to know, that many people think that first kisses with a new person are often awkward and weird.
Lobouspo Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 IME.....Being alone beats being in a shi#ty relationship.. not even close....to each his own i guess!
Nightsky Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 No offense bro, but if your reason for doing ANYTHING is to "get girls", you're going to crash and burn. Perhaps a better first step for you is identifying what kind of traits you'd look for in a job (location, commute, pay, benefits, type of work, sense of team or community, etc.) and go from there. The sad fact of life is that MANY (most?) undergraduate degrees are at a point in this economy where simply having said degree is not a guarantee of a job. That doesn't mean your degree is worthless, but you should be thinking along the lines of 1) what do you want out of your job/life and 2) what are the prerequisites. Being able to market your current skillset may be inadequate by itself, so be prepared to seek further education or training. This thread big and I only read the first page but I want to build on this idea. Don't do things just to get girls... Its complicated actualy. Holds a lot of truth but let me explain. Getting girls is very important to a man like me. Thing is I get them on my terms. For example say you want to be a bad ass rocker to yes get girls and be awsome that is cool. That is you following your heart... But if on the other hand you want to get girls by playing music you arn't into just because you think girls will like you... thats lame. You need to be going after girls but you need to be doing it shamelessly under your way. A religions degree isn't useless. I mean technicaly all degrees are useless. You don't need to have a science degree to be the guy who invented TV's... You don't need to be a computer scientist to be the guy who pretty much inveted all the most popular computer things from the way macs are to shtty old facebook and the entier windows PC concept... You see what I'm saying. It's just something you put on your resume and then you go into what ever fanciful experience you may have. Then if you pull out you metophoricly rape the interview your in. Its just some ****y job. Your main goal should be something greating. Like quiting that job and working for yourself. Baby steps... oh yes baby steps. Finaly I find getting girls to like you is hig.. to be continued.
somedude81 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 IME.....Being alone beats being in a shi#ty relationship.. not even close....to each his own i guess! Define a shltty relationship. Am I having sex at least twice a month?
Nightsky Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Now I read the rest of this thread. More thoughts! Now I feel even more depressed. Honestly, I want to do the business that my friend wants to do (media company). It would be perfect. I'd get to do something I like and would be passionate about. But, I'm afraid we'll fail horribly and it will have ended up being a waste of time. Other than doing that, I literally have no idea what I want to do with my life. So before I invest in more education or training I want to figure that part out. So, should I follow my fears or my passions? (rhetorical question, no one has to answer that). So you're having the same problem with career as you are with women. No suprise there. Look start the media company with your friend and take it day by day. Life is a journey. You learn more from your failures then your winnings. Education is some what of a scam. Education is really the most important powerful thing in this world. The scam part is the ammount of money it costs to get a degree which is basicly a resume place holder. If your lifes dream isn't to be a Lawyer or Doctor or other degree required field I'd recomend holding off and just starting your media company taking it day by day. Have fun whether it fails or not same goes for women. I feel like if I take a job at Walmart or wherever, women will just dismiss me as a loser with a dead-end job. And since I have enough savings to live off of, it's not like I need the money right now. I hate being an adult. Being an adult is awsome. You just have to realize that you can get just as excited about stuff as you were as a child. Except now no one can stop you as easily. Don't just take a walmart or other lame job just so you can be like "look at me I have job just like society wants me to." If you're in a place where you can volunteer with things you're pasionate about and try starting a business that may fail but is your passion then do it! The time is now. Make some plans tonight. Make some calls start doing things. You got it. Someone with a job at Wal-Mart who's figuring things out is certainly no more "loser"ish and sad than someone with NO JOB who's figuring things out now. I think the important thing to keep in mind is that some one who girls think is loserish is no more a loser then a guy girls steriotypicaly think of as it. At least right now he's got lots of free time. Free times great. He's to afraid of the uncertainty of the future to enjoy it though. He's ashamed for no reason. He has a slight idea of what he wants to do which is more direction then most people have but he's afraid to try with girls or life because of risk of failure. But failure breeds sucess. True. But would I really be any happier? The reason I left my last job is that it felt meaningless. I hated it. They probably would have made me part of management if I stayed (I had repeatedly rejected offers of promotion). But I guess you're right. I just have to hope Walmart would want to hire me. You believe in Liberty and you're going to work for the anti christ itself China Mart... cmon man. Start that media company and volunteer for a big media company. Learn the ropes from them steal what you know haha. Live a life you want to live. I hear you loud and clear. I would love to go back to High School with what I know now and do it all over again. You could become a teacher then! haha I hope you laughed. No seriously you don't need to go back. This entire feeling of being inexperienced is all in your head. You just need to go after girls for you and not worry so much about if they like you. Be less result oriented more experience oriented. Start respecting yourself more as its the only way to respect others. As for starting from scratch' date=' both you and I need to place ourselves in situations where interacting with women is a regular and frequent experience. What those are exactly, I don't really know. [/quote'] Women are every where, and you're in college. You're not looking for regular interaction with unicorns. You got this. I was thinking maybe I should do a bunch of volunteering. I mean that's something. What I'm really concerned about is the fact that I'm going nuts without any female interaction. If I could put a finger on what I'm really preoccupied with, it's that. I'm not into going the prostitution route, but I really would consider paying someone to kiss me. No sex, just a simple kiss. I think then I'd be able to concentrate. Religious Studies. I explained it earlier in the thread. Just go to a night club and kiss a girl out on the dance floor. DO NOT PAY A GIRL TO KISS YOU>.. If you break the physical barrier with out paying you'll see its not all that. Yes go volunteer. Go pet dogs once a weekend at the animal shelter. There will be mostly girls. Run some 5k's. Volunteer at a non profit you are interested in.
jobaba Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 So here I am, I suppose. I don't have much of a social circle, and zero prospects for dates. Since it's been over a year since I last went on a date, I'd like to go on one reasonably soon (like not wait another year). So, since I'm starting literally from scratch, I'd like some ideas on how to maybe get some dates maybe even date someone seriously. I don't feel quite confident enough to hit on bank tellers or girls in the grocery store so if there's a way around doing those things, I'd like to hear them. There's so many ways to meet people if you desire ... I can't even count. -Volunteering -Meetups -School -Work -Alumni events -Dance and food and art classes Having a social circle has never been a BIG problem for me although I'm not Mr. Popularity either. I definitely think that's a great step for you though. Expand your social circle.
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